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(@kapt)
Estimable Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

When you're dressed and the time comes, do you stand or sit? I stand lol

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@kapt Women always sit. Just saying.

Also, when standing, we splash all over the place and even droplets can hang in the air. Totally unsanitary, and pretty rude if you do that in somebody else's house, too. 😉

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Lady
(@leslienix)
Joined: 7 months ago

Reputable Member     Southport, Merseyside, United Kingdom
Posts: 170

@harriette shewee.com/how-to-use

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@leslienix Yes, I am aware of those.

Kind of counterproductive, don't you think, when using a toilet in a women's washroom when trying to not draw attention to ourselves.

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Lady
(@leslienix)
Joined: 7 months ago

Reputable Member     Southport, Merseyside, United Kingdom
Posts: 170

@harriette Women always sit. Just saying.

No, these are made for women to stand

popular at the Glastonbury festival in the 90's so women didn't have to sit on disgusting portable toilets...Just saying

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@leslienix Yes, I understand the reason for them to exist, but crossdressers don't need them.

The point being made is that for us to stand in front of a toilet in a normal women's washroom is not cool under any circumstances. It's bad enough when men do it in a men's public washroom or at home.

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Duchess Annual
(@emmat)
Joined: 9 months ago

Prominent Member     I don't do cities ;-), Powys, United Kingdom
Posts: 334

@leslienix 

... and  my wife was one of them. Yes, they worked. But as you say, women will always sit. 

It would be nice if more men sat too, unisex loos would stay a lot cleaner for longer.

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Managing Ambassador
(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3855

@kapt 

In the ladies room I always sit.  It's more sanitary and it's respectful of women's spaces.

/LK

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@lizk Can you imagine the thoughts going through the heads of other women hearing that noise in a women's washroom? WTH? 🫣

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Managing Ambassador
(@lizk)
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Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
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@harriette 

Not good thoughts that's for sure.  Any respect you might've had is gone in an instant. 

/LK

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(@katherineboesemann)
Joined: 5 years ago

Reputable Member     Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa
Posts: 192

@kapt When en femme, I always sit without giving it a second thought.

It's easier to hold your dress or skirt out of harm's way (and even if wearing my paperbag pants or similar, I sit down so that I can dab myself properly dry before pulling up my panties again).

Over the years I have observed countless women doing it this way (mother, aunts, girlfriends, wife, then again girlfriends).

When dressed, I am one of them.

 

Love,

Katherine

 

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Baroness
(@sienna106)
Joined: 10 months ago

Estimable Member     Manchester, GreaterManchester, United Kingdom
Posts: 66

@kapt - Always sit drab or otherwise, as I suffer from essential tremour, (my hands shake) and I don't want to splash or dribble on the floor, and why a man thinks it's ok to do just that is beyond me.

On a lighter note, I don't get any complaints about leaving the seat up  🙂

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(@charlenecd62)
Joined: 2 years ago

Trusted Member     North Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 20

@kapt most of the time sit. I started sitting while dressed but started awhile back even dressed. There are a few exceptions such if I’m out hiking but for the most point I try and sit as ladylike as possible.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@kapt 

How about you your self Rikki,  Do you Stand or Set  Gurl ????

En femme ????

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Lady
(@kapt)
Joined: 5 months ago

Estimable Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 69

@stephanieann I do both. Depends on the situation

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(@cdashley)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1488

@kapt Always sit when dressed.

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1205

@kapt I always sit now whether I'm dressed or not.  It just makes the process cleaner and easier to control.

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Posts: 2157

@kapt The only time I stand is when I am in the shower.  Otherwise I sit EVERYTIME. 

Cassie 

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(@katiep)
Joined: 3 months ago

Reputable Member     Nottinghamshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 142

@kapt Always sit whilst dressed and occasionally whilst in drab mode. Fair more hygienic.

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Duchess
(@mkat3874)
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Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 218

@kapt 

Only sitting for me.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@mkat3874 

    That's the best way ,  perfect ,  like a  lady , Only Sitting .

