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I was paying at a drive through window earlier this week whilst I was fully femme (makeup and all) when the lady in the window who was in her 50's said as I drove away "Thank you gorgeous". That did put a spring in my step for the rest of the day even though I wouldn't ever rate how I looked at that level but it got me thinking of some of the things I have been called while out and about by women at a counter when buying something or even the odd lady who has struck up a conversation in a queue or in a store.
Gorgeous was new but I have also been called sweetie, darlin and honey by other females. When I have struck a conversation up with another lady I have sometimes been complimented on my shoes or earrings and even once my foundation colour. These compliments are in a way blokes never would talk to each other and make you feel on top of the world. It all is very kind and caring and something else that I like about spending part of my life as a female.
I'd be interested to hear what names any of you been called by other females whilst you have been out and about? If you aren't ready to go out in public what would you like to hear another female call you? And finally I'd love to hear your stories about any compliments any of you have received from other females.
While I have been out and about, my interactions with other people have been limited. I think I’ve only ever been referred to as “love”
I have however received a number of lovely warm, friendly smiles from women that I know I wouldn’t have received if in male mode.
I think you’re right. In general, women are just much more kind and caring.
When I’m here I converse in a completely different way to boy mode, and think nothing of referring to other ladies as “honey”, “sweetheart” etc.
Thanks for posting….. Honey 😊
@olivietcac Olivia, gorgeous is a super compliment! I've never been out en femme, and I've posted this here before. I mean I'm by no means an alpha male but I am a blokey bloke if you know what I mean. I'm as straight as they come but here on CDH I just love addressing the girls with feminine nomenclature. I get a little tingle when I address someone as hun, honey, dear, sweetie, lovely etc. and I'm always thrilled when one of the girls here addresses me in that way.
But here's the thing. I know there must be girls here who are less than comfortable with this way of communicating and I'd be interested to hear their thoughts as well.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
I'd say that since I started to visit CDH , the way other girls here treat me is delightful, even in Spanish I never, ever have received a warming , sweet and lovely greeting and compliment like the all of you have made me here , I mean ,in real world in male mode,neither my wife have talked or written me in the way you girls do, and all this makes me feel very nice and in sync with all of you !!!
Some of you have called me sweetie, other Hun, and some others cutie pie!!!, this last one made me the day !!! 
Yes indeed, those compliments makes me feel so feminine and flattered!!!
@chrisfp99 Thanks so much Chrissie for your reply. I'm with you that I get a tingle whenever I am addressed either here on CDH or out in public by any of those terms that only females would use. The same when I use them myself. We can dress as a female but using those terms as well as the compliments for me takes my femininity up a level.
On another note I noticed you profile pic had changed so I looked up the photos from your makeover and you look absolutely gorgeous.
@oliviac Hey Olivia, nice to hear you feel the same as me. Thank you so much for your compliment on my makeover pics honey. What an incredible day that was!
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
@oliviac I have been told 'nice boots ' and 'nice top ' and love your hair '.
Cassie
@oliviac I was driving in my car 🚙 one night. Which was a Toyota Cameria which was a station wagon. I had my long leather ladies' gloves on. With a long eveningwear dress & of course a long black wig. As they going pass, they look at me at has both. We hear 1 person say look at them both they're to class. For us & just kept going.
@oliviac Ive been called sweetie, cutie, honey, darling, sweetheart, and mam….all when dressed in drab! But only by women who mistook me for a girl - which I of course really enjoyed but I had to reassure them that I did not mind when they realised their mistake….little did they know!
@christineth 🤣 Christine that made me chuckle out loud. Makes me think when you are dressed you must look fantastic.
@oliviac Olivia, yes, but only in my dreams. I think I just wear my hair too long! Hugs Christine
@oliviac YES!
I only go out in earrings, lipstick and brow and lash mascara. Usually nail polish from nude to darker. Barefoot in Barcelona (OPI) is as dark as I go. Any compliments or woman to woman conversations about the feminine is an absolute thrill!
My hair is long enough to generate "Ma'am " from behind. Or "you ladies" when out to eat with my wife and close gg friends.
I get my manicures, pedicures, brow waxes, and facials at a large spa. My aesthetician and I compliment each other and the same goes with several other women in the shop.
Yes it's magic.
