Support Vs. Having a good time

Thank you for your thoughtful post Autumn.

- Robyn

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Just tring to help Brista 😉

Thanks Autumn for the post. Maybe a seperate title for all those lets name it this that and everything off topic.

Donna

Or perhaps keep Life as it goes on as a catch-all, and make a support specific section to keep those posts grouped together for easy access by everyone? It would also make new support posts easier to spot, and won't let them sink so much.

Autumn...

I totally agree, I didn't realise that the entire reason this site was here was being put on the back burner.....all I would say is that the most Popular posts will always get the most reaction....whatever they are about, or wherever they are stashed......

So maybe it's time the comediennes found somewhere else to be.........who knows???

Grace x

Hi Autum,

Thank-you for posting.  I’m waiting to see what others think.  As others are worried, anxious, perhaps, fearful of what might happen should they venture outside and not in drab, doesn’t humor relieve tension and stress?

Your point about the Ambassadors is right on.  They are unpaid volunteers and we do appreciate all they do.

Alice

Autumn I could kiss you for this...  some just need to focus on quality over quantity.  This isnt a fb popularity contest with people worrying about collecting 'friends' and 'thanks'.....  those arent the important things here i hope. I'd like to think we are not that petty....🙄☹

The thing is there are so many Groups some of this stuff could go into.  And some stuff just shouldn't be here period.

Stevie

Some of the posts do get rather silly. I agree this is primarily a support site, but it's also true that laughter is good therapy. Thanks for speaking up and out. 😏

Fredrika xox

I'm ok with the silly posts. Some of us are so uptight, our nipples are inverting through our bellybutton. 😉

I scroll past the posts that don't interest me. I roll my eyes, and groan at some posts. Some I laugh at. Some make me cry. Others I just gotta shake my head  and blurt out, you idiot.

Personally I don't chat with, nor engage with anyone who can't be bothered filling out their profile. Support is a two way street.

People come and go for a variety of reasons. I don't think anyone goes away because of a lack of support. CDH is kinda like a big family function. It has a variety of conversations going at anyone time. Not always on topic.

Regarding the humor. A wise man once said, laugh with those who laugh, and cry with those who cry. Often we gotta do both.

I'm with MaryJane on this. For me, the sense of fun is an important part of the site. Having a laugh and support aren't mutually exclusive things. In fact, I'd say that the two go together, hand in hand. Sometimes you need a bit of light relief. The important thing is that the support is there when you need it.

If you think a topic is too trivial, then just skip it. It's not like we're being swamped with FB-style crud.

Let it ride. I like it the way it is.

Connie

xxx

My wonderful sister Autumn,

I will admit to having missed out on a few good threads lately simply because they were pushed down stream far too quickly by other posts that I personally may or may not have found interesting.

Theres a need for reality, fiction and humour by the reading masses depending on their mood or even just how the day went. Seperating them would just have us spending time searching then through even more various groups and categories.

I don't foresee an easy fix...other than possibly spending a little more time here keeping up to date lol

Olivia

Autumn, I think Mary Jane has hit the nail on the head. My friends, my sisters (which I have begun to consider all of you here at CDH ❤️❤️) share a common bond that brings all of us here. The support comes from just knowing they are like me, regardless of the topic, and the silliness is part of life when people gather. I, personally like the mix of posts. I do find myself skipping some, though.

It may have to do with how one uses the navigation tools. I usually begin by just looking at ”All Forums”, and scrolling through every conversation that has been started since I last visited (which to be be honest is usually less than 24 hours. I know, I’m obsessed).

Based on what I have seen, I don’t think we are missing any cries for help. If we have, I’m open to suggestions or changes to make sure we support old and new members alike with compassion, and still have time to just chat about whatever makes us smile.

Bless the moderators and ambassadors for all they do. I’m sure they spend enormous amounts of time and effort. I trust that they and other members who are on here frequently are looking out to make sure no one’s serious pleas are missed.

Still, thanks for your post to remind us and keep us in line.

Much love,
Raquel

" I don't think anyone goes away because of a lack of support ".

Sadly this is not true Mary Jane.  I personally have known of more than one member that left feeling this was no longer the support site it once was, that alot of this stuff was trivializing the issue.  And one was a good friend - it really pissed me off her thinking that and leaving.

When I first joined I proudly would show my friend or family the site - and they were impressed, and I felt proud.  Last month I showed a family member cdh and the forums.... I definitely did not get the same positive response. 😪

"Facebook for crossdressers" I think was the phrase.  Pretty sure that's not the way Vanessa envisioned it.

P.S.  girls it may not be coming across, but I really do like fun and being a wiseass!    It just shouldn't be making up the majority of posts here.

I’m with you. I enjoy reading all your stories on overcoming odds.

You girls are an inspiration to me.

Wish I could be more brave in coming out