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What is the best advice you were given?

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(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
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What is the best advice that you have been given by a woman, be it a partner, friend or stranger?

My wife gave me four words of advice that I use many times a day. 

Skirt up. Knickers down.

I had often wondered the correct/better way to sit down on the toilet.

What great advice have you been given?

Cerys

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@dazzler Something I read recently when Joan Collins turned 90-something was her saying - “Nobody needs to eat more than two meals per day and probably not even that much.”

As much as it irritates me to admit it I think she’s correct. It ties right in with what my dear ol Mom used to say about eating - “Nobody needs all that.”

I don’t like it, but heeding both of these ladies advice allows me to stay slim and trim and fit into my dresses better.🥰

GP

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@gracepal Wonderful to hear this advice on daily meals.  We were raised as part of our religion, almost, to eat "Three Square Meals a Day."

It has been drilled into us so much it is almost a sin that requires repentance if you didn't eat breakfast.  You want a lecture?  Just tell someone you skip breakfast.

Dani

 

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Lady
(@harriette)
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Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@gracepal Exactly!

When I noticed, a few years ago, that my weight was creeping higher, I heard a radio program describing intermittent fasting. There are a few ways of doing this, but because of my medication schedule, I chose eating two meals per day and cutting down on the late night snacks. Easy peasy and it did the job. 

I still want to lose about 10 more pounds, but everything is within reason now.

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(@crazycynthia)
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Estimable Member     zuid holland, Netherlands
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@gracepal this is very true, breakfast was invented for people that did hard physical labour, those people do need it. Most people are fine with a modest lunch, a big dinner and a few sugerless snacks.

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Lady
(@harriette)
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Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Posted by: @dazzler

My wife gave me four words of advice that I use many times a day. 

Skirt up. Knickers down.

I had often wondered the correct/better way to sit down on the toilet.

Recently, I have been testing wearing a very short miniskirt. Just having fun, no harm done, right? Lifting my skirt was the most natural thing to do.

I think the only thing that I received advice from a woman was when a shoes clerk basically said to just go for it and do whatever I want to do, and to sod the others what they think. 

 

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(@crazycynthia)
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Estimable Member     zuid holland, Netherlands
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@dazzler its so corny but "be yourself" i was so busy trying to be the best everyone wanted me to be. My life got way better when i started being the best i wanted to be! ❤️

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
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@dazzler following on from this, I was told to make sure my skirt doesn't get tucked into the back of my knickers

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Lady
(@jillleanne)
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Prominent Member     Renfrew, Ontario, Canada
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@dazzler when we go out somewhere, she will tell me if something I’m wearing is a bit too much for the occasion. All dolled up for Walmart just doesn’t blend well.

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Lady
(@kimdl94)
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Reputable Member     Blearmill, Texas, United States of America
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@dazzler I am fortunate to have a friend/former colleague who, among other things, has a minor in theater arts and is a skilled a make up artist.   When I came out to her, she gave me a very detailed makeup tutorial.  Since then, she’s my go to for advice on makeup, hair styles and clothing.

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Lady
(@cherylt)
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Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
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@dazzler Your feet point out in the restroom. LOL

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(@joanarbour)
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Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
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@dazzler For me it was "remember men's waists and women's waists are in different positions. Women's waists are 1" to 2" higher" that way skirts fit so much better.

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Duchess
(@jennconn)
Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
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The best advice that I was ever given is that no matter what you do whether it’s for money or fun, be the best that you can be.

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The advice from my female supervisor my first day of teaching:  "Go slow, go slow, go slow."  I've appropriated this now whenever I make significant decisions.

Dani

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(@leah63)
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how to remove eyeliner/mascara like I never had any on...

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@leah63 

Well, we're waiting, Leah. How's it done?

Allie x

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(@leah63)
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take a q-tip with makeup remover and rub along your eye lash line until it is clean

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(@alexina)
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@leah63 

Thanks, Leah, I'll get rid of the sandpaper now.

Allie x

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
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Ever? 🤔 

Dad: "Fair? Who said anything about fair?"

About CDing: Someone's reaction to you says everything about them and nothing about you.

Really it applies everywhere, but I find it especially builds my resolve when it comes to dolling up.

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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@melodeescarlet Not ever, best advice from a woman….Dad’s don’t qualify M. Have to be honest it was harder for me to think of advice given to me from a female. Good advice anyway…after all, they’re always telling me to do something….🤣

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
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I started to wonder where ' Skirt up, knickers down' was going, thank goodness your wife was referring to toilet protocol Cerys!

Dani, as a kid I was told to have three square meals a day too then wondered why plates were round.

