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Hi gals, as crossdressers we are all caught in the middle of two genders to some degree. Does this have to be a bad thing though?We understand the pressures that men face. To be stern and protective when needed. Knowing we are naturally physical stronger, so we naturally carry more of the weight. Having to be less emotional and more logical with the pros and cons, that this entails.
We know what it's like to feel female. To have to be weary when walking at night or alone, but not have to worry when being looked after. We are naturally more emotional than the standard man. So we can be that shoulder to cry on and even cry with. We feel the pressure to look good, maybe more than GGs as we don't want to be discriminated against.
So in a sentence we know and can empathize with both genders. How can that be a bad thing. We can and do walk a mile in heels and boots. So let's celebrate this when we think of the negatives that our lifestyle brings. It might make our days better.
Love Trish
Couldn't agree more. I believe that I'm better, more rounded, person now that I have allowed more of Didi to bleed into my normal man life
Didi💋
Morning Trish xx......good question.
I agree with Didi...
There's absolutely nothing wrong with a " big tough man" having a female outlook on life...
When at work, I'm in drab, and I do not come across as effeminate or girly....but I do come across as more understanding, gentle and approachable.
How do I know this????....I am one of two males who work in an otherwise all female staff....you would be amazed at some of the questions I am asked....and the confidences that are shared with me...and that includes by my female boss!!!...
In drab I really do still feel one of the girls, like it or not......and I love it!!!
Grace ❤️
Well said Trisha! We really should be able to empathize with both the male and female, since most of us have had to "live" both ways. I find for some it seems to unfortunately lead to criticizing instead of empathizing though. You are correct however, I feel that - in a way - we all should be the best of both worlds.
Stevie❤
Hi Lisa, I'm on the same journey as you. I've recently merged 2 into one. I say recently as I've only been dressing for 5 months, but have gone what feels like 200 mph. When one or the other I was an emotional guy, who could be anything in-between a loud, eccentric windup merchant to a quiet (being honest here) volitile person who could break furniture on a really bad day. I never lost it on people just things. In women mode I was much more reserved and quiet. I could be mischievous and flirty, but I loved nothing more that a natter with the gals. I'd be sassy and sarcastic when facing negative situation. My bosses preferred this approach overall.
I found I was never a guy by choice started mourning for my drab side, do merged the two. Now I am still a mild windup merchant, just not an annoying one, I'm eccentric still, talking to fryiers, arguing with songs ect, like he used to. I'm much more helpful, not that I've not always been, but I appreciate my natural strength so offer it where needed or can. I can still be a quiet depressed person but I'm not volitile anymore. I'm much more likely to be sassy in a situation before I reach this point. In short my moods and actions are in a tighter circle. I don't feel the need to act like someone I'm not anymore, I'm just me. Saying this I've felt more vunrerable when in more dangerous situation with strangers. It just part of the course of being feminine I think. I now class myself as trans, aka between genders and I'm happy stuck in the middle.
Love Trish
I can understand your point on this.
Some of my masculine traits unfortunately keep me safe.. why do I say unfortunately... because I don’t think it should be a world that requires someone to be a specific gender to be relatively safe.
That aside, my feminine side really does make me a better person than my masculine side alone. So yes, more cis men could really benefit from a better connection to their femininity.
I have a slight understanding of some of the pressures women face, but for me personally, I could never say it’s a complete understanding, there is just so much growing up as a cis male that I will never know. Pressure to pass female is one that we all face, but is this our own pressure, social pressure, our own community pressure? You have to be you, if that means wearing a glamorous dress and a full beard, the. You do what is right for you. I personally do like to look feminine, and some photos that I have really make me smile, as I just look at them, and I know Amy is looking at me.
I've said a few times over the years Trisha this make you a more rounded person, you can see things through the eyes of a man and a woman. It gives us a much better perspective of things.
