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I have been contemplating starting the real hrt. I have a SO and would like to bring it up to her. Does anyone have some experience with this. Not sure how it will go but I am wanting to become the real me in body and mind. I have been taking some supplements and have had some results. Really enjoying this. Any advice would be appreciated.
Hi Amber,
I came out to my girlfriend as a CD 4 years ago. She's tolerant but not very accepting. Being dressed while she's home isn't an option. In the last year I've started to feel that I'm transgender. I'd like to start HRT sometime in the next 2 years. I haven't told my GF any of this, but she seems to intuitively know. She told me she knows our relationship is changing and expects I'll move on someday. Hearing that hurt. She's probably right.
Not being able to live as my authentic self sucks. I've gotten to a point where I'm unwilling to sacrifice my happiness for others.
That's the question you need to ask yourself. Are you willing to risk losing your relationships to live the way you want?
You didn't say if your SO knows about any of this. I'll make an educated guess she's noticed the supplements doing their thing, and she knows you're a CD. Assuming that's correct, it'll probably be a lot easier breaking the news about HRT. You may be able to simply tell her without much fuss.
If she's in the dark, you should plan to discuss things slowly and at her pace. Learning that her SO isn't who he seems to be will be a shock. She'll probably have a ton of questions. Give her honest answers. Save the news about HRT for later.
You might want to consider counseling for both of you. Find a counselor that's qualified for gender issues. Many are grossly misinformed on the subject.
I wish you the best.
Hugs, Emily
Emily,
I am starting my HRT this Friday. My significant other knows I was cross dressing but I don't tell her everything.
My situation is unique in we moved back in together because if the pandemic and our son. But the health situation will improve so I am moving back out around June. I am just going to do my HRT treatment and when it's noticeable I will tell her. But it's really not up to her anyways since we are not legally together.
I had a back and forth relationship with her for awhile and it will hurt when we do go our separate ways but I been living my life based on what other people thought anyways all my life. It's time to live the way I want to live. It's may seem selfish but if I am not my full self I can't be there for the ones that I care about and vice versa.
I would tell her in "bits and pieces" since most people can't digest the whole situation at once. My HRT will eventually manifest physically so I can't hide it. I will tell her but when it is the right time.
My new vocation us the kind of job I can do by myself, so I am lucky I don't have to worry about workplace harassment. As far as my significant other, I am just miserable being my "alt self " I have to grow and if I don't I will die inside. But I am starting my transition now instead of later.
She needs to know, your girlfriend just as mine needs to know. But you can give yourself some time to tell her at the right time
Laura
