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Over the last few months, my cross dressing style has developed and I've become quite used to going out in public, never wanting to get back into drab on my return but having to for one reason or another. My wife has commented in the past, and today, that she thinks I'd dress all the time if I could and I tend to agree.
A little something has been gnawing at me for a couple of weeks and that is a concern that I'm going too far, too fast, so I had a conversation with SO this morning. I told her I was concerned that I might be moving too fast for her and that I really didn't want her to feel she was being left behind with her supportiveness. I asked her if she was truly ok with my dressing whilst at the same time emphasising that I was still, and would always be, her male husband and would not put her in a position wherein she was uncomfortable. Her reply (paraphrased) after our return from a shopping trip for girly stuff (I was in drab today):
"I've been in a shop where you tried on earrings and a necklace, your nails are painted red and you were wearing women's rings and earrings. We went into a changing room where you tried on bras. You regularly wear women's clothes both at home and out and about, I call you Becca when dressed, we have matching girly tattoos. I think the time for worry about such things is long past and I've never seen you happier. both in drab and dressed."
I'm fairly confident she has my back now, don't you think?
Becca
@rebeccabaxter Sounds promising, or to put it another way,"you think"? As for too far too fast, well I think that one has been answered as well. The big question now is what is too far? It doesn't sound like anything is off limits now
@rebeccabaxter Yes, she is pretty clear. I think it’s fair to say that you have her support however far you choose to go.
Wonderful post, thanks for sharing that with us.
I've never seen you happier
That comment shows that she deeply understands and appreciates how much it means to you. But I would echo JJ's advice and say never take her support for granted; always take things step-by-step ensuring she is with you at each stage. That way I reckon you will have a wing(wo)man for life!
Rebecca xxx
@rebeccabaxter She has your back,Give her all the love you can and at least a dozen roses this week.
@rebeccabaxter I so much agree with everyone that you have a green light for bringing Becca out as far as you feel you need. With the caution to keep the lines of communication open. Make sure she is OK with each step.
AND give her the HUGE hug she deserves.
Cassie
Yes Becca I think she does and what she said pretty well summed it up. You are so lucky to have such an amazing woman as your wife.
@rebeccabaxter That is so wonderful! Enjoy the time!
If she was apprehensive about your dressing, she would have shown it a long time ago.
Feelings change, we change, there's always the risk it might all change. Honestly, there's no going back to being just a regular guy. Might as well keep going forward.
There are also hidden limits. Like, what if one day, you want HRT. That might or might not be her limit. Or if you felt like you'd want to experience being with a man, in that way you know. These might sound really absurd right now, but trust me, I used to think that I'd never want to go out dressed, or that I wouldn't want to dress full time, and those feelings have grown as I've grown.
I hope it all works out well for you!
@rebeccabaxter Well Becca, that is about as lovely as it gets, and there are few greater moments! "I think"! <3 <3 <3 Big luv, Kyra
Oh Becca what a great posting! Yes I believe she has your back and more. Many of us girls could only hope for such acceptance. Your one lucky couple!
Natalie 💋💋
Yes, she has your back. I don't think she could have been more plain about it, but that does not mean you should just charge ahead. Marriage is a partnership and thrives in good, open, honset cinversations like the one you just had. Keep those up and you will be fine.
I'm no-one to advise on relationships, having chosen Fiona over my own, but JJ's advice sounds absolutely spot on to me. Congratulations on your own excellent choice from many years ago when you married, and I'm sure many of us would love to send a big hug your wife's way 🙂
You girl are what most of us hope and dream to be! Live life and enjoy it and do not look back!
Well I think that clears up how she feels Becca. Just remember to check in every now and again. You have a gem there.
You did the absolute right thing by checking in with your wife to see how things were going. Stay with that mindset and you should be fine for the future.
Becca -
How wonderful for you to have such an understanding and supportive wife. As has been said many of us wish we had the same. Enjoy having the freedom to be who you are.
XOXO
Suzanne
