What makes YOU want to be a woman/CD

Sorry , Correction , It should read , " What makes You want to be a Women / CD ".

This is a hard question to answer in a way. I’ve known for a long time of my feminine side and desire to wear women’s clothing and makeup (even though I didn’t start doing anything until I was 20). I do know that during my last ultrasound, I did not have male genitalia and my parents were told that I was a female. Somewhere along that last little bit of time, bam they were there. I am at or above average in that department though. I’m not sure what can cause the feelings we have, but I can say that this had to be part of my reason.
Hugs, Ruby

Ruby , So While still in the womb you were a late bloomer on the fence , And like you said BAM , There it was , lol , Sounds like a logical reason to me .

Hi Teri Jo

I suspect you will get a hundred different answers to this one.

For me it is about the sheer variety of different styles/colours/fabrics/looks. Women’s fashion is light years ahead of men’s.

For example:

Menswear, smart(office-wear, weddings, formal events,TVnews)=suit(black,blue,grey,brown),shirt(white,blue),tie,shoes(black,brown).

Womenswear, smart(officewear, weddings, formal, TV news) =separates (skirt/pants/suit/blouse/tops in an endless variety of shapes and designs) pantsuits,Dresses ,tailored,fitted,loose,mini,midi,long,long sleeve,half sleeve short sleeve,sleeveless,high neck,v neck,asymmetric,low neck, in silk,satin,cotton,wool,synthetic,a mix,sequins,lace,buttons,bows,ribbons, in floral, animal print, block colours,a million different designs,bold,pastels,black,white,red,pink,green,yellow,blue,orange,grey,purple,peach,aquamarine, a million shades of pantyhose, lingerie to enhance or hide our shape in fabulous fabrics against our skin,in soooo many different designs and colours, shoes in all the above colours and more, ballet pumps, kitten heels,1”2”3”3”4”5”stilettos, sandals, courts,block heels,wedges,ankle boots, knee boots, hair long,short,up,down,straight,wavy,curly,hair accessories, jewellery, a million different designs earrings, necklaces, bracelets, bangles, brooches, scarves, purses, make up in all the colours of the rainbow, natural or to accentuate eyes, lips, cheeks etc..

could go on and on and on...

Just sooo much fun to experiment. For me you could call it a kind of hobby. Why do some people like fishing, cooking, collecting stuff, birdwatching! Hobbies, we all love different things, just fun.

Yes I do try to look feminine(wig, the way I walk, make up etc)in public, but just want to blend in and relax,  and think I can do this better if I am noticed as female, and ignored, rather than perhaps attracting unwanted attention as a man in a dress, if that makes sense.

If men and women could just wear whatever they wanted without being judged I’d be happy.

Thats just my tuppence worth.

love

B

Teri;

Have you ever talked to your doctor about being small, and getting tested for partial andogen insensitivity?  Did you have a hypospadias repair as an infant/child.. As late at the 70s, they were advising parents to never tell their sons about this if it was repaired.

You mentioned that you suspect, which implies that you haven't.  If you haven't then it might make you feel better, but be aware that it may not come in positive either, and you'll have to deal with the idea that there's nothing physical to "blame it on"..

I'm not a doctor, either medical or Psycho, so please don't take this as advise.   I have become aware that recently some groups have begun to talk about categorising hypospadias as being the far tail end of the intersex conditions, and there's further statements about when hypospadias is intersex and when it's not, but one of the symptoms in the cluster can be androgen insensitivity which has an effect on size and development.    In any case, think long an hard about what you feel would be the impact of a medical reason and proceed as is best as you see it.  If having a reason would help you be happier with yourself, then ask if you haven't.

For the second part of your question... Hmmmm.... I don't know why, I suspect I have a little of the above, but I don't know if it was formative.    It's just always been me; and like a lot of girls here, it's becoming more evident later in life, but has always been there

I'll be watching this thread to see if anyone knows "Why?" for themselves..  I have the horrible feeling that there's no why more important than "I just knew I wasn't a man".   Even as this is patently true for us, it doesn't give me a "why", just an "is".

Thanks for asking the question.

Molly

Ladies;

I hate to point out, but the physical development is quite well into the pregnancy, and unless you are both under 30, the Ultrasound when you were in the womb was much less advanced than today. Even today, it's not uncommon to have the first ultrasound prior to the development of the genitals, and it can also be difficult to see early in the pregnancy depending on the way the fetus is positioned.

Counter case in point, one of my daughters was suspected of being male. (But only on one visit, and I think it had more to do with the technician than the test). She's most definitely a she and has always been so.