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(@carloscloset)
Joined: 3 months ago

Estimable Member     Colorado, United States of America
Posts: 111

@kapt TBH, it depends on the circumstance.  If I get up in the middle of the night I will sit (I usually sleep in male PJs with my wife) because I have been known to have problems with aiming while alseep (I know, TMI).

When I'm dressed it is a 50/50 chance.

One thing I love is the contrast of feminine clothes on my masculine body.  Standing definitively falls in this category.

Having said that, sitting down feels so gender defying .. specially if I'm not dressed in anything sexy

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Lady
(@sunnyday)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Oxford, Oxfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 139

@kapt - sit. So much easier to get everything out of the way. Also, why waste a valuable thinking opportunity?

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Baroness Annual
(@girlyboy9020)
Joined: 1 month ago

Estimable Member     Maryland, United States of America
Posts: 94

@kapt I am a lady, thus I always sit even if just to pee!! Plus it’s more comfortable and I don’t have to worry about aiming properly! I even get more time to think while sitting and gather my thoughts, why rush when you don’t have to?

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1133

@kapt 

 1. When in the cubicle. I lift up the seat.2. I then face the door. 3. Make ready. 4. Squat and use my free hand to aim. 5. Do the paperwork. 6. Redress. 7. Put seat down and flush. 8. Gather up my belongings and go wash up. 

 Fran 🥰 

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(@caroline2k)
Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Sit.

It's not really a choice so much as a necessity when I'm  tucked, which is (almost) always when dressed.

Also being in heels makes you so much taller and the toilet bowl looks smaller from up there 😉

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Lady
(@kapt)
Joined: 5 months ago

Estimable Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 69

@caroline2k I don't tuck, but you're right. It's a long way's away!!!

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@caroline2k I always tuck, too, but I don't normally tape, so life is good.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@harriette 

    Taping +/ -  works well,  nice & smooth,   but does make hard to go pee tinkle,  and makes it a must seat,  thing ,   & sometime a bit pain full to pull off , but super smooth 

??????  How Many Gurls Tuck  ???     Or Tuck & Tape ??????

Huggs 

Stephanie👠 

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@stephanieann I have taped to tuck, but I found that it was unnecessary wearing the clothes that I get to wear in public.

I tuck every time that I  dress, whether necessary or not, which means that I am not wasting tape. How many of us tuck & tape? No idea. Can't be too many. It might be worth making a good poll, though.

To stop the tape from pulling my skin I wrapped the really important parts with toilet paper. It makes the tape a bit less reusable, but it helps to not tear any skin.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@harriette 

Good tip Harriette , to wrap the important parts , first .!!!!!

I wonder how many gurl tuck bay way just pushing it back inside  using that technique ???

Stephanie👠 

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@stephanieann That's what I do. It helps to make a noticeably smaller package. Not all testicles are small enough to do this, though. It can be uncomfortable, for some. Mine are tiny, so no problem. 😘

Again, your question deserves to be included in a well planned poll.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@harriette

🍒🍒  Smart,   I agree ,  Harriette ,  Small & smooth is much better Gurl.

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 615

@stephanieann As I say, I like to be tucked and usually use tape - I've figured out a way of using very little and can do what nature requires without any inconvenience other than having to sit - which in any case adds to the girliness of it all 🙂

Personally I like to feel flat and smooth 'down there', particularly as I wear skin-tight skirts or leggings a lot of the time, plus it makes me feel good (TMI?).

AS I say, I have figured out a way to achieve a good flat tuck without using too much tape and without discomfort. Which is nice 🙂

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1828

@caroline2k I've always thought it sounds most uncomfortable so I not tried  it. I tend to wear flared skirts or dresses anyway.

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 615

@annaredhead It's surprisingly not uncomfortable. Mind you, I tend to spend so long tucked that these days I find not being tucked feels more than a bit weird and uncomfortable.

