What is your biggest fear and how do you get over it...

One of mine was shopping in person for clothes. But I have shopped dressed in drab, once for lingerie for Valentines Day, and once for leggings and a top at Target. Both times, the young ladies that helped me were so cool, understanding and very helpful. Their reaction (or lack thereof) to me put that fear aside...next is shopping as Haley😉

Haley😘

I love in a very redneck town like I’ve said in another post and race really isn’t much an issue here but most of them are vocal about disagreeing with this lifestyle and like you said I’m petrified of the scene

I can protect myself so I’m not worried about that but would be humiliating I think

I shop in drab all the time but still get butterflies.. I’m always afraid someone is watching and judging me... just an irrational fear but it’s there...

Thank you. I don’t know if anyone would.. I’m always afraid that when I start doing my makeup myself I’ll still look more manly than female... I know Makeup is going to take a bit of learning... I’ll get there though I’m sure.

Tonya.

Not wanting to repeat myself after the last post...( put that damn trumpet down!!!...haha).

Being outed...if it happens, it does... it's like saying I'm never going to drive in case i crash...

Confidence....

Just as i'm ready to leave, i check myself in the mirror....right gracie, time to meet your public...keep calm and tell yourself...your just a woman going out shopping...millions of them do it...i dont stare at anyone, certainly dont look round to see if anyone is looking, thats no no..

just look ahead and walk the walk....soon I'm in MY world, not worrying, just shopping. I have had " the look"... but it's never come to anything....everyone else is doing their own thing. The only way this will EVER work out, is if you try...the more you do it, the more confident you will get....

and yes its okay to be nervous, gosh i still get a buzz, but that's all part of it.....

There's quite a few girls on here have recently made their "maiden flight".....maybe they could post and tell how they felt???

Best wishes, grace xx

confidence is the key to all of life isn’t it. I do fully believe you that in time the fear will go away. And like you said I’ll be just another one of the ladies walking the shopping malls or wherever I may be.
❤️💋

I think I’m going to start with foundation, mascara, eyeliner and lipstick I think if I can get those down it will be easier to move on to the rest.

My fear is running into someone I know, not seeing them and then they spread the news far and wide. I saw my ex wife once in a store but she didn't see me thankfully...she has become quite the  bigot late in life. As far as having a fear of being out...today I went and bought new sheets from Kohls, some towels and foundation at Target and went grocery shopping at publix as Sandy.

Sandy

Well sounds like your ex has missed out on a wonderful opportunity with you.. bigoted people are the worst... I have that same fear of running into someone...

I sort of have two fears.

The first fear is that I might not be sufficiently feminine. I do not want to 'pass', I am not trying to be female, I just do not want to be only 'a man in a dress'. A lack of self confidence.

The second is a fear of humiliation. Sticks and stones may break bones but sometimes words hurt a lot more. Commiserate with this is a fear that, if humiliated, I would act in a less-than-ladylike manner.

For example, I have absolutely no problem shopping for feminine clothing. My only concern would be if someone, recognizing that I was buying for myself, would make derogatory comments and I would break a nail while breaking his nose. I would regret that.

Araminta.

I envy girls who can wear heels... I haven’t tried yet... but walking in general isn’t always one of my strong points lol. I’m thinking now that I have my bra, some nice clothes, and my underwear drawer is full lol shoes are next on my list I want a pair of med length heels. And a cute pair of sandals but haven’t really gone shopping yet for them

The second fear is one of my biggest I can easily defend myself... marine corps and martial arts training have given me that confidence but I would be afraid to just be humiliated in that situation... myself I do wish to pass off in dressed as Tonya... she is who I am... if I’m dressed as my make counterpart he is make that’s how I wish to pass... so I also am afraid of not passing do to mannerisms, as well as looks

My biggest fear would have to be getting caught. I'm sure my Wife knows more than I give her credit for. She's made comments and said things that let's me know she suspects something. BUT, getting caught would be the worst. I don't know what I would do if she were to walk in on me while fully dressed as a woman. I'm sure it would be a major shock wave through both of us.
It would be nice if she would just bring it up and make it easier. I will never bring that up but if she were to do, I would open up about it.

Hope I am not sounding overly philosophical here, but... isn't everyone's

biggest fear, fear itself? I let fear keep me from going out for many years.

That fear turned out to be needless and therefore baseless. When I finally addressed the fear, it evaporated. What a terrible shame for me to allow that shadow of fear keep me from doing something I so wanted to do for so long! Once I faced it and overcame I had so much fun being myself out and about as a woman!!!

Face your fears girls and they will evaporate. Then you have reality and happiness too.