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[Closed] The term "Sissy"

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(@altrealtraveller)
Reputable Member     Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

All,

In my ramblings on the internet, I come across the term "Sissy" to describe a particular kind of cross dresser.   My understanding of this term is a male who is submissive and prefers to be some what dominated by someone else while dressing in women's attire.

Personally, I dislike this term.  I cross dress to become a woman, to feel like a "Normal" woman or as close to normal as possible.  I dress conservatively and tastefully, comport myself with dignity and class, and generally act like I would  assume a real woman would act.

Now, I realize others dress for different reasons, some sexual, some fantasy, so if that floats your boat, you go for it.

As for me, once I'm dressed up, I'm a regular kinda girl and try to conduct myself as such.

To quote an often used phrase, "Your Mileage May Vary".

Thanks.  Just had to get that off my bosom.

Leah

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Leah. Terminology can be confusing and enlightening. Acronyms similarly so. A few days ago someone wrote of a word used in a way that was completely new to them. Speak to someone in their Teens, 20s and you hear words that imply something completely different to what one understands. Would be interesting (ambassadors, are you listening? Ooh, that was the word, ambassador) to gather together a list of words. Who defines them? Well, we could have our own little “WhyQPedia”!

Sissy was the word today. Connotation with that has changed or become less defined. A sissy was a dominated CD. Dominated by another woman. Now, it is much softer and alluring. The sissy may in a sense be the dominant one in a relationship. The dominant one may be one of us. I would ask for clarity here, but believe it is a sexually defined relationship. It defines that relationship but in others may be different.

Another variation is Top v Bottom, where there are degrees. Like far left and far Right with moderates making up the middle? I would love to sit around and debate how sexual (not sexy) we are same/different, demanding, etc vs non-sexual “just like how it feels”. I don’t know those numbers and for me to say, “it has to be...” would be pompous and ignorant and at the least uninformed. I can only speak to me. Tops can like red wine or white wine -same as Bottoms. Same label. Oh, I could go on and on with this.... but, as those of you who have come to read or avoid reading my dialogue, I think to much but an audience of one will promote that.

Thank you all

kisses

kate

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(@myfanwy)
Honorable Member     Mid Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Leah.I don't like it either.I have seen sissy posts on Youtube.Forced feminisation is not my cup of tea.

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I’ve got a hunch that it’s more than a cup of tea and a cucumber sandwich!

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Duchess
(@augustvaliant)
Noble Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Leah I dislike the term as well. Growing up where and when I did, it was used to describe someone who couldn't throw, couldn't catch, ran slow, wouldn't fight or couldn't win one........ It was interchangable with faggot. The use of that word brings these connotations into my mind. Guess who was a late bloomer in sports..... Did you guess me ? If so you guessed right. I didn't get athletic until puberty in an athletic sports neighborhood.

I have seen pretty panties online and thought "I gotta have these...." and then went to add it to the cart and saw they were labeled "sissy panties". Nope, I'll pass. Removed from cart.

As for people who.... identify as sissy. That's fine. I can deal with it. I can accept that some want to be a submissive and there are many degrees of submissiveness. Submissiveness is fine.  I'll accept the word for the sake of others and I won't ever be upset by someone using it to describe submissiveness,  but I don't use it because of the personal connotations and feelings it brings up in me.

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Jenny. Bravo. Peace of purpose.

Kate

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(@donnagurl)
Eminent Member     Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I couldn't agree with you more Leah.  "Sissy" is a derogatory term, and your definition is spot on.  Like you, when I'm dressed, I'm just one of the girls.

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(@leonara)
Noble Member     Long Island,, New York, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Leah,
I am with you girl!!! When I dress I feel like a complete woman too.. thank you for putting our feminine feelings in perspective.. thanks for sharing
Leonara

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Lady
(@jenn24)
New Member     Springfield, Missouri, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I would say here that as an older person,50. I was dressing when  their was no internet and I knew there were others out there but no idea how many or where. Wasnt about to ask.

 

The belief by "non" dressers,,lol..was if you had an appendage and wore womens clothes you were a sissy. So as much as I did not consider myself a sissy then or now, I still knew that I had to be one because of my penchant for female attire.

That said,

The internet and one site in particular has taken the term sissy and ran with it. That was pretty much the only crossdressing porn if you will that was available for a minute. So?..

There is a movement right now and we have adapted the term Charlie. So I am a Charlie. We turn alphas into betas! (Drops mike)

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Nicely put Jenny , I crossdress & for the most part am submissive in the bedroom , however for us I don't crossdress in the bedroom. ☺

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👏👏

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(@pattygurlcd)
Noble Member     Louisville, Kentucky, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi gurls,

Interesting topic,

I kind of thought the S word was taboo on here.

I think us crossdressers as a group have very different reasons for what we do.

From the pure feminine side to the sexual  side its all part of us.

I for one have always been drawn to women cloths and once I started wearing heels it progressed from there.I love my feminine side.

However I must say that the sissy captions from the one internet site fueled my passion a great deal.

I must say I am with Jenny there is a sissy side of me.

Thanks Jenny for sharing.

Patty

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(@iloveskirts)
Active Member     Bangkok, Thailand
Joined: 5 years ago

I m sure I m a sissy.

I m wearing black panties and a pink skirt now.

I want to submit and serve a woman and all her friends.

I will do all the household chores too.

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Cynthia. Being a sissy brings you pleasure. A choice. A wish. Sexual excitement is a gift. How many men and women have not known it or no longer remember it. CDing is taboo to those who cannot or will not be open to its revelations. Whatever pleasure it brings is more pleasure (this is not only sexual) than previously existed. More solitude. More peace AND YES more thrilling.

It does feel “nice” to serve.

kisses

kate

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Duchess
(@pattyphose)
Famed Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

When I first began dressing, myself and those who dressed like me were called transvestites, TV and other derogatory names. I was OK with being a TV. Several years ago I began hearing the term crossdresser. I like that and believe it suits. Sissy? I'm OK with that but it's a bit harsh.

I'm too old to be a ladyboy, but I think in my teens I would have loved that and had a lot of fun with it.

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