wanting attention

You must be very passable to get that level of attention.

A few times while out shopping in femme mode, I was wearing pantyhose with shorts shorts and platform wedge heels. Girls told me I had nice legs and they liked my shoes. A few times I was asked it the pantyhose I was wearing was what I was buying. The first time that happened, I panicked and hurried away, leaving the pantyhose I was going to buy behind.

The next time that happened, I was just as panicked but didn't run off. I talked about the pantyhose I liked to wear. After a couple of more times, I began hoping I would get compliments and get to talk about girly things.

Honestly, I feel uncomfortable with the idea of taking actions with the intent of trying to grab attention and/or provoke a response. It feels like an imposition on others or exhibitionism. I do what I can to blend in as a transwoman, to not really be noticed at all, and certainly not to seek attention.

I am not passable so I want to get that out first.  One evening I was out buying some new pantyhose, panties and a few other items and I took them to the cashier to pay for them. She looked at me and said love to see you in these.  I said thank you, paid and left.  You just never know.

I know the feeling, but have never had the experiences you have had. I do some subtle showing off, meaning just normal, everyday wardrobe malfunctions like a popped button, or a slightly too sheer shirt/blouse, et cetera. I have never had a comment, other then from my wife who just says my button has popped, or my bra is showing.

I'll preface this by saying I'm single.

But to answer your question, YES, but it's not for a date. Attention, getting hit on, for me, is simply used as validation that perhaps I succeeded in my goal. I admit, it's also fun getting compliments.

This is also an area I believe being born male has a huge advantage... I know exactly what most men are thinking as soon as I walk in the door. From where they're going to position themselves to get a view, to making a mental excuse to be near you in some way, to what action or look will take their breath away. I use all those things in my favor. LOL.

Carmen,

Like you, I don't mind getting attention and compliments from others when I am out & about. I consider it validation of all the time, effort and money spent trying to emulate a woman. And yes it is certainly a big plus to be able to read men's minds and know what they are thinking.

Exactly!!!!

In my younger years of masculinity and trying to understand the world of women, I'd hear a woman say "I don't doll up for men, I doll up for myself because it makes me feel good." Back then, I never really knew what that meant... I figured, that's BS, you do it for picking up on dudes.

Now, I know the meaning behind it. Yes, it could be construed in either direction depending on context... but so much of that phrase has true meaning now.

Thanks for the tip. At times I love that attention too so I am going to try the bra exposure myself

I freely confess that I wear low cut and backless short dresses and halter tops and mini-skirts - especially those that reveal my firm and shapely derrière - to make boys' and girls' heads turn. (And a little red dress unfailingly does the trick!) Be honest: who doesn't enjoy compliments, longing looks and free drinks? The only downside - you can't control who's attracted to you. I now have greater sympathy for what women have to endure, being placed in the undesirable position of having to repeatedly say increasingly firm "no's" to unwanted advances.

As a frighteningly passable older CD. I sometimes push the envelope. I have created a true to life online presence that generates quite a few comments. Unfortunately, most are sexual and unappealing. I have no problem with expressing my female persona in almost any situation. I don’t flirt intentionally, but I have been ‘hit on’ a few times.

I’ll never have these experiences, they just make fun  at my cane.  LOL.        You are all a bunch of vixens, and I love it!!

Those little "I know, and I'm a friend" comments are awesome.

I am older and not that attractive. However, I have had a few times where I received very flirtatiously long looks from others. I must admit I loved it. It was so validating to me in my efforts to be presentable. Also have had women come up very close to compliment me on something I was wearing. It was very personable and gratifying for me to be so accepted. I don't fool everyone, not by any stretch of the imagination. So those heartwarming times are very rewarding to me.