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The Minds eye

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(@dazzler)
Prominent Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 years ago

I am a 56 year old man that likes to dress/present as a woman. 

If I'm going out, I put a lot of effort into looking as female as I can. From head to toe, everything is done for a reason. My hair, make up, clothes, footwear, jewellery.... It's all part of the puzzle that turns me into Cerys. 
I dress too young for a man of my age, but I have calmed down a lot, and I try to dress to blend in and not stand out.

I go through the whole process. I shower, shave, apply make up, dress (after taking forever to decide the outfit), and then do my hair, put on the jewellery and spray on the perfume.... Cerys is born!

I look in the mirror and see than almost passable, stylish woman looking back at me. I'm happy. I'm confident. I'm proud of the achievement.

Then I go out, maybe shopping and I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror. Or maybe I'll take a photo and post it here or on FB..... Then I don't see an almost passable, stylish woman. I see an obviously 56 year old man in female clothing, looking like "mutton dressed as lamb". This reflection is nothing like the person that was in the mirror a few hours earlier. Feed back from others is "you look great!", but my head says that they are just being polite.

I say this but there are times when I do see a better view. I was in a coffee shop earlier today, and I went to use the loo. They had a large mirror on the door. After washing my hands, I turned to leave and I saw myself. I didn't look that bad. It made me smile, and lifted me a little...

Do others here also have this "minds eye" version of themselves? Do you look different in pictures than you do the mirror? Which is the real view? The one in the mirror, or the unexpected glimpse or photograph of yourself?

 

Cerys

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 1 year ago

Reputable Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 189

@dazzler I can relate to this very much Cerys.

I can spend ages making myself looking presentable and when I'm done, just look at myself and see a guy in makeup. I am always satisfied that I can dress the part, but my face is always just male me. My partner assures me I look 'lovely' and later, I can look at photos I have taken and see the 'girl' looking at the camera, but at the time... Consequently, I am very reluctant to go out fully dressed as I always have the feeling that everyone will see through the makeup.

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(@joanarbour)
Joined: 8 years ago

Trusted Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Posts: 55

@caroline2k What is important is that you are you. You look like you and not a guy pretending to be you.

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Duchess
(@lucyb112)
Joined: 1 year ago

Prominent Member     Staffordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 448

@dazzler I can certainly relate to this Cerys, as I suspect a lot of us can.

When dressed and made up, if I look in the full length bedroom mirror (from a few feet away) I can often see a reasonably passable lady. If I then walk into the bathroom and see myself close up then all I see is a guy in make up.

It hasn’t stopped me from venturing out on a few occasions, and I’ve had no issues when I do.

As I’ve not had the opportunity to do it very often, it always freaks me out a little when I know the next opportunity is just around the corner, just as it is now.

I’ve previously walked through places where I’ve been as Lucy and “How the hell did I do that!”.

 

 

 

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(@loneleycd)
Noble Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I see myself in the mirror when I have finished putting on the makeup and brushing my hair and I see a nice passable woman.  Later in another mirror I see an OLD person with wrinkles and droopy skin on arms, under chin and around the eyes. AND then there is the paunch on the belly.

Then again I must not look to bad because no one has said anything negative at my Torrid job. 

  Cassie 

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(@ab123)
Famed Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

Because we have had the same body and features for a lifetime no matter what we can see under it all and it's so difficult not to, that's the Achilles heel for us girls. If we are dressed and out and about looking presentable we will be seen as one of many ladies in a crowd. It is only under close scrutiny the likely hood of being'read' but even then if you look right it will only be a 'is it or isn't it' moment. Others in your life will often say how good you look so take them at their word and if they are happy to go out with you then acceptance is a done deal, despite your reservations.

On an other angle on the minds eye, my mother used this expression a lot and has helped with a lot of things. It's where you have a situation where you can't see something but you use the minds eye to figure it out. An example relates to crossdressing and that is putting on a bra from the back. I was talking to her about the difficulty I was having and this is her reply. Look at the clips and band in front of you and then use your minds eye to imagine it as you put it on. I looked at the strap and aligned the top hook then imagined the process from behind, the bra was securely clipped up. It applied to a necklace as well. 

 

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(@maeveaj)
Active Member     EDEN PRAIRIE, Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 4 months ago

I totally suffer from this same issue. I get very self conscious when I'm out and see myself from certain angles or in certain lighting. I suppose it often feels like imposter syndrome and I worry that everyone sees right through me immediately. In any case, I believe this is a comfort level thing that will eventually fade for the most part. I think it has to some degree already but my nerves are most definitely up before I go out. 

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(@carlafirst11)
Estimable Member     West Covina, California, United States of America
Joined: 9 months ago

I used to see myself as a guy dressed in female clothing, but as time has passed I really have a state of mind that I am a lady, I act like one when in public. I always dress to blend in depending where I plan to go, the last thing I want to do is grab attention to myself. I guess we need to have an attitude that we belong and that we are dressed in female clothing we are women, at least that is what I do.

i just love it when people addressed me as a lady, whether they read me or not everyone I encounter have been very polite so far.

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Noble Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

When I get dressed up and ready to go out, what I see in the mirror is exactly what I see in my mind's eye and what I see when looking at a photograph of myself - a nice looking, middle-aged woman. My male self is nowhere to be found.

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