I do occasionally leave the tape off when I wear a more pouffy skirt or dress with stockings and a basque or something, but I'll still be tucked and hidden away, just not so severely.

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@caroline2k It always put me in mind of the effect of being on a freezing cold rugby pitch.

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 615

@annaredhead 

The only thing I can associate with being on a freezing cold rugby pitch is abject misery and the anticipation of being driven into the ground by a pack of absolute w*****s!

My school days were NOT the happiest of my life! 🙄

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1828

@caroline2k School was mostly awful. I went to a stuffy old grammar school. I liked the sport, felt a lot of the stuff we were expected to learn was garbage and the rules ridiculous. I left at 16, did my A-levels at the local technical college which had 2 very handy pubs.

My A-level maths tutor had taught at my school and hated it as much as I did, but she was brilliant at college.

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 615

@annaredhead That sounds like my school Anna, although I hated the sports! 

I was more likely to be found in the art department affecting profundity and listening to The Velvet Underground 🙄

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
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Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@caroline2k The Velvet Underground are great.

I saw Lou Reed in Hammersmith and he was brilliant. He must have played for nearly 4 hours

 

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 615

@annaredhead 4 hours! And who says the drugs don't work? 😀

I saw Nico playing back in the early 80s. She was... Nico! 🙂

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@caroline2k 

I like how you said that well put,  I agree ,  seating always , especially when your tucked 

  1. Stephanie👠
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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@caroline2k 

   I thinks that smart ,  perfect ,  really a  ( necessity when I'm  tucked, )   that's what is tinkling is all about , happens when your being a lady, and your  tucked & smooth !!! 

Very well said Caroline !!!!! 

Big Warm Huggs 

 

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

When dressed I always sit. Lately I also sit even when in drab for the reasons already stated (spraying, dribbling) - it is cleaner. I also dab when done for the same reason, even though I wear a pad it keeps my panties dry. 

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@cdsue 

    Suzanne I very much agree , with you on sitting ,  both dressed & drab for  reasons  like spraying and dripping and it much cleaner besides ,  works better !!!!

Also agree on wearing  a pad it keep my panties dry & clean , much feminine 

Stephanie👠

 

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Guest
(@Anonymous 97944)
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A friend of mine is unhappily married to a boorishly chauvinistic fellow who brought up the subject in conversation after reading an article about a new 'sit down' law in Scandinavia.  As we three sat there sipping our coffee, in his derision of that law and in defense of heterosexuality (I guess) he announced he always stands. Then demanded my answer!

"There you go, buddy," I. thought.  I bet your wife does all the housecleaning and she looks forward to proudly wiping down that area of the bathroom, while thankful she's married to such a manly man.

Here in the US, public restrooms are getting rather rank.  Most of the male population it seems can't figure out how to 'hit' the urinal's 1-square-foot area from 1 foot away, and consequently, the grout of the ceramic tile floor is completely saturated, often with small puddles of bodily fluid.  It is almost excuse enough to opt to be fully dressed en femme and explain to the GG's I only dress this way cuz the male bathroom is so bad.

Plus, I do not want to stand in that puddle there, then track the residue into my car.  When there is no other option, I will walk around in the snow, grass, or dirt to try to clean up my shoes.

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(@clarissa2)
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Honorable Member     jutland, Denmark
Posts: 415

@danikiss22 

Hi Dani!  I'm living in Scandinavia and never heard of any "sit down law" in Scandinavia. Maybe you could explain a little about that law as it's completely unknown to me, and I've been living here for almost 70 years.

Clarissa Purple Kiss  

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@clarissa2 15-20 years ago perhaps.  A news story said one of the countries, (Sweden?) there was a law and males were required to sit down.  Mind you, I am going back two decades of memory of what my acquaintance had brought up.  Maybe it was not a law, but a proposal.  He was about ready to start pacing and waving his arms around in anger.  For myself, I knew the gist of it, for I had seen, heard, or read something at the time.  But you know, I don't live over there, and when I glanced at the news, I read something about it.  I wouldn't have remembered this at all, except for his agitated and bizarre demeanor, because I was thinking, "who cares what the Swedes (or the Finns) do?"

