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I am just looking for input and opinions about my feelings of still being uneasy when dressed around my wife.She says she is ok with everything and not to worry.Tonight i get out of the shower and dress.I put on my pantyhose,spandex leggings,cute red and white top she bought for me and my heels that she also bought.I walk into the kitchen and she looks and smiles.She says the top looks good on me.I felt at ease and comfortable while talking with her then.It just seems like I get more uneasy the longer I just sit and relax.She tells me to just be me and be comfortable.I sit here with my heels off and my feet on the couch.I sometimes get uncomfortable if I get up and slip my heels on and walk around.Is it just me still having doubts that it is ok with her?Anxiety,questioning my true self?I am just trying to get an understanding of why I feel this way Any of you ladies have any ideas? I am here to learn and get advice.Thank you!
We are creatures of habit. Change is difficult. We were all taught the proper images as children. When our world differs from those images regardless of how wrong those images are, our emotional minds struggle to reconcile the new image.
MacKensie Alexandra
Hi Tammy.........I think deep down that your wife scares you somehow. You feel like your in a room with a rattlesnake and you are worried about getting bit. If the snake looks at you, you jump in anxiety. Am I right?? Talk to me....girl....I think you know what is bothering you. You are not alone.....I am always leery of people who smile at me for no reason..........think there is some sort of devious trap about to be sprung and am in a constant state of high alert. I blame the Vietnam War for this. Can never really relax.
Dame Veronica
I think you are right.I can't quite figure it out,what the feeling or block in my mind is.My mind says I am supposed to be a man,but my true lady wants to be really let out.When I am by myself I feel alot more at ease and alot more feminine.I guess I am still just not comfortable yet knowing that it is ok with her,Hell it can't be her,it has to be me.She is here now and trying to figure out what wig she wants to get me.Style,length,color.She says short with the salt and pepper look,lol.Lucky girl I am.
I think you’re fine. You are settling into a rather large adjustment not only for yourself, but your wife as well.
Have fun with it! Your wife is helping you develope.
My wife and I do lots of things together we cook, drink wine look at clothes, makeup tutorials for us both. We have a really great time with each other.
You will in time discover that having doubts and feeling uncomfortable is really a small bump in the road.
Youll be great and feel better living a better life than be mindful of regret.
What you are saying does make sense.It is a new chapter being opened in both our lives.It is something differant from ordinary every day life.I guess with that being said,I,we,should proceed ahead and enjoy it.When I do dress it is just like two ladies sitting here just being ourselves.It is just getting used to the idea that everything is ok.It's just tough for me because I have hidden it from her for so many years.Now my opportunity has come to be real with no worries.
I am also uneasy and unsure of myself. My wife has said she does not want to see me in a dress, but is OK with me sleeping in a nightgown, or wearing a bra, panties, pantyhose and a slip during the day. I usually sleep in a nightgown 3-4 times a week and dress during the day about once every other week. She has never said anything negative,or given me any reason not to wear these things, but I am still uneasy. I would like to dress more often, but I always feel uneasy, and that I would get a negative reaction
Hi Tammy,
It took me some time to work up to feeling comfortable around my wife. Matter of fact, she once asked me why I didn't dress in front of her and that it was okay to do so. Even after that moment, I would dress and she would compliment me, I still felt unsure. A part of me had a hard time accepting that she was accepting, and once in a great while it does surface but for a brief instant. You have shared with her a part of you that can be very hard to share. so I think its a natural part of being. As for me, the more and more I dress, along with the smiles, advice, and love I get, has helped me feel more confident. - hugs, Michelle
Hi Tammy,
I would say too you are fine, and all of the emotions you are feeling are completely normal. I feel the same way many times, every time I'm around my SO and in my femme garb, which is just jeans and femme loafers. She does not know I have on panties underneath. But I find myself "hiding" behind a chair or other furniture at times, and eventually have to walk past or in front of her, and I get the uneasy feelings. It is not easy. I'd love to have the freedom you do to wear more in front of my SO. That may never happen for me, but you should take a deep breath, and relax and feel good about what you have.
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Thank you.I know it will just take time.I am very happy with the situation,and very lucky.
You’ll be fine, I promise.
Tammy Marie
You are so lucky that she already knows of your fetish ways, and from what you say she is accepting of those ways! Relax and find out if there is anything that your wife would prefer that you do! Maybe there’s something that you could wear that would turn her on! Communication is the key here. The more you talk about what turns you on and what turns her on and she talks about what turns her on – well you see what I’m talking about. Communication, communication, talking!
Good Luck
Satin
I think I will be fine also.Maybe I am just still in shock,lol.I sure wasn't expecting this to be so easy.I guess maybe I am waisting some very good quality Girl time worrying so much.I want to keep advancing even more now,but it is this thing called family,society,and judgement.I see nothing wrong with who we are or what we stand for.We are who we are,kind of sad that some of us still have to hide.
Hi Tammie I've put some thought to your post an wonder if you are picking up some negative vibes from your wife. Maybe she is not as accepting as she claims. Maybe if you dialed it down with your choice of clothing around her.....Just my two cents,
All the best. Mikayla
I am starting to think the same.
Darling, I think you may be building this up in your head.
Has your wife had any history of passive aggressive behavior?
Example: (She’s clearly upset, you ask “what’s wrong” & she says “Oh, nothing”)
If not, enjoy what you have, & put your mind at ease!
Remember, SHE BOUGHT YOU THOSE THINGS! (Not yelling, just emphasizing).
Relax baby, I think you’re reading too much into it. Hugs, Bobbi
You are right I think.It is long hot shower time,shave time and dress up time right now.It has been a long day and I want to put on my relaxing clothes RIGHT NOW!