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What is "Conformity" Anyway?

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Lately the term "gender nonconforming" gets thrown a lot, especially in regards to children and I feel like I can't be the only one put a little off-ease with that. While technically it's vague and expansive, I feel like in the modern context it's putting a pretty extreme identity on what is often very normal behaviour. Depending on who you ask "gender conforming" can be extremely rigid and just about every person will defy that in one way or another.

Obviously everyone here has some issues pertaining to conforming to gender norms, but even in many communities of male-bodied people presenting in some way as female there are some very rigid expectations for conformity. Personally, I think people are either conformists or not and that transcends all other divisions. In my own early life I've concluded that I was not a conformist, neither is my father. My mother and brother on the other hand certainly are. In one of their few instances of positive parenting, my parents identified this, but once anything girly came into the mix it got scary.

A question as simple as "what would you have named me if I were a girl?" was enough to show how off-base my mother's expectations in a girl were and enough to hide away all my curiosity and appreciate how much worse this family would have been as a girl. My brother's more "classically boyish" interests were highlighted as such against my own ("neutral" I guess you would call them?) further showed how little interest I ever had in conforming to male norms. Likewise, I think I was really put off by the feminine when similar conformity came up. I wasn't into "girl stuff" either, not in the big ways at least. I envied girls for their joy, clothes, and the seemingly less hostile treatment they were given, but confirming into girlhood was just as unappealing as living up to the boys' expectations.

Sorry that's a lot, but what have your thoughts been?

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I wonder if survival is a synonym for conformity ??

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