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The simple answer is a lot, which I hope it is for everyone ( I'm Canadian, I want everybody to be happy together, lol🙄). It is a place I can relax and enjoy myself. I can actually finally enjoy Who I Am with this Thing We Do with others. I can be happy with being me and who I am, and have fun with my fellow "sisters" being who I am - I do like having fun. And nobody runs away from me laughing or screaming, there are not many places in life I haven't worried about that happening... that is so heart warming and encouraging.
But even more important for me is that it is a place I can be open and allow myself to show weakness and vulnerability. The opportunity to share being angry with myself, or messed up with dysphoria... being hurt and feeling lost at times.... of not knowing wtf is happening, you know?. All that and more I can allow myself to show because I feel the security of the support and kindness of this site and the girls in it. I do not feel people will judge me or hate me here for it, not most anyway. That's a rare and wonderful feeling.
Above all the fun and frolicking, that is what makes me smile most, its really that part that I cherish.... and need most of all. They say what doesnt kill us makes us stronger, and we are all survivors of sorts, so there must be a lot of strength here, right? Living thru the pain makes us stronger, and to those who share that pain - thank you. Be you crossdresser, transgender, trans- dresser (lol), anywhere on that spectrum, or however you describe yourself, we all gain some insight or strength when we share these things with each other. I really do believe in the old "share, and gain strength thru the sharing" idea.
Haha, ok, technically no one asked, but that's what's important to me. ❤
Stevie
Thanks, Stevie!
I enjoy your posts and responses tremendously. You really got me thinking about where I fit on the spectrum. The more I think about it, the more slide along it! It's all good, especially knowing I'm in amazing company!
OK, no more gushy stuff. I remove one point for that "fat" comment! 😂
💓 Barb
I enjoy this site so much. It is a place i can be my feminine self with out judgement.
Hugs, Liara
Hi Stevie, great topic! What CDH means to me is this is the only place on earth, outside of my individual therapy sessions, where I can know that no matter what is scaring or troubling me, there are thousands of other gurls ready to step up and help - even if it is only to say they understand. Sometimes that simple acknowledgement can mean the difference between hope and despair.
I have jumped in the deep end in the couple of months here and I make as many friends as I can, just because I know how lonely and anxious most CDs are and they may have trouble being the first to reach out. I doubt many would believe how opposite Brielle is from my guy personality. You would not even think I am the same person at all - physically or emotionally. Having this site to just be open and blab (a lot, some would say!) has saved Brielle's life literally.
I love all of you dear sisters!
Brielle 💕💋💖
Hi Stevie
Couldn't have put it better myself.
To be able to be yourself and chat to like minded people is amazing. I have not seen anything on this site other than kindness, compassion and humour.
Amy. x
Hi Stevie...
great post.
For me???...cdh is my bolt hole, it's the only place I have where I can meet like minded people. Whatever part of the crossdressing journey they are on....it's something I can relate to.
I'm pleased to pass on what I have experienced, and in exchange, I get the satisfaction of seeing girls grow. I have also learned a great deal too.....nobody knows everything.
Apart from all of this, you may have noticed i like to have fun, and a good laugh never hurt anyone.....being in a happy place is good for my mental health too.........so it's win, win, win
Grace xx
You are so right Stevie!
All of us older CD's know back in the day how hard it was to express ourselves or to even know there were others out there who were just like us. Making contact was almost completely out of the question and most of us felt alone and isolated in our small confined world. Some of us felt that we were defective and perverted freaks... something had to be wrong with us.
This site is called Crossdresser Heaven and is exactly that, heaven, and was started by someone who completely understood our obstacles and saw a real need to create a mental health space for girls like us. We are all grateful for that and benefit here every day from their foresight. A big thank you to who ever began this little slice of heaven and a big thank you to the moderators who keep it safe and clean.
The younger generation of CD's will never know how difficult it used to be but I'm happy and encouraged by all the progress made. We have come so far so fast. Every time one of us goes out dressed it advances our lifestyle toward more acceptance in the public eye so get your girl on as often as possible.
Copy that, Grace!
You delivered us the best spectrum of all! On one end I'm in tears of pain, care and hope; and on the other end I'm in tears of laughing joy!
Thank you Grace and everyone else for putting a smile on my face!
I love this place...
💓 Barb
Nice post Stevie,
I was really nervous and so skittish when I first engaged here. Within a couple of months I realised, for the first time in my life, that I wasn't thinking about my cross dressing impulses in a negative way. Wow, some site!
Then I felt guilty - about the fact I was getting all this implicit free therapy, so I chipped in and became a baroness. I don't use many of the 'extra's that this provides and don't care. Just glad to be part of this happy little band of 1000s of sisters.
Marti xxx
In a word, everything. This site has given me the courage, mindset and guidance to step out into the world. That to me, is everything.
Trisha
I read all the posts about what CDH means to me. Great posts. Talk about hitting the nail on the head! In a short time CDH has become a HUGE part of me. Wish I had the money I'd get everyone here to a great big party! I can be assured it would be the biggest HOOT of a party that ever was!
Thank you Stevie for your wonderful post.
I love CDH for all that it is. A place to meet others like me, to discover that I am not alone. A place to learn and grow. A place to discuss, not just cd topics but anything that passes our fancy (within boundaries.) A home for love, caring and support. Somewhere that I can pass on my experiences and knowledge with genuine interest returned. My comments are accepted openly without criticism or scorn.
CDH is a home for comfort from the world, somewhere I can be open with all the wonderful ladies here. There is no fear or trepidation here, only trust and love.
I saved my favorite part for last. The fun, humor and joy we all share. I look forward to finding posts from our resident humorists. A thank you goes to Scarlet, Amanda, Holly, Lisa and innumerable others that bring joy to my day.
❤
Beth
To me, CDH means all of you. Kindred spirits. Folks I don’t need to explain myself to.
Be well y’all,
Miss Clara Cross
CDH means the world to me. If didn't come across this site be no where that I am today. With all the help from all the fine outstanding girls here that helped me with the steps to go forward.. Gain alot great ladies friends. Also able to share some personal experiences. To all the ladies here and to the staff thank you for having such a fantastic site. For all.
Hugs
Donna
Well said Stevie!
Alice
