This is a support site...I would ask for some now please

My Dear Grace,

I'm so sorry that You have had to experience that situation. I can totally empathize with You. Before retiring, I was the CEO of an organization with about 1000 employees.  We've had all sorts of violence against our staff (a snow plow driver was even shot at by a guy with a rifle - luckily the RCMP got him - they always get their man you know).

It took us years to accomplish, but we built a culture of people first, and that means our staff.  If staff are respected, treated well, paid well, and listened to, they will treat the customers well.  The year before I retired, we won an award as the top company to work for; very proud of that accomplishment.  After I retired, my replacement (an outsider) changed the culture of the organization away from people and toward numbers.  What a disaster.  What took years to build came crumbling apart in a few months. That organization wouldn't even make the list of top 200 companies to work for; morale is at an all-time low.

Sorry, back to your point.  Having a people culture meant having a top notch HR department that existed to support staff, not to make rules (getting rid of bureaucratic rules was one of my first goals).  The manager of HR sat around the corporate leadership table and always made sure we made decisions that focused on and supported people.  So incidents like you faced were treated immediately and the individual had support from the organization and teammates.

Did I ever cry? There were times and circumstances where I did shed a tear.  And there is nothing wrong with that. The local town council though, the politicians who were my boss, thought I was a bit soft and too people focused. But I lasted a long time in my role and after I retired, they hired a (perceived) tough numbers guy (who by the way only lasted 18 months).

Thanks so much for sharing your story Grace. And I agree with you, sometimes I too hate the human race; but thankfully there are way more good people than those scum. And especially here at CDH; it is so nice to be in such a supportive group.

Have a lovely week Grace.  Put up the good fight and let your emotions flow when needed.  Love You, Hugs, Krista.

As others have said, unless you're a lion tamer, a jockey, a member of a professional sports team, a dominatrix, or other such profession, violence in the workplace should never be acceptable.

I don't know who benefits from the lie that men don't cry, but someone must, because this lie keeps on getting perpetuated.  If you feel like a good cry, have a good cry.  Don't worry what other people (whomever they are) say.

Strength to you and to your coworker.

Alison....thank you!!.

The Dominatrix, violence in the workplace line really made me laugh out loud.....my " smile "to start my day xx

Krista.

Thank you, you are always so quick to share the love and huggs, as are so many girls here.

I think being a bit softer and people focused are wonderful traits. If you would accept them as compliments, I would gladly send them.....grace 💓💓

Sometimes we need a good laugh to balance out a good cry.

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to your colleague.  It would shake any one up, and cause long term trauma on top of.

Holly put up a post a few weeks back about how people have to be reminded to be kind to others.  It really saddens me that humanity has sunk so low now that they can do harm to another person like this.  It is unacceptable.  I am glad he was arrested.

I don't want to go on a rant about how mean people can be towards one another.  Even though my job is not hospitality, I too see the effects of impatient people and how mean they can be to another person.

I hope your colleague takes a few days just to recover.

Thanks Wendy...she is off until she feels ready to come back....I have spoken to her and I think she will return soon...xx