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(@clarissa2)
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Honorable Member     jutland, Denmark
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@danikiss22 

Thank You, I was just curious, because as I said I've never heard about such a law. Smile  

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(@Anonymous 97944)
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@clarissa2 Articles like that were the bread and butter for Fox News in those days and this acquaintance would have been reacting to what was on the tv.

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(@clarissa2)
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Honorable Member     jutland, Denmark
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@danikiss22 Laugh Loud Thumbs Up

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@danikiss22 According to Google's new AI, there is no Scandinavian law requiring men to sit down.

In 2012, Viggo Hansen, a Swedish county counselor, proposed such a law, but it didn't  go anywhere. It did cause lots of uproar in discussions, though.

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(@Anonymous 97944)
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@harriette Yes thanks to everyone who has done some research on this item.  Apologies to all for not being more clear about it and if I had implied it was a passed law rather than a proposed law.

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(@clarissa2)
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Honorable Member     jutland, Denmark
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@harriette Please forgive the swish people, they can't help it Laugh Loud

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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I sit. With wearing a dress and hosiery and often a slip or petticoat it's more practical.  

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(@shelly-lynn)
Estimable Member     Grand Rapids, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

I always sit just like all the other women because it feels so right whether I am dressed or not.

 

Happy Woman Face

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 465

@shelly-lynn 

I agree with that Shelly , like all other women  do ,  and it feels right & natural the normal  feminine way .

Stephanie 👠

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(@dovemtn2016)
Honorable Member     Tucson, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

En femme, I always sit.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@dovemtn2016 

     Go Gurl    En femme Style only,     I always sit.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

Stand, always, when peeing. When in the public ladies loo though, I keep my feet away from the sides and never aim at the water. Having the anatomy the way it is, courtesy of an early-life operation, I'm accurate and no spraying.

Mind you, this is in the UK where ladies and gents 'traps' usually have sealed-in sides or at least a very low gap. I believe in the US the gaps under walls and doors are rather bigger: assuming I am right in thinking that, then standing, facing the bowl would be quite obvious from the outside.

I might add that I lift the seat to pee but always, always, put it back down before leaving.

Becca

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

For me ,  it always sitting ,      En femme Style only,  that's what being feminine is all about , and dressing up ,   is be a woman ..

Woman do stand , they sit to go pee or tinkle ,   Isn't that what dressing up is all about Really ??

I do even when I'm Drab ,  unless I'm doing something  like hiking in drab with others. 

Huggs

Stephanie👠

 

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Duchess Annual
(@firefly)
Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
Joined: 7 years ago

I always sit when I am dressed. And sometimes also when I'm in male mode.

Gisela

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Lady
(@cherylt)
Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

My wife asked me that same question a while back. 

Always sit of course. When I first began going out a friend said to remember "your feet point out". It was a funny comment but oh so true. 

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
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Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@cherylt.   Your Feet  High Heels always point out!!

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Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
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Due to my silicone bottoms I must sit if I don’t have them on then I stand I don’t leave the house so I don’t have to worry about any of them issues 

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Lady
(@carlafirst11)
Honorable Member     So. California , California, United States of America
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You must sit for so many reasons, imagine using ladies room and someone comes to see your heels while splashing, totally rude and unsafe.

if you are dress like a lady, you must act like a lady, get in take care of your needs, wash hands get out. 

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
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Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@carlafirst11 

So so much agree with that Carla !!!

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(@coloradog1)
Honorable Member     California, United States of America
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When I’m at home sometimes I like to stand it gives me a good giggle seeing myself in the mirror all dolled up. That being said a lady ALWAYS sits! So sitting is my go to .

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(@Anonymous 97944)
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Definitely sit much more lady like.

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