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Hi lovelies,
Today I'm on a mission. Friends are coming round for a meal. Well, apart from food prep, cooking, a quick hoover around, declutter, and clearing the dining table, not much to do.
Oh yes, and remove creams and potions from the bathroom, pick up random false nails, clear drying clothes away, and, and ... -- but there's always something to forget or miss. For instance, it could be a cross dressing book lying on top of the bookcase, you get the picture.
I work on the DADT principle. Which paradoxically means I can't satisfy my own curiosity and so don't ask "when you came round, did you notice anything out of the usual?".
If you feel obliged to follow a degree of subterfuge, how well are you at keeping on top of things?
Good question! Usually most of my items are kept tidily put away. HOWEVER ... I am not out to my son, daughter in law and grandson. When they visit, one of my grandson's favourite games is to hide one of his soft toys somewhere in the house and then get us adults to search for it. Hiding places usually include locations such as wardrobes or drawers. You can see where this is leading ... 😮 .
It's only a matter of time before I will need to provide an explanation ... but I will be ready for that!
Rebecca
@fembecky hi Becky. Grand children, don't you love 'em !? My 3 haven't been old enough when I get a visit to climb the stairs or play hide and seek. But that time will come. I'm not quite as confident as you that I could spin an explanation for a room full of Emma clothes.
But on the plus side, I don't have the dread I once had at such a scenario.
There is another incident which I have recalled. Although it's not "hiding evidence at home", it is about not hiding evidence in a hotel room. I originally recounted this in the Forum topic "Funny stories both crossdressing and non crossdressing related", but thought it worth resurrecting here:
THE NAKED LADY INCIDENT (about 2005)
I was visiting Newcastle upon Tyne in the north of the UK on a business trip. Returning to the hotel at the end of the day, I laid out lingerie and breast forms on my bed ready for later, before going to the restaurant for dinner. Returning to my room as I stepped out of the lift I came face to face with an attractive lady clad in nothing but a towel. Apparently she had just had a shower and then decided to put her meal tray outside the door … which promptly swung closed behind her. I gallantly offered her sanctuary in my room while I called reception to ask someone to bring the master key for her room. I had forgotten that my “items” were in full view on the bed, and it was obvious I was the lone occupant of the room. Nothing was said and I will never know which of the two of us was more embarrassed.
And the icing on the cake would've been if she'd seen your items and asked to see you wearing them!
/EA
@emilyalt
Thanks Emily ... that thought has never occurred to me over the years, but will now be difficult to get out of my head. I can see the scenario playing out: I put on the items in question; she is suitably impressed and says "hang on, I'll just go and get my make up kit" and returns with that plus a dress that she thinks might fit; suitably dressed and made up she then says "you look great, let's just go down for a drink - my thank-you for rescuing me". At that point I think my knees would have buckled, but we would go down to the bar and have a lovely evening chatting together like two girlfriends.
Well ... it's a nice dream 😊 .
Rebecca
You have to be methodical. Scan each area of every room like a detective looking for clues in a crime scene.
@beths hi Beth,
To which I respond , " me ? Methodical ? " You're right of course, but I'm getting to the stage of going upstairs to do something and forgetting why once I'm up there 🙄
It is amazing when you are on the mission of hiding things when you know someone is coming over just to later see something you missed. A pair of panties kicked to a corner or something left in the medicine cabinet. I know once I thought I had everything put away when a friend saw a sports bra in the hamper in the bathroom. She never brought it up but I have no doubt she knows it was mine.
I'm an empty nester and divorced so don't have to worry about things out and being seen. I do take pride in keeping my closet nice and organized. So most times things are not just out and about if someone stopped by unexpectedly.
- @pantyloverguy I admire your talent for tidiness, Carla. As an empty nester too, I confess I'm at the opposite end of the scale. So I'm actually quite grateful that such a visit kicks me into gear.
I used to do this but grew to hate it. I wasn't just hiding who I am from others. I was hiding from myself. That weight became too heavy to bear. I came out to my SO years ago and stopped hiding. I now live alone and could care less what anyone sees. Being closeted really sucks.
/EA
@emilyalt hello Emily, I can't disagree with what you write. Deceit can be easy to write off as a little white lie, and for some it' seems the only path forward, but it's ultimately not a healthy way to go. It's good that I can smile at myself nowadays and I think that's a major step in accepting myself. But I'm still a work in progress
I did once have to move my handbag off the peg on the coatrack by my front door 🙂 This was after I'd come out to my OH, we stopped at mine on the way home to hers, just to change to my other car, and she asked if she could use the loo. I only moved it out of deference because she doesn't even like to think of me as Fiona.
@finallyfiona yes, a little thing to keep the peace. For some reason that reminds me of a time my wife and I were having 'words' in the car about missed turnings. From the back seat a young voice piped up . "Get a divorce !".
Spot on , you shouldn't get upset at little things.. Bless them. That Christmas they spent hard earned money to gift us a Sat Nav.
My wife is out visiting friends this week so Diana is out. I am in a DADT relationship and am very careful about my stuff. However when she travels it all comes out. I try to be very careful and only place things in a certain areas of each room. That way I know where to go when it is time for her to return.
@dianas1960 I try to keep everything I am not wearing in my office, (in DADT) I once put a pr of Black lace Pnaties in pocket of my shorts, forgot an thur in wash. My OH moved my clothes to the dryer, and of course the panties did not stay in. Next morning I go into my bathroom and hanging over faucet are my lace panties. Nothing was ever said.
I should have said thanks.
@lyndajones I had not had any confrontations in 20 years however just recently I was drying
some clothes in my upstairs garage workshop and she came home and I guess saw some through the window hanging she confronted me about that while driving in the car recently reminded me she didn't want to see it
For those in the closet, might I suggest crafting an inventory sheet. This way you will know what you have "checked out" and on the flip side know what you have failed to "check in".
Darcy,
Although I am not in-the-closet, your inventory system is probably the best idea I have heard of for those who are closeted. I will be sure to pass it on to any CDs in need in the future.
You would have made an excellent classified materials custodian in my military/civilian job fields.
@darcy97 Hi Darcy, that's a really together idea - I can see it now. a password protected spreadsheet file. It might also help you remember what the heck you do have. Many's the time I come across something I can't remember having acquired.
Emma
@darcy97 Ha ha, and I'm just the person to *not* use use it for that very reason. But some thrive with lists.
@darcy97 I can only second that. Also put everything you don’t wear, back to where you store it.
When I have selected the outfit I want to wear, I put everything else back in the box right away.
Unless I forget a piece „accidentally“…
