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Back when this was all a bit new to me I came across an article where someone said, why would you bother with tucking when you are at home, there's no-one around to notice so what's the point.
At the time that seemed like a sensible opinion. Unless you are out in something tight enough, like a bikini, to warrant the need for a flat appearance why go to all that trouble? Once I bought my first gaff though, just to see what it was like, I decided I liked the look with dresses & especially leggings.
These days though I find my opinions have shifted somewhat. It seems it is now more about my self image than simply appearances. Right now I am dressed pretty much full time at home & even when I go out I always wear my sports bra with enough padding to satisfy me without looking so "mooby" that it raises eyebrows & wear a gaff & panties more or less full time. It feels like I am about where I want to be right now but back then it would have been way too much. What was going too far at one time now seems like the norm & I can't help wondering if this kind of progression will continue & where it will lead.
I'm pretty certain it won't go further than cross dressing & even if I wanted to take it further it would be unlikely to happen as, when I last looked there was a 10 year wait for even a first appointment with a therapist in Scotland so that boat has well & truly sailed.
So, I guess my situation is far from unique but has anyone else suddenly realised that things have progressed way past where you first thought it would & how do you feel about it?
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Sasha
Hi Sasha, I only dress at home and the only one who sees me is my wife. I still like to tuck almost all the time just because it makes me feel better. I like the Smooth look, I hate the bulge, probably because I suffer from dysphoria. Same as you it’s much to late for me to change so tucking is the best that I can do.
hugs
AnnaBeth
For me it is a sense of purpose to have a flat front for the correct image as much as a proportioned breast is important to me.
No one will see, unless I go base over apex and inadvertently show off my derriere.
For me is a sense of accomplishment, I love to wear leggings and having a completely flat front is just flattering, even with a tighter skirt or a fitted dress, got to look like a real lady.
Tucking for me feels like it's being decided by my male brain, depending on what I'm going to wear. For example, my denim fit & flare dress doesn't need it at all, some outfits need a little care with flatness, but for leggings nothing less than the full gaff will do it. That statement comes with the caveat that it could be just 'for now' though, because to me the more important question is the one you pose in your last paragraph.
I know what you mean about taking a mental step back and thinking, how did I get to here? I realised today, in simply following where the enjoyment has led in the last couple of years, I've now acquired quite a collection of (at least the basic versions of) all the feminine 'kit' that's needed, plus the ever-expanding wardrobe and shoe rack. I do so much now that's feminine behaviour, that just feels normal and natural. I'm a different person when I'm in a dress, and I love it 🙂 Maybe that will come to shape my standards for tucking in future!
I'm firmly down the middle on this one . In the colder months I wear mostly lycra leggings . That's a definite tuck . In the summer , bikini bottoms , again tuck . However on other occasions it's just too much effort lol. Today I'm wearing a knee length skirt thats close but not tight fitting . Untucked doesn't show and it so comfortable .
One thing I don't own are any kind of "male panties" or gaffes . For me , they're just not girl clothes although I do understand why some see that differently .
Time and place for all options I guess x
I don't tuck most of the time but then again I don't really have much to tuck ( as I get older there is some shrinkage). That being said, my dresses and skirts are not tight so there is no need to tuck with them. When I wear slacks, jeans or leggings I wear a pad which gives me a smooth front. There is a little tucking with that but not much. Also I only dress at home so it doesn't make a difference if I tuck or not as the only one to see me is my wife. The only other time I've dressed is therapy sessions and that is in a dress or skirt which is loose enough to not show anything.
XOXO
Suzanne
I find tucking to be uncomfortable. Mabey I'm doing it wrong I don't know. But like others here, after a pair of shaping panties and some tights theres nothing too noticible.
Hi Sasha,
My crossdressing has evolved way further than I ever thought possible, and I’m fine with that. Our explorations should be fun and progressive, but I do wonder too, what’s next? I think when we get to this point, we should just simply be patient and maintain what we have until we can explore some more, whatever that may be.
It often drives me bananas that I have a full house at home all the time, while trying to figure out how and when I can sneak into the closet to try something on, talk about patience, lol.
So on the topic of tucking…I never thought it was possible until I tried it. Seeing how everything disappeared with a gaffe was pretty cool. Definitely a game changer for dressing up. Thanks for sharing!
- Tamiya
Generally I don't tuck; tights hold me in place and usually wear dresses or skirt&tops. I've chosen clothes that are not too tight and don't reveal as sign of 'the bump'.
The only time I tuck is whenI wear skinny jeans, I use the top part of a part of tights a size smaller than normal for a gaffe
Hi girls,
I am a trans woman, and an intersex female. One of the "blessings" from being that way is when I hit puberty I developed a pretty bum, hips, thighs, B cup boobs and I have very tiny private parts that are easily "disappeared" by simply wearing snug high cut panties. I have to wear pants as part of the uniform at work, so I wear a style of yoga pants that are tight as leggings but flared at the lower leg. How does it look? I never have problems with ladies restrooms, and some of the ladies I work with think I've had bottom surgery!
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
I have never tucked, the thought of it fills me with dread. It's bad enough accidentally getting the jewels caught between your leg & a chair, without stuffing them into a confined space. 🤣
I don't tuck. Especially in summer when we regularly hit 42c. Go completely Scottish under the kilt go to speak.
Winter time often sees the boys doing a natural retreat.
it's all personal preference, I suppose, whatever makes one feel better about one's self. I've been tucking for years. Tough to remember the first time, I suppose I was worried, nervous, whatever. But I've been doing it now for so long, it's just one other step in the process of dressing, which I try to do about 3-4 times a week. I happen to like the smoothness I can achieve, just makes me feel better about myself when I can see no lumps...and without extra appliances like gaffs. As mentioned above, aging does provide some assistance in that area.
I'd also like to remove all my facial hair, as to me. it's just a necessary evil to have to shave every day. I do try to keep 'extra' body hair to a minimum if I can, like on the torso which I also don't like at all. I did once have a mustache and for an even shorter time a beard, but it was just for the experience, and I was thrilled to remove both.
Yes, to tucking. Always have and always will. Just feels natural to me.