Tell my doctor?

Hi Kristen...

Things came to a head for me regarding depression just after Christmas....and after a long meeting with my doctor, I told her. I even took off a shoe and sock and showed her my red toenails!!.

She has been my doctor for a long time and I feel comfortable talking to her anyway....

everything you tell your doctor is confidential, so be assured it won't go any further. The choice is yours, but I'm sure she will be sympathetic.

best wishes, grace xx

Why not?

I told my chiropractor a long time ago, and now I always visit her as Laura - she insists, and always sits me down for a girl chat and cup of herbal tea before assaulting my back!

To her, I am now Laura, even though I had been visiting her for years previously as male me.

Love Laura

Thank you Grace Scarlett. I do trust her, I was with my wife in one of her appts. and I saw no reasons to be concerned about any confidentiality issues.

Grace beat me to it, but I was going to point out the various entities who have professional obligations to keep things that patients/clients say to them as confidential. Honestly, it seems like an excellent idea to try out your coming out story with someone who is professionally obligated to keep it secret.

I’d say that cross dressing relates specifically to a number of health benefits (I started a post on this a day or 2 ago — the health benefits of CDing), so it seems relevant to your overall health such that it merits mentioning to the doc if you like her. In addition to being a doc, she’s also a real live human being, so it’ll be good to gauge her reaction. I say do it!

It isn't really a medical secret and, while doctors have at least an ethics of (if not a legal obligation to maintain) confidentiality, that may only apply to medical issues.

If you feel it necessary to obviate any future embarrassment, then it might be useful, otherwise why would she need to know?

It could also be useful in that by 'confessing' to her you are giving her an opportunity to better understand related gender issues, then that might be beneficial. If you feel that you could play such the role of a mentor.

I suppose, all-in-all, any expansion of awareness into the general consciousness can be a good thing.

Araminta.

Kristen, I have thought about. I have no interest starting hormone treatment, and absolutely no surgery.

I guess the only reason to do it is to go "on the record". My regular visit is in August so I'll see.

Thanks Kristen for bring up a touchy issue.

Diane

I'm not sure I can make that choice for you, but for me I haven't told my doctor yet. I always wear panties, so if need be I have no problem with the doc or staff seeing them. Which then might bring the need for an explanation, or not.

I've seen a physical therapist and where my pants had to be slid down a touch, and he must have noticed, but never said anything.

Two other things come to mind, the first, as others have mentioned they are obligated to keep patients information secret, and an experienced doctor must have seen way more shocking things then either a male patient in panties, or that he dresses up in women's clothes.

I do agree with a previous poster who said that telling your doctor about your crossdressing will help them to understand you better, and should it factor into some health question or concern she is already in the know.

Amy

I agree, informing one's PCP of their CD/TG status has merit and can relieve a lot of anxiety if the doctor is a part of the inner circle that one comes out to. I informed my PCP who maintains a satellite office near where I live as a part of the regions primary Veterans Affairs medical center. I when I told her I am transgender and will transition she was very calm about it and asked if I have been dressing as a woman. Bristling with confidence now that "bird has taken flight" I mentioned that I have been enjoying dressing as a woman for over 15 years and that I first began crossdressing 35 years ago. She made a note of it in my medical record and took the next step of arranging to meet with a TG care therapist. Although the appointment is not in person considering COVID is still present, I am still very excited meet with her via zoom next Wednesday morning.

Telling another person can be so liberating. I've now told all 4 of my brothers and now at least the worry of them find out by accident and for 3 of the 4 I had no negative comments. At this pooint I need to get back to the last one to have at least a short discussion about it. As for my doctor I don't know yet,a female doctor would be easier for my I think??
Sandy

Sandy,

Indeed, it was a very liberating experience for me to come out to my female primary care physician who was accepting. From my experience finding a physician you can trust is the most important regardless if they are male or female. But in my honest opinion it may be easier to coming out to one who is female but it may vary depending on the individual physician.

I recently have had multiple Dr's visits in which they had to see my panties... is all I wear... not one was I judged.. they didn't even mention the fact I was wearing panties. They don't know the extent that I cross dress but I believe most have probably seen weirder things than just a man or woman in what they deem comfortable...

My pcp knows and so does my urologist they are the only ones who have seen my undies as the other docs are a podiatrist and an ophthalmologist and I think it would be strange if I had to strip for them.  I did not say anything in advance and they made no comments although one of them did say to pull my undies down fir the prostrate check.

That's way cool,I wish you well and much luv in your journey.

Bridgette

Thank you!

A much anticipated and long awaited beginning on my amazing transformation.