I won a raffle for a basket of their goods and services.
"Every body was so happy it was you!"
@oliviac I haven’t been called anything beyond “ma’am” but I received a very nice compliment from a woman who was about 30+ years older than me. She was sitting at a bench outside a local bookstore when I walked up. She complimented my skirt, saying it was cute!🥰 It’s just a plain black, knee length skirt but I love it. After I had finished in the store, I walked back by her and she said “It’s so nice to get all dressed up!” I was stunned by her kindness and sincerity and replied that yes it was. She made my whole day!
Hugs, Jill
@chrisfp99 it was a wonderful interaction that still brings me joy to think about it.
@oliviac I haven’t been out, so I’ve never received a compliment like you have. However, I’ve always been intrigued that women receive so many compliments, and it makes them feel so good. I think most guys really light up in secret when they receive a compliment because they are so far and few between. Great topic Olivia! I’ve pondered this many times.
It's one of the things that I like most about being in the world of femininity. Women are so generous with compliments towards each other. They always seem to find something about you to admire or acknowledge. It might be shoes, Earings, a necklace or some piece of clothing. I had to learn how to do this but now that I am conscious of it, I do it too. It is so enriching when you see someone face light up from a compliment.
It is such a wonderful world to be in.
@lucyb112 I just think its wonderful living in that world. I have had so many tender moments with complete strangers. We all seem to have a commonality that is so warm and heartfelt, don't you think.
@robertaf Yes I know exactly what you mean Roberta.
It really is wonderful
Thanks for this interesting topic sweetie.
I don't go out dressed but I have received compliments from women on the earrings I'm wearing a couple times. I usually wear studs or hoops, the ones I got compliments on were dangling ones I wore out. It felt good to have them comment on them. I was also approached by a woman one time who said they noticed my nails and asked if I went for a manicure. I told her I had and she said she liked them and wished her husband would get one. Another time there were 2 women who asked about my manicure and said they could never get their husbands to get one. I told them my wife and I go every couple months for mani-pedi's and that when there I've seen other men getting them as well. It was nice having them noticed and being commented on. My fingernails were done in a clear with a pink tinge, my toenails were done in pink but I was wearing close toed sandals so they didn't see those... wonder what they would have said if they did mmm. I did have a dermatologist and his nurse see my toes once when I was wearing pink polish and the nurse complimented me on them. All of those experiences felt really good.
When on here I use terms of endearment like hun, sweetie, etc and enjoy when others address me in that way. After all we are all girls and no different from GG's in that regard.
XOXO
Suzanne
@oliviac This is 100% accurate IMO. Women can talk to other women in this way because the compliment doesn't come off as anything other than genuine. If a man gives a woman a compliment, it always comes with a potential caveat - "Hey, I wanna talk to you more because I'm interested, so let me start with this," and that invalidates the compliment because it's only being used as a stepping stone.
When women compliment other women, all of that vanishes. It doesn't trigger the compliment recipient's defenses to go up to have to ward off some fella's advances. She's free to just accept that compliment as genuine and get on with her day (the happier for it).
As for myself, I'd say that about 90% of the compliments I get are, "I love your hair" (when in the red, at least) and almost exclusively from women or other CDs. As for names, I suppose I hear 'love' or 'darling' or similar things from time to time and I use them similarly.
@melodeescarlet You are so right that there is no agenda in compliments between women and you can take them at face value.
I have to add at this point that your red hair looks just fantastic.
@oliviac Definately so right Olivia on both counts. I saw Melodee's red hair at Keystone and thought "that rocks". Marg
@melodeescarlet When a woman complaint. All you say to them. You wear men jeans 👖& pains. So, what the different. & they just walk away.
I have found that since I came out, even when in bloke mode, I do give women complements which are well received, but then I am quite ancient
Well ladies, let me think for a moment, hmmm... So far in my journey as a woman, I have been called gorgeous, pretty lady, Good morning beautiful, love your hair girl, you look stunning today, and I often get told that I have one of the sweetest voices.
How does it make me feel? Like the woman I truly knew I was since birth, very feminine!
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
You raise a great point Lauren. When you are called those names and receive those compliments how does it make you feel? For me it makes me feel happy and makes me smile for the rest of the day. Looking further that happiness comes from a deeper level that I have been acknowledged as a female and it justifies to me that I am doing the right thing in being the woman I am.