So take heart in the idea that we do know enough that there's as least multiple possible causes and you're not broken or defective.. and it may affect as many a 1 in 200 live male births at a minimum. Which means you've spoken to other who are the same way even if both if you were completely unaware. Think about that for a second... 1 in 200 live births is not an evolutionary mistake or mutation, there's a reason for it, we just don't know why.. yet! .

-Molly

Teri,

I wouldn't presume to speak for others, but for me, it's something my wife has (with great perspicacity) labeled as "getting in touch with my feminine side". Even though I'm only attracted to women, married one and raised 4 children with her, I do have some traits considered "feminine", and I do lack a few on the typical "masculine" side. First, age and hormonal shifts revived some long-dormant "fem" urges, and I began to dabble with dressing.When I did, I found the ladies' wear more comfortable and better fitting that what I had. And finally, I was re-programmed against the common opinion that "normal men just don't do that!"
I dress because I like it, and know that doing so doesn't mean I'm weird, looney or perverted.
Different, yes; but there is nothing wrong with being different.
And finally, I'm blessed with a wife will tolerate and accept all of my many quirks.

Molly , Yes , I have done tons of research on this and very aware of PAIS , Partial Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome , Although medically it would take an expensive chromosome text , which at this age [66] and how I feel now its not really important to get that diagnosis , But I have come to the conclusion I fall in this category , Thanks for your input gurl , So I take by your post we are a bit alike in anatomy dept.

Molly , I guess I should have added , But didn't want to go there , My mother was an Alcoholic , I was a alcohol syndrome baby , Actually was starved and abused before I was 1y/o until I was taken to my Grandparents and they gained custody of me while nursing me back to somewhat of a healthy cond. , There's MUCH to my story , I was just touching on high lights , If it could be called that.

For me, its the clothes, the glamour of make up, the sexiness of high heels and pantyhose, the glow of jewelry. I've told my wife, I've always been jealous of the fact that women can change their whole look with a little make up or a pair of high heels, or pantyhose. Men just cannot do that. Dress pants are not the same as a dress or skirt. I love the way a woman looks when she's "dressed to the max". So much so, I want to do it myself. I hate pictures, dont do selfies, but when I'm dressed, Im a glamour queen. I want my picture taken, even take selfies to send to my wife. I would never do that as her husband, but as Chelly, I cant stop myself.

Chelly

Teri Jo;

Having read the reply here and below, it sounds like I did understand where you're coming from. I didn't have a clear idea how much research you'd had.

I too understand the lack of desire to perform testing in the latter half of life, even though testing for me is significantly cheaper, which is something I tend to forget as I've never only rarely lived in a high medical cost area, and never the US. I wouldn't say I fall into the same category necessarily, but I'd really prefer not to lay out those details at this time or in a public forum.

-Molly

I love women and I love women's things. What I have discovered is that when I'm dressed, or even just wearing panties underneath my boy clothes, is that it relaxes me and I feel so complete. When I'm sitting in the family room just watching TV when I have privacy for femme time it feels oh so good. I'll be wearing a dress, pantyhose, and heels, and just crossing my legs with the skirt part of the dress draped over my knee is such a feeling of fulfillment and completeness.
I need to be a man to enjoy my wife and to deal with the world. I need to be a woman to just relax and feel at peace.
Hearing about all of you wonderful ladies on CDH is really very reassuring to me. I sense that most of us remain closeted, for the most part, and dress in private, again for the most part.
I've shared with some of my friends on CDH, but now with everyone. This past year has been one of the best years of my life because this inner woman has emerged. I love it! I want more!

Jessica

Hugs and thanks to all of you for sharing your feminine side.

I have some very different beliefs than some of the other girls but first. A study was done in 2000 by a scientist/doctor in Belgium who found that cis-gender males brain structure differs than a cis gender womans. The two sexually dimorphic areas of the brain, the Stria Terminalus or (BSTc), and the Sexually Dimorphic Nucleus of the brain in a Transgender Woman/Man, matches in size and cell density of the cis-gender counterpart. So, if you are physically a man, and you feel like a woman, then the Stria Terminalus and size and cell density in the Bed Nucleus of your brain may match that of a cis-gender woman. Unfortunately, not enough is known about the human brain for this information to be accepted.

Personally, I totally believe in reincarnation and I sometimes wonder if we don't carry experience from one life to the next. So, you may have experienced good times in past lives as a female but your living this present life as a male, therefore, subconsciously you act out that desire by dressing in womans clothing. Sounds strange, I know but I try to keep an open mind.

What I can say is, in February 2019, I was in the hospital and a Cat Scan of my brain was done and my Stria was very small with few cells and I am on the road to SRS. Go figure???!

My mind and my soul.