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My wife know's I crossdress and is fully supportive. So much so that she wants to go on dates and do other activities in public. So do I- I fantasize about having a romantic dinner date, dancing, shopping, etc. but I'm so shy and nervous. I've never been out in public. I can imagine being places but it's the getting there and getting home that scares me. How do I overcome this fear?!
If your wife is supportive about your cross dressing, she would help you look more female then male, GOD bless her for being supportive, mine is not. Once you are all dressed up pretty and wife helped you, there will be no way of being scared about going out in public. Just enjoy being female and knowing how it is being female. Hope you do get to go out with out being scared and have feminine fun
Hi Brianna. I'm also incredibly shy, and introverted too. I just had my first excursion going out completely dressed up this past weekend. I had a blast, and I'm glad I did it - even if it was a bit stressful leading up to it for various reasons. But... while this was the first time I was out completely dressed, it wasn't my first time out at all.
Like many of us, I underdress daily with panties and sometimes stockings or pantyhose. I've also, as of about two months or so ago, occasionally worn a bra to work under my sweater, figuring it was thick enough to hide the straps and outline. I've also, as of about 2-3 months ago, worn "female" jeans almost exclusively.
So, don't get dressed all the way the first time. Wear a pair of slacks or jeans. Slip on a pair of flats that maybe aren't obvious. Wear some lip gloss, or a favorite pair of earrings. Whatever is comfortable. You'll find nobody notices it - or if they do, they don't say anything. That'll build your confidence, and you can slowly add details until you're finally ready to go on a "date" with your wife as her girlfriend instead of her husband.
Good luck! It's scary, at first, but you can do it!
Brianna, if your wife is supportive and willing to help you be the lady you want to be, go for it. If you need to start small,mail some bills at the post office dressed casually. Go shopping for costume jewelry at Charming Charlies. I should know, its one of my favorite stores. Hold your head up girl,smile and have fun. Why don't you and your SO plan a trip to Arby's or some other place and go after the rush of people? Try Village Inn or JB's for a light meal.
I agree with everyone here and especially Michelle's advice on taking baby steps. Take drives alone or together and then drive up windows at food places and thrift shops and places like that. Also do these things away from home at first.After a few encounters with ppl you will feel more confident about the whole thing. Its not nearly as stressful as it seems now. Hugs sis
its all about looking as female as possible, if wife knows and helps with make up, then there is not problem. its just that going out as a female is the hard part, but if you look like a female then there is no trouble its just all in the head. take one step at a time going out places and see how you feel, then go from there. if you look like a female then you are female. don't look like a male in a dress look. i went out in public to a cross dressing meeting and i had a blast with the other ladies and being female. loved every min of it just wish i could come out from the closet from family and friends, i might be able to get more female clothing and hints on applying make up better. or just the opposite loose family members so guess i am stuck where i am. daughter caught me in a dress a few times, my niece knows that i dress up, but she did my make up for Halloween, does that count?
Hi Brianna! I simply must copy and paste what the other gals have already said, there is some very sound advice from all of them. Taking drives around, running small errands like a post office trip, or renting a RedBox movie, or even pumping gas will get you out of the car and into the world where you will soon see that it's all ok! Most people are too busy leading their lives to worry too much with anyone else.
Bottom line is just to go at your pace, and just remember that there is nothing wrong with being yourself. Sure, it's a bit nerve wracking the first few times (as is anything new), but having a supportive partner in your wife to take along with you during these trips will make you feel all the more comfortable. Enjoy some small outings now to get comfortable, and in no time you'll be dining and dancing it up with the wife like you want to do. 🙂
<3 Lauren
HI I live in Northern Nevada and most of the women here wear jeans and a t-shirt or maybe a cute top most of the time, so when I dress up that's what I wear. I find that if I try to blend in no one notices or says anything. My wife and I have even been called ladies a few times being out, which felt good. I say take small steps and little by little gain confidence and before long you'll be out enjoying yourself.
Hi Brianna, like you i am extremely shy which has kept me in the closet for 30 years. The only cd part of me in public is my long manicured nails and 2 earrings in both ears. Bronwyn
Thanks so much everyone. I think we will do some baby steps. It's funny that I've been secretly dressing for all these years dying to go out, and now that I have people around me that love and support me and are encouraging me to go out----- all of a sudden I'm like a deer in headlights. We're going to an event in Las Vegas in May, so we are just trying to go out a few times here first. Either way, after May I will have done it. I'm so excited, even if I'm a little scared.
