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I wondered if anyone has any thoughts or experience with dealing with mental health issues and if CD has changed it in any way, esp newer girls who are just discovering their sexuality. I've found if I challenge myself to go to the local store say, I get a massive confidence boost that translates into my normal working life. I find I'm caring less what people think of me but caring more for others, it's changed me on a psychological level. You always think is this just me and my nutty brain or do others feel the same? I'd love to know
Dear Poppy,
Others do feel the same. Acceptance of who we truly are can be life changing. My anxiety has all but vanished and my self esteem is much more solid. I have read a few stories written by wives whose husbands transitioned to women. They often say their husbands were angry, anxious and depressed. Now they are wonderful people to be around. No your brain is not nutty.
Chloe
Hi Poppy
Being new-ish to going out en-femme I say a definite YES!
Its why I urge Girls that are debating it to go out. The first time is incredibly liberating. Each and every time thereafter is another boost to your confidence and self-esteem.
You'll realize that not only are you less worried, but when you can walk tall with confidence, other people are less worried about you. You'll also realize that most people aren't concerned and are usually all too busy about themselves.
You have to be your TRUE self...and sooner or later your TRUE self will no longer accept the privacy of the 4 walls you call home.
Robyn - xo 🤗❤️
Hi Poppy, I’m new at this so my experience level in this area is low. What I can say is fear is a huge barrier to get buy. This goes with anything you have not tried. People parachute and yes at the first time they have fear. After they do it a few times the confidence level will increase and the fear level will decrease. Now apply this barrier to CD, I too have the same fear of going out in public. I did a small test the other day and it gave me a small dose of confidence. I will try it again and again until I feel safe for a bigger step. So you are not nuts and it’s not just you. I hope to be as brave and courageous as these beautiful ladies. Long ramble hope I answered your question.
I’ve noticed big positive changes in all aspects in my husband since he’s come out of the closet to me!
Hi Poppy
You are not alone.
For me it did start with the clothes. But as my confidence in what I was doing grew and I joined this site, I realised I was doing nothing wrong, not harming others. Getting positive feedback from this site definitely was the springboard for me to let the Bianca out in me. Now realise this is the true me, and is coming out from under a lifetime of learned masculinity. I am happier, calmer, more empathetic and not afraid to show it. Manifests itself in simple ways, smile more at strangers and engage more, drive more defensively, more courteous, would be less likely to get into confrontational interactions. I also pay much more attention to my body, not just trying to dress better, but skincare, trying to stay fit and in trim, and keeping body hair at bay. I think if we like what we see in the mirror it is a big thing for ones mental health, and I definitely like seeing my femininity on show in the mirror more than looking back at my old drab male self. Shallow??? Maybe, but it’s how I feel and gives me such a feeling of happiness and wellbeing.
❤️Bianca
Yes, Poppy
I believe it changes us in a positive way. It makes us both stronger...and softer. It is the internal mental changes that came with my awareness and self acceptance that surprised me the most. And still does.
Olivia
Hi poppy. I haven’t been out in public yet but I feel yet but I’ve done a lot of soul searching of late. As I come to grips with myself I’m becoming a better person. I smile more freely, I’m kinder to others, more empathetic simply put I have less pent up anger. Maybe that comes from becoming more comfortable with myself and figuring out what makes me tick. I am definitely a better person now than who I was a few short months ago.
I agree with what's been said here. The confidence to dress and go out contributes to my comfort to be in my own skin, if you take my meaning. I feel better about who I am, my stress goes down, my anxiety is reduced. When I cannot dress for a longish period of time, these things go back up. I begin to feel uneasy again. But overall, since I discovered myself, as it were, I'm a happier person.
Bridgette
I’m exactly where MelanieElizabeth is. I dress at home but I’m overall a better nicer person since I’ve started to explore my feminine side.
Patti 🥰