I have been given a lot of good tips from friends of mine. I was chatting about make up with a friend who had worked in the business and discussing my attempts at having even eyebrows.

She said that the sides of the face are different and that eyebrows aren't twins but two sisters who look alike.

Another was when with an older lady she pulled the back of my cardigan down saying 'It's riding up at the back sitting high on your shoulders, they look slimmer now'.

 

 

 

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
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Posted by: @ab123

 

Dani, as a kid I was told to have three square meals a day too then wondered why plates were round.

 

That comes from the Royal Navy in the age of sail. The crew ate off square wooden platters

 

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Hostess
(@ab123)
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@annaredhead Never knew that, thanks, just thought it odd as a kid does.

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Lady
(@margprodue)
Noble Member     Madison, Wisconsin, United States of America
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Hi Cerys,  Following all the eating advice.....40 years ago my doctor (Dr. Anne) said "every time I see you you are up 1 to 3 pounds and if this continues in 10 years we will have a serious talk about weight, diabetes and salads.  So, if you want to continue to eat pizza and drink beer you have to adjust your portion each day until you can maintain your weight and still enjoy the foods you like.  Instead of 2 beers, drink one and also one glass of water and instead of 5 slices of pizza eat 3 otherwise we will have a different talk in 10 years and you won't be happy.  Keep adjusting your portion until you can stabilize your weight." It took me 10 years to really learn how to manage what she said but I finally got control of my body and still eat pizza and beer (2 times a day, it's my favorite meal).  My weight is now well controlled and my doctors are amazed at how healthy I am and wish they had lab numbers like mine.  Anyway that's been a good guide for my life and I'm glad she got stern with me.  Safe Journey,  Marg

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(@christineth)
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@margprodue a few years ago, my doctor asked, after noticing that for each year of the previous 6 year I have been gaining a kilo a year: “don’t you do any exercises?”, I told her that I play at least 3 hours of intense badminton a week.  Then, to her question of what I do afterwards, I said I have a couple of beers.  She then gave me some lateral thinking advice…”stop playing badminton!”.  I did so, and found that now I had 3 extra hours to drink!  A classic win-win situation! 🙂

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(@margprodue)
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@christineth I love it Christine! Great advice. I'll finish this lunchtime beer and dig out two more. Marg

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(@christineth)
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@margprodue Marge, just the two?

 

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Lady
(@margprodue)
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@christineth Unless you're buying...lol  Marg

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Lady
(@margprodue)
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Ha ha, I do have to work with tools on a ladder soon.  Marg

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Lady
(@mary)
Noble Member     Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
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Best advice was about being married. Love my wife and lay my life down for her. 

In the framework of cding, it prevents everything being about me. 

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
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The best advise given to me was from my wax techician. Even before she knew I dressed she said in response to me showing for an appointment will red nail polish on fingers and toes, " If someone has a problem withit, it is there problem, not your's".

Though not a quote to me, I love the buck up and get it done statement from "The Marvelous Mrs Mysail" as she walks on stage..."Tits Up". It says so much with so little.

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Lady
(@harriette)
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@jjandme This was unfamiliar to me, but I  found a compilation video on YouTube.

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Lady
(@alanmann)
Estimable Member     Walkertown, North Carolina, United States of America
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My best advice was given to me by my next door neighbor. She told to wear tight skinny skirt so I won't have another maraline Monroe moment.

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Lady
(@harriette)
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Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@alanmann Interesting. The voice of experience?

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Lady
(@alanmann)
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Estimable Member     Walkertown, North Carolina, United States of America
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@harriette I was walking my dog in heels and a pleated skirt with a white petticoat under it with a short sleeve v neck shirt with my blond ombre wig on. A gust of wind blew up my skirt and that was my Marilyn Monroe moment.

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Lady
(@stereleo)
Estimable Member     Las vegas, Nevada, United States of America
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Regards to going in public to the 9s the first time: “in a hundred years, who’s gonna care?”  (Then rephrased to tomorrow)… same answer.

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Lady
(@sf)
Prominent Member     SoCal, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

This may not be the "best" advice I have ever been given but they apply to crossdressing, as well as life in general.  

1. Be good, and if you can't be good, be careful.  

2.  You do you boo.  (From a gal that I have known for 40+ years - the wife's best friend - after she found out that I crossdress)

I try and heed both.  Smile, Staci...   

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
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Only good advice I get is from you lady’s as a closet dresser no one to share with lol but my SO did say I need to dress more lady like then a stripper she don’t support or anything but allows and always laughing at me when we cross paths ooooo well TC lady’s and thank you all hug 🤗 

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