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Hey all! Been tossing around the idea of changing my femme name. While I like the existing name and it brings back some pleasant memories, it's also a reminder of a chapter in my life that's been rather forcibly closed on me, and which I'm trying to put behind me.
Some background: I took up the Val'sheril moniker back in December, after a character created two years ago as a romantic interest in an RP with a woman I later started dating in real life. She had her reasons I'm sure (due in a large part to a personal crisis I'm not at liberty to disclose here) but she's since cut me off completely.
So I'm wondering: is it a completely kneejerk reaction to want to switch things up like that? It's been less than a year now, so it's not like I have a ton of name recognition as Val. I realize though that if I'm going to do it sooner is better than later. Still, it's a bittersweet prospect.
For the record, if I end up changing it the current frontrunner is Astrid Lenore (last name tbd - my RL one is just too distinctive for my comfort).
Thoughts?
It’s a lot to think about! I think girls like us should be open to name-changes throughout our journey as so much can alter our feelings. I began my account with a drag name then chose a « proper » girl’s name I liked but then I hear about some of our sisters’ experiences and I think « is this what sounds right? » not sure yet! Thinking about changing to Dara, I would love to be called that in person, but I’m Aoife to all my sisters here, so it’s complicated... Plenty of reason to do it or at least not feel obligated to keep what you have now IMO.
I agree with Aoife that we should feel open to change our names no matter the reason. I don't think its a kneejerk reaction at all. One of the wonderful things about our journey is that we do get to name ourselves and it may even help evolve our own understanding of who we are. So please feel free to change it and know that there are many on this site that have done the same.
Hug,
Michelle
PS Aoife, I like the name Dara. I worked with a women many years ago named Dara who had a great sense of humor.
Thanks Michelle! I always found it cute and pretty but not imposing. Then I heard a great all-female band from 60s Indonesia (if you can believe that!) called Dara Puspita. It means « flower girls, » though I don’t know which word means which it makes me like it more.
People do change their names for various reasons, and it is usually a very personal decision. We need to be comfortable with our femme names, and if you don't feel that your name "belongs" to you, then find one that fits you better.
Amy
When I first began dressing fully fem and going out my name was Debbie Daniels. Girls began teasing me about my pantyhose as I always wore them. One time while entering a party they gave me a name badges that said Panty Hose. I thought it was silly at first and was going to change the name badge but I was having fun with it. I began being know as Panty Hose. Then on one name tag the n was written kind of small. It looked like Paty Hose. I thought maybe Patty Hose could work. To make it a little different I kicked around making it Patty Phose. It was just for those parties at first but I liked it and never went back to Debbie Daniels.
