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Some days I feel like going all the way and then some days I am just not sure and just keep doing what everyone else wants
Hi Bobbi ,
You are not the only one with these feelings, I sometimes feel that way too especially when i had my first makeover, it made me look at things in a different perspective what i saw when i looked in the mirror was a beautiful woman and not a drab old man,
Love Roz ❤️
Hi Bobbi.
It's a pretty common feeling.
Gisela
I get this feeling all the time which is why I been living a lie 39 years keep Lisa hidden away an locked up now she screams harder then ever to be free an I will be free soon 💜
Hey Bobbi, as the other girls have said, it happens.
I spend most of my time en femme, but sometimes I just don't want to spend ages on my makeup so will just go for the minimal approach and instead of a glamorous outfit will opt for something much more casual - even leggings!
But seriously, over the Christmas period I was in drab for best part of a month, and the first week I felt good to just be 'regular Dave' in my man's jeans and jumper. Mind you, by the end of that period I was aching to be back in nylons and heels and swishing about in a dress.
If you can do it, just go with what you are feeling. Be a girl one day, be a man the next, be something in between the day after. It's your life, live it the best you can 🙂
Bobbi -
As others have said it is a pretty common feeling. I've gone through it just regarding dressing let alone transitioning. One of the things that helped me was therapy. I was able to openly and honestly express my feelings which helped me accept myself.
XOXO
Suzanne
That's the conflict I struggle with. There are days I wake up and just want to get it done, hating those male aspects. Then another day when I go "what am I thinking?".
I wish there was some way to KNOW and not have all these conflicting feelings.
the m2f people that I know have no doubt ...
I'm no expert and I have little idea what a transgenderite(?) thinks, but I would have thought that if you only want to be transgender some of the time then you are just a cross-dresser, like most of us here, perhaps just a little more dedicated?
Becca
Hi Bobbi, well, I've been like that for an awful lot of years. But here's <my> thing - I made conscious decisions some time ago, actually 2, maybe 3 different times as there were significant changes in my life at each time, which could have allowed me to take a different path. I weighed the pros and cons, and considered there were others that were dear to me and that I chose not to risk those attachments. And here I am. And I still have desires, as I knew I would at each of those deciding times in my life. And I'm living with my choices. A little disappointing for me, but more than balanced by those I hold dear. You make choices and hopefully you can consider the more important possible consequences and choose a path that you can live with.
Hugs, ChloéC
Hi Bobbi, I struggle with feelings of wanting to transition a lot. I’ve even got a bottle of estradiol pills in my cabinet and I’ve taken a few but I’m afraid to take them daily. As much as it appeals to me I don’t want to wake up one morning with boobs I can’t explain to my family. I love my brother but he’s extremely transphobic. If he saw me dressed the way I am right now he would probably disown me. So I guess I’m in a bit of a pickle…
Kerri