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Hi Ladies, last night I come home after work, I have had the pink fog taking over for the past six to seven weeks wear I can not control how iI have been feeling, the dysphoria has been unbearable, with my wife and daughter being at home all the time I can not dress, so I have been under dressing with bra very small forms body suit under my drab clothes, Well last night I forgot to take out the forms when I arrived home, My wife standing straight in front of me, pushers her hand on my chest and freaks out, The first words that come out of her is WHAT ARE YOU DOING , then she said this is a deal breaker I can't do this anymore, I know I have overstepped the boundaries, and just don't know how to explain to my wife why I need to dress under my drab clothes. If it was only that simple. So this day of may I am feeling very Blue
Thanks Ladies for listening
Paula XX
My heart is aching for you, I was in that very situation last week, with the bra strap showing at the shoulder. Have could they understand what we ourselves can barely wrap our heads around. Every day it’s like stepping on eggshells. Not really knowing how she’s going to react on any given day. I truly hope you can work through this, they don’t know how much we need their support in this. Big hugs 💕 Katie
Paula, feel so sorry for you!! I agree with Katie that we don't understand the desire or need to dress. Hope you can let the wife cool down then let her know how much you love her but how the desire/need to crossdress just gets so overwelming. IF you could get across to her that you are scared and worried to where it might leed and you could use her help in sorting this out.
. I hope this helps. We are all here to listen and help where we can.
. . Sandy
So sorry Paula Do hope you and wife keep communication going the key to success. Possible little yen and yang.
Big hugs
Donna
Oh maybe let her look at the different posts on CDH.
Paula, will your wife go to counseling with you?
I'm so sorry to hear that Paula. May you and your wife be able to sort this out.
Big hugs, Stephanie 💖
So sorry for you! Keep chin up sweetheart... if this wasn’t meant to be then it wasn’t. Just be patient and talk, talk and talk some more. Maybe your daughter is more comfortable with the situation?
Bless you, Polly 💕🌹🌷
This post has many angles. Underdressing is such a persomal thing. Do we need our wife's permission on our underwear choice, I hope not. It's not meant to be seen.
Pushing your chest, how did that even start. I would never push my wife's chest, those are intimate parts.
Sorry, cheer up!
Hi Paula.
Firstly, I'm sorry for your dilemma, it sounds like you are at breaking point.
Obviously a time for talking, as others have said...... but this type of call for help comes up so often on cdh that one thing always goes through my mind....
Have you ever thought about introducing your wife to CDH.???.
yes, I know that maybe it sounds silly, but if she could see some of the articles and posts on here, it may help her to see more clearly exactly what you are going through......and also that she is by no means....alone.
Just my thoughts.....grace xx
Hi Paula
I am really sorry to hear the situation you find yourself in and I hope that you and your wife can keep taking and find a solution where you are both happy and you can be the person you want to be.
Take care
Samantha x
Hi Paula,
I can only echo what the other girls are saying, they are all great ideas.
How’s it going today? Any better? I hope so!
All the girls at CDH are here for you, love you and support you. Reach out when you need us.
Hugs
Jillian
Sometimes these 'oops' moments are a blessing in disguise. It may not feel like it right now but it is a means to open the discussion. I hope everything goes well. I hope the awkward inbetween time is short.
Grace thank you I said that very thing to my wife last week. But I think she's afraid of opening that door for whatever reason. I feel her pain, I think she thinks its just going to go away, that I'll get tired of it. NOT. 💕💋 Katie
I'm so sorry Paula. I hope you and your wife come to terms. The why's, hows, and because of our dressing are difficult enough for us to grasp. It's so much harder without support and or acceptance from a loved one. Somebody said "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger" Well, we're here and we support you. Hang in there.
I am sorry Paula. I think a lot of us have felt the kind of pain you are suffering. I hope you can work thru this with your wife. Keep your chin up. It is so hard to try to explain our desires to others. They can't understand something they can't relate to. Good Luck Honey.
