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Wearing matching outfits with your SO

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(@davinaes)
Estimable Member     El Segundo, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

So ladies, do you wear matching outfits with your SO, either on purpose or not, and in male mode or while dressed?  After knowing each other for over 30 years, married for 24 of those, my wife and I have noticed we dress more alike now than before when I am in male mode. It always is when we are casually dressed, typically wearing jeans with some similar colored top.  We have yet to match while I’m dressed, but I have this feeling that is going to happen at some point too. 

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4018

@davinaes I thought that there would be gasps or worse when two women went into the same room wearing similar clothes. Ambient temperatures would rise by 2-3° if that ever happened. 🤬

My SO doesn't approve of my dressing in the first place, so I can't see this happening any time soon.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4018

Well, nothing is more constant than change.

Today, we went to a big, local home show. I noticed my wife was wearing a pair of low block-heels similar to what I have. If I had known that she was going to do this, then I might have changed into my own. We may see this happen yet.

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(@pattyphose)
Joined: 9 years ago

Famed Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Posts: 2296

@davinaes When I first met my wife and we went out as girl friends, short denim shorts with platform wedge heels and pantyhose was common attire for girl's our age, so that's what we wore.

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(@Anonymous 76954)
Joined: 3 years ago

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@davinaes Davina that is kinda of funny, I find that when I am shopping alone, usually at a thrift store,  I will inadvertently purchase very colorful floral blouses that my wife is fond of.  I sometimes think of other styles that I would like better on me, but that is what I get.  Maybe seeking approval from her?  Not sure but it has to be connected somehow

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(@missylinda)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Ft Worth, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 851

@davinaes absolutely not!  My wife is not a fashionable dresser in the least and has not been for the last 40 years.  Lorraine on the other hand wants satin and lace inside and out all the time.

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Lady
(@jillleanne)
Joined: 2 years ago

Prominent Member     Renfrew, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 605

@davinaes  not so much matching outfits, but similar in style.we also share clothes due to similar likes.👍

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

My SO goes out with me from time to time, but we've never coordinated outfits...well, except for this past Halloween, where we made up 2 of the Spice Girls (her Sporty, and me Ginger). 

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Baroness
(@ryanpaul)
Famed Member     Outer Eastern Suburbs Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
Joined: 7 years ago

1/. Me darlin knows but"does not want to know" about Caty. 2/. She would run a generous 12 and I'm at least an 18 to 20 or any of my femme clothes.

 

It aint gunna happen.

 

Caty.

 

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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

The only time I can think of was once we both wore a pair of Paris print capris and a red top we bought. We originally bought the outfit for her, it didn't fit her, I tried it on and it did. We bought the same thing again for her in a different size. When hers came she tried it on and I put mine on. It was fun spending the day like that, unfortunately it was at home (one of her rules is that my dressing stays in the house). It would be fun to go out in matching or similar outfits whether I was in male mode or dressed. Who knows what the future holds.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@caroline2k)
Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

My partner and I each have a long grey wool bodycon dresses. She had hers already, but shortly after I came out to her, found one in my size on Ebay (she was very annoyed as I only paid £2 for mine! lol) and from time to time we will both wear them. She still looks much better in hers though.

She does joke sometimes that I have 'stolen her style' which I accept to a degree as she has taught me a great deal about accessorising; also, I have inherited quite a few items of clothing from her, so sometimes I am dressed a bit like her 🙂

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Lady
(@cdkaylasnow)
Reputable Member     Denver, Colorado, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I match with my wife a lot more when I'm in male mode.. we're both into the same music scene so most of our clothes are black lol. Sometimes we opposite match and it's adorable... We went on a cruise recently and on the last day I was wearing a red shirt, black shorts, and red shoes, she had on a black shirt, red pants, and black shoes, and it wasn't planned! It just frequently works out that way. My femme style is a little different from hers so we don't quite match in the same way, although she got us some matching lingerie for Christmas

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(@michaela2001)
Noble Member     Goldsboro, North Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

We did before she passed. She was a jeans & teeshirt girl mainly, so we did wear similar colours to match. I used to see a lot of couples like that. She used to like us to wear the same nightwear too, again she wasn't a nightie person, so we used to wear the same short pj's. I used to love it and ended up buying our pj's as femme as I could get away with.

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(@fembecky)
Noble Member     Gloucestershire, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

My wife and I do have similar ideas on the styles of clothes and fabrics that we like. She has a dress in a particular fabric from the store we often go into, and I (separately) bought the skirt in the same material. I usually try to avoid wearing my skirt if she is wearing the dress, but a few days ago we found we had coincidentally chosen the matching dress/skirt 🤔 . I pointed this out to her, but she was not at all bothered about us going out together in similar styles. However I don't think we would ever deliberately aim to fully match each other - that would not go down well!

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(@blondsherri)
Honorable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

After being together for more than 45 years and only having so many clothes, it's bound to happen when I'm in male mode. As far as when I'm dressed as Sherri, I think she would go out of her way not to dress the same since she is really only just accepting my dressing and doesn't join the fun. I am so envious of all you ladies that have such supporting partners, hold on to them and treat them very special as they are.

Sherri

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(@borealis)
Reputable Member     Tomahawk Area, Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Davina- After about the age of five I would highly recommend NOT wearing the exact same wardrobe. But when you and your SO go out together, I would recommend both of you wearing colors that compliment your partner. The styles should also compliment, if you are wearing a denim skirt your SO should probably stay clear of a evening gown. Stay similar but definitely not the same. LuvNHugs, TERI

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Duchess
(@btwimrobin)
Reputable Member     In the middle of nowhere. On the corner of Podunk and Bumble., Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Well back when my wife and I were dating there were a couple of girls (who were probably the mean girls in high school) that always commented how my wife and I used to dress alike.  We generally sneakers, jeans and a golf shirt.  Looking back, I found it to be a left-handed complement. Some 25 year later for us to wear matching outfits means I would have to go out in boy mode.  LOL

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Duchess
(@amydoll)
Estimable Member     Leicestershire, United Kingdom
Joined: 12 months ago

Its never happened (nor is it likely to, being closeted) but I love the idea!

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(@Anonymous 76954)
Reputable Member
Joined: 3 years ago

We do not consciously match but what does happen is one of us will buy or order something eg leggings and the other will go "oohhh they're nice " and get themselves some . 

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(@Anonymous 76954)
Reputable Member
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Davina, though my wife and I are different shapes and sizes, there have been many times over the years when we have both liked and bought two of the same dresses/skirts etc. I do try to avoid wearing the same outfit at the same time as her - but she is often amused and points out how I have been influenced by her style - and she is right: I think her influence has helped me learn to dress in a coordinated and ‘quiet’ way! X

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Lady
(@jennyw)
Estimable Member     Athol, Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

Yes we do have a bit of similar styles, hers is more laid back jeans and shirts/ sweatshirt. Mine is more skinny jeans and a shirt in guy mode. In feminine mode it is skinny jeans and a pretty top or Blouse or tangtop that has sparkling patterns. I am differently the more girly one out of the two of us. But over the years I have bought so many clothes  for her hopefully she would wear that now they fit me and she let's me have them. 

Did I do this subconsciously maybe I don't know. 

 

 

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