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Kicked to the curb, depression that is.
After a legnthy talk with my wife the other night she pointed out that ive been a lot happier, back to my usual self. She asked if I was doing okay (she was concerned about my well being and my depression). I had to stop snd fhink about the question. As I hadn't even noticed the change myself.
As I thought about it, i determined, that yes, i am doing better. At some point tge depression that had been plaguing me for what feels like forever, was gone. I cant believe I hadnt noticed it being gone. It had been bothering me and messing with mentally day after day for so long, I thought for certain it would be something that I should have realized for myself.
She noticed that i was deep and thought, and asked what was wrong. I told nothing was wrong, I just trying to figure out when I started ferling happier. She knew exactly how long.
She said from the day I revealed I wanted to crossdress and such, I've been back to my regular self, happy, and full of energy.
Now, I didnt think that was causing me any problems keeping it a secret. But obviously I was wrong. It must have been acting as a dam, not letting me work through all the issues and stresses without addressing it first.
Anyways, I just wanted to share.
I think another large portion of help has been here on CDH. Giving me a safe spacevto express snd talk about crossdressing and make new friends. Thank you
Hugs,
Kyra
Hi Kyra,
Well a great many of us girls on here have been through the same experiences of emotional torment and depression, until we had the courage to come out and admit our life style. Often many get support through SO's or families and friends, sadly many do not. One piece of advice if I may, if you and your SO ever find that you are both struggling please seek professional help from those trained in this field. Silence is often a growth for depression and both of you must continue with honest open conversations and consideration from each other through out your relationship.
Remember we are always here for you for support, and there is a group that supports SO's too. Lol Amanda xx
I am so happy that you have some way resolved your issue with depression.
For Trans and C.D. it can be the silent killer. Mental health is a very big thing these days and I believe is being overcooked as every event seems to cause something to a persons mental health. I do not say this lightly as I have suffered and I have been dealing with these cases for years and saw the side of it that is very dark. There were people who were lost in a system that was being swamped with cases that, quite frankly, didn't need to be there but it was a 'badge' they could use to be a facile victim. I'm sorry but it angers me with what I have seen, victims who committed suicide, families ripped apart because the system couldn't give them the help they needed. The endless phone calls and reports, I cried sometimes at what I dealt with and then it happened to me.
A lot of girls here just feel better being with others who will listen and share. Even being silent but reading the life experiences is a comfort. It is so simple and we see the benefits. Just being here on CDH is a great help to girls when they are down.
You are not and never alone here.
Hi Kyra,
Nice to hear that you're feeling good now. I'm sorry to hear about your depression. I suffered with it for about 15 years and even though I'm mostly free, I think it's a bit like being an addict. You're always an addict and have to remain a bit vigilant even when you're clean. You're very lucky to have a partner that cares enough to notice these things. Living the life you want to live is one of the best treatments. All the best, hugs!
-- Abbie 🥰
Good for you - I'm so happy for you! 😄
I am so happy to hear that. I know when I told my wife I was done hiding it, I felt the weight of that secret lifted from my shoulders. Hiding such a large part of yourself is absolutely draining, and the pain that we both experienced when I told her almost tempered our relationship. I am a better person to her because I have finally allowed myself to love myself guilt and shame free, that has had the effect of loving her more, expressing my emotions more effectively to her and just allowed me to be happy. I still suffer from depression and I probably always will, but I do not have that dragging me down as well.
