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Like little everyday details you never hear a woman complain or even mention.
I will go first.I love high heel boots so when i dress i usually have a hosiery and boot combination on.I never thought about foot slide in my boots but every time i take a step my feet slides in my heeled boots.
I agree with Samantha. Before I embraced my femininity and began to explore my feelings in depth, I never realized the importance of selecting a wardrobe that flatter one's figure. I have selected my masculine wardrobe to align with my body type for years, but that is easy compared to doing so with my feminine wardrobe. I also did not realize how difficult putting on pantyhose and tights were. I love the way that they make my legs look, but I could avoid the difficulty in putting them one. Lastly, it would have be using the facilities when wearing a dress especially one with a full skirt.
MacKenzie Alexandra
MAKEUP!! The never ending powdering your nose and touching up your lipstick. Especially after eating out. Which brings the second point of eating dainty, due to makeup, instead of man sized shovels and gulps.
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It takes me at least an hour to get ready. Granted I wear more makeup than most and have to do my nails but it is time consuming and limits how often I fully dress and go out. Makeup is expensive.
I have had cat calls when out as well and while flattering it it is creepy. I try to make sure I am not is a place a woman would not be alone by myself.
I choose food that I can eat easily, no sloppy burgers or wings. More salads.
Constantly being told, “you should smile more,” or “all you need to be more beautiful is a smile.” It’s like if I don’t have a maniacal smile on my face every second of every day there’s something wrong, or I’m being catty. It can get really annnoying when I am concentrating on doing something, and I am stopped and told I need to smile.
Another thing is what I call the “pivot,” which happens almost every time I talk to a guy. No matter how nice the conversation is going, or what we are talking about, at some point, the conversation will pivot, and he will say something along the lines of, “do you mind if I ask you a question?,” or “do you mind if I tell you something?” Followed by him telling me, “ do you know how pretty you are?”, or “I find you very attractive.”
On one hand it is nice to hear, but it’s kind of offputting when we are talking about an academic subject, and then I’m suddenly being hit on. I then wonder how much he was actually interested in the conversation, and how much was him just “humoring me” waiting for his chance to hit on me.
Along the same lines, I never realized how persistent men can be when pursuing you romantically. I’ve had guys that I have shown no romantic interest in, who will virtually pounce on me when they see me online, and I’ve noticed that some guys will check my profile almost daily, waiting to see when I’m online. There are some guys, who, when I see them come in, I will just leave the room because they are just so aggressively persistent. Again, on one level it is flattering, but there is a poinnt where it becomes more creepy than anything else.
Samantha and MacKenzie hit on my two main items I did not think of before I dressed fully as a woman. The fear of being a woman on the streets fear of where to go and where not to go so you are safe. I think I pass fairly well but as a woman on the streets I have to worry about going down an ally to a shop or coming in the back door of a store. Where as a guy I never had those worries. I think it may be more enhanced due to fear of discovery buts still I know and watch getting into and out of a car a lot more. The other is dealing with all the clothing articles when going to the bathroom. Wow panties, girdle, pantyhose then the long floppy skirt or dress that you have to do something so it does not fall in the toilet while you are trying to go. Wow I know now why it takes longer for ladies to go to the bathroom. Longer than just the time to get into the stall and to do your makeup. : ) Well those are my surprises being a woman.
Sara
Shaving legs and body hair is soooo time consuming. More clothing/lingerie that has to be hand washed and expense of same. Finding the right shoes and size, a big pain. Co-ordinating an outfit. Doing hair and make-up. Oh how I wish someone would invent the Jane Jetson dressing machine wherein you walk in one side of the "dressing tube" and walk out the other side....all dressed, showered, hair done and make-up done! No wonder Royalty has 57 hand maidens to assist you "getting ready"!
Lady Veronica
As Samantha said, I was not aware of how many creepers there are roaming around. I sometimes can't believe what men have said to me, or what they have "shown" me as if anyone would ever really respond to such vulgar or perverted activities. I have even been groped in public, during the day, with people about. SO many of my female friends have shared stories along these lines. Very eye opening and somewhat discouraging.
I had that problem as well and broke a heel too. It helps alot to not walk heel to toe but put both down at the same time. But if u slide around alot it could just be shoe size or break in stretching. Heel cups might help as well.
My first time out in full dress it took 4 hours to get ready. Honestly tho I love it. As hard as it is the effort really pays off. For mebitmreally is the makeup. I look around and see so many good clean makeup applications and ask myself "what am I doing wrong". I would have to say makeup was my biggest wow moment followed by outfit coordination.
On one of my late afternoon walks at a park, a guy walked up to me and asked me my name. It was a question that was not well intended, and it made me a little scared. If he had tried anything, I knew I'd have to resort to defend myself thus giving "me" away. I just kept walking, heart pounding the whole time. He kept calling out, and then shouted "Bitch!". Out of habit, I turned around and saw that he was walking away. It turns out that he was doing this to women at the park in the late afternoons and early evening, and it made our local newspaper once complaints to local PD were made. I had just built up my confidence to start going out in public, and this nearly derailed it. I purposely did not dress to attract attention, I had my hair in a ponytail under a cap, simple t-shirt, shorts, and a pair of white Keds. It hasn't stopped me from going to the park, and as far as I know there haven't been any reports of this guy harassing women. It was an eye opener for me as to what women can be subjected to, and it has made me more sympathetic and understanding.
Taking off those nice leather heels or boots and you see where your sweat in them
It's the time it takes to look completely feminine from head to toe. Us girls need to do so much more then the real girls. For me it can take up to three and sometimes four hours, depending on the look I'm going for, to look completely feminine.
Above all, I'd say like so many of you I didn't realize there were so many creeps around until being out en femme. You become so much more conscious about safety. The other thing is the difficult conflict between wanting to look really sexy and balancing the needs of safety, appropriateness as well as the limits of one's own body.
Tweezing!! LOL!