Receiving a compliment from a woman goes a long way in validating a CD's or Trans woman's efforts to emulate a female. I have received compliments from women and also find myself paying them much more compliments. I believe it's because there is a very low perception of sexual undertones to it by most GG's. This has allowed me to very often either give or receive a compliment. I find that is a very nice and very welcome activity to share with GG's, either young or older.
I agree with Fiona, I try to compliment everyone when I can nowadays. In my sales career I dealt with 90% women and I didn’t complement them as much as I wanted to because - like Melodee mentioned, I was fearful they might think…”what’s he want?” Or, get the wrong idea somehow. Then, as I matured - I started throwing caution to the wind and just saying what I thought. Many times it was: “Aren’t you gorgeous!” No woman ever hated my saying that to them. Ever.
And now that Grace is out and about on this site, I try and complement members photos as well when I’m so moved. We’re all trying hard to look as best we can. I know I have butterflies posting pics so I figure others do too. And we do have some good-lookers on this site. Lovely ladies.
One of the things that I found in my long career in sales was that there were two types of people who really responded to flattery: Men and women.
GP
I’m still living in the closet so I’m just going to guess due to the way I dress I probably wouldn’t get anything good my SO says I look like a stripper and other names that I will not say sure you all could figure that out so it would be interesting to see what the world actually thinks
@erinb Erin, I'm sure every closetted girl on the planet wonders about the possibilities. I know I do constantly xx.
As we can see from the replies women are more complimentary and use terminology that crosses the gender boundaries.
When I first started to go out the feeling for me was that they were addressing me as a male dressed as a woman. It would be seen by me as a gesture of encouragement and acceptance.
Once I understood the 'code' it became easier and accept they were in fact addressing a woman. I have been addressed as 'Ma'am, Mrs, Miss, 'That lady'and even Grandma! It is not uncommon when being in a group of G.G. a waitress will ask 'What can I get you guys' and be referred to as a man would a woman in being called Love, sweetie and so on, it's all part of the code.
I have had compliments on an item of clothing or how I look overall and it is genuine so I am now compelled to compliment and in return as a womanly gesture to another woman.
An update on this particular subject. After having this discussion with a number of people there I have come to a conclusion that us males do compliment each other regularly just as females do. The difference is females seem to compliment each other on their appearance and things about their personal self like their hair, jewellery, clothes or their figure. Males will tend to compliment each other on inanimate things and not about anything personal like their car, chainsaw, mower or power tools. So us males do compliment each other just not in the same way.
I have taken a leaf out of some of your books and in the last few weeks made a point when I have been Olivia of complimenting some of the other females I have been chatting to and their reaction is wonderful. You can see the happiness and they seem to have a glow.
On the other side I was the one with the glow on Wednesday when I was wearing in public a wig I had never worn in public before when I was walking to my car in the shopping centre carpark when a lady walking the other way stopped and said to me "I just have to say your hair looks gorgeous" I said thank you so much and had quite a glow myself.
In the past few months I have had a few people see me as Olivia for the first time. Two doctors who are both female and a good mate who has known about Olivia for the past few years.
Both doctors immediately said I looked lovely or words to that effect and one doctor complimented me that she liked my hair and loved the slacks I was wearing. The other doctor complimented me on my makeup and asked about the layers of makeup that I had put on.
In vast contrast a mate of mine called me at the last minute and said did I want to meet him at the pub for lunch. I told him I am all done up as Olivia so I can meet you for lunch but you will be seeing the female me. He said that it didn't matter and come as you are. When he saw me in the carpark of the pub he said G'Day Dude and we hugged as we normally do. Not a word was said about my different appearance. His next words were "Your old Toyota looks like it needs a wash." We then had a conversation just like we nornally do. After a while he asked me how often I dress like this. I then told him about once a week and that he could ask me anything about my dressing but he said he had no questions to ask. There was not a single comment on anything about my appearance.
I love this thread! 🥰
Y'all get compliments. I don't think I ever have in public. I got one for my blouse from another crossdresser at a CD gathering, once.
The only term of endearment that I remember is being called sweetie by a sales clerk during the only time that I dressed as close as I get to being en femme, in a ritzy mall. That was it.
