Want to go out but afraid.

Honey, looking at your photo's you have no worries your gorgeous. Maybe try going for a drive and stop for gas or a drive through or do some window shopping down town on a weekend day early and ramp it up from there. You look fantastic, I'm 59 and wish I had a figure like you.

BIG hugs, Michelle xo

Hi Nicki,

The first time out is scary, as every girl has gone out can testify. But you CAN do it, in small steps. Austin is a liberal town, so most places will be safe. I don't "club" either, but shopping malls and supermarkets are good places to go, and my first public appearance as Lulu was at Ulta, where I kept my appointment for a makeover, followed by a very short visit to a nearby mall. I didn't stay long, and I didn't shop; just out long enough to see that the public wouldn't come after me with pitchforks and torches. My actual first time out as Lulu was just a drive, about 30 miles. When I got there, I got out of the car, walked around it once, then got in and drove back home.

Every trip after the first one becomes easier to do, and your photos show a very nice-looking and convincing lady. You might also buy a couple of things at a Walmart, and use the self-checkout to minimize interaction.

Hugs,

Lulu

Nicki, yes, it is scary. But you can do it. In my case, the first time had to be like ripping a bandaid off, or jumping into a cold body of water. There’s only one way, quickly.

If you can work up the courage, I would recommend going to a CD friendly club.

I’m very shy, but my most recent experience in a club was so fulfilling. I was sitting alone and was approached by a lesbian and was asked if I wanted to join her and her friends at their table.

They accepted me with open arms and I enjoyed 4-5 hours or blissful fellowship and fun.

They were truly compassionate with my situation of being closeted at home and even asked my preferred pronouns. I hadn’t even given it much thought, but asked to be referred to as she, her, and hers.

I thought I was in heaven.

Everyone is different, though, and I realize my approach might not be for all. Previously, I had taken smaller steps, but you just have to try something.

I wish you the best.

Much love,
Raquel

ps. Please keep us updated.

Just pull up your panties and do it.  No question that it is scary but once you are out I am betting that you will soon find that people will look but ............... so what they arent going to take you to task for anything other than their own thoughts which remain in their head.  For me it has been the scariest and most thrilling thing I have ever done.  No question that it is most difficult to take that first step out but once you do you will have a hard time to not smile.

Best wishes for a great experience.

Hi Nicki!

Hang in there! I'm in the same boat, but have gone out "semi-femme" once the moon rose over the horizon. It was such a liberating feeling, but terrifying too! I had some make up on, short-shorts (love them!), nude nylons, but hideous work boots! Only 2 ladies and a guy could make out what I was wearing, but said nothing and didn't give me a second glance (boo!). I think I may just get some cowboy boots - that could work with that outfit...

Yes, the world is a very funny place, where everyone has a funny, funny face. (Now where have I heard that before?).

Good luck, Nicki!

💋 Barb

It’s not easy. I’ve been out a few times. I was self-conscious every time, but loved being out. But I admit I go back and forth. I haven’t been out in a few weeks because I got cold feet. But I know I will get out there again. It’s inevitable.
For me it was just a matter of deciding  that it was part of who I am and the people around would never come to accept until and unless I get out there and show them. So I just…did it. And for the most part, nobody seemed to care. I really think it’s all about confidence. If you’re worried about how people are perceiving you, it will show. If you’re confident and comfortable, people around will also relax and be cool with it.

…And there’s no shame in being a wallflower…

Im with you nicki. I haven’t been out either. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve dressed , had a purse packed and lost my nerve at the door. In my case I lack the motivation to risk being clocked to simply go shopping etc. If I had a cd friend to meet with for a lunch or dinner for example that would motivate me to finally get out the door. Good luck.

Hi, Nicky.
Looking at your photo's, you have nothing to fear, you are one beautiful lady.
I agree with several of the girls, here, go for a drive, and stop at Walmart, or some similar store, Austin is a pretty good sized place, and I can guarantee, not many people will be looking askance at yoou, there are too many "oddities", at every wally world I have ever been to,,lol
Hugs,Regi👸💖

Nicki.

Get dressed, look the best you can ...then just go ...even if it's to your front gate or the end of your garden.

The next trip go a bit further....and the more nothing happens, the more your confidence will soar....you don't have to go to packed places...go for a walk in a park, or on a beach. You don't need to mingle until you feel comfortable...and that will happen, but it just takes time....

best wishes, grace x

No pain ,no gain as they say. The degree of your fear is outweighed by the thrill of the experience sis. That is why so many girls like us continue doing it and never stop.  The girls here have given good advice about stepping out at first and after a while you wont even give it a second thought. The excitement and satisfaction of being out and being yourself is far better than merely dressing at home. It all became second nature to me now and do it several times a week. Good luck sis

Here’s another thing. People are generally very self-absorbed. 99% of them won’t even notice. I love to wear lipstick and earrings when I’m driving around. I always try to see if other drivers or passengers notice and almost NEVER get a reaction.

Maybe I should try to keep my own eyes on the road, though, so I don’t get into an accident. 😁

I know what you're saying girlfriend. I'm afraid to go out in public as Liara. I want to but can't get up the nerve.

Hugs, Liara

Liara.

I have just read that you have only just got up the nerve to post pictures of your face...well let me tell you, you look great.

Going out and about ???...never say never!!!!

Grace xx