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Most days I am out and about, crossdressed, with my wife.
I have some nice clothes; I look quite presentable; I use a modicum of makeup; I have long hair. I don't have jewellery or earrings; I don't make an effort to disguise my voice. In summary, I am not trying particularly hard to pass as a woman and the majority of people I meet in the town where we usually shop simply accept me as someone who loves to wear ladies clothes.
Despite this I am starting to find more and more that I am seen as female. Two instances today made me smile. This morning I came down in a lift in the shopping centre with a middle aged couple. When the lift doors opened I stood aside the let them out; the lady exited but the man said "No, no, after you pet". I have never been called 'pet' before. I think, in some parts of the UK 'pet' might be used for either gender (is that right @jacquelinelarkspur ?), but I am certain that in this instance it was used as a way of addressing a female 😍 .
This afternoon we went to the big "Experience Centre" of a major home appliance manufacturer, simply because I wanted to identify and order the spare part for an 18 year old appliance. The ladies there are really nice - there were 2 on the reception desk and immediately complimented us 2 ladies (my wife and I) on our (unintentionally) co-ordinated outfits. While I was sorting out the spare part with one of them, the other offered to make coffee for us. My wife went with the other lady and after a few minutes I went round to join them. As I approached the other lady she turned to me and said "I was just saying to your Mum ...". I don't think I heard the rest of the sentence as major alarm bells started to off in my head - this could cause a major domestic problem 😱 , especially as my wife generally looks about a decade younger than she is. Very thankfully, I don't think my wife heard it.
So now I not only seem to pass as a lady without trying very much, but I also seem to have "un-aged" by about 20 or 30 years.
Go figure!
Rebecca xxx
In the UK, "pet" is used as a casual term of endearment, similar to "dear" or "love," particularly in the North East of England, where someone might address another as "pet" when greeting them; it essentially means "my dear" or "darling.".
sounds like you received a lovely compliment indeed glad you lady’s where enjoying yourself till unfortunately your wife was called your mum to be honest you must be looking very stunning for one to think that your secret safe here I know nothing 😁🤗
Rebecca -
What a lovely day out for you. How nice to be addressed and accepted the way you were. Hoping you have similar experiences in the future.
XOXO
Suzanne
I have found people use such little niceties when I am out en femme. While I look reasonable when en femme, up close there is no doubt I am a guy in a dress, and I am fine with that. But, people seem to go out of their way to make little leasent comments. I feel it is their way of saying "you go girl" and being accepting with out having to say it directly, which would be a bit rude.
I was shopping en femme at VS and the greeter at the door said, "Welome love" and the cashier greeted me, "Hello gorgeous", both of which I took as support that it was prefectly fine to shop at VS en femme. I did leave a good chunk of my credit card there, so their positive attitude helped their bottomline as well. It was truly win/win.
You are obviously comfortable and dress appropriately when going out with your wife so a natural demeanour is what people see and react to accordingly.
I would wonder if the sales girl made a mistake, good job your wife didn't hear that. All in all the 'Experience' centre was well named.
I agree it so heartwarming to hear of these positive experiences and can enjoy being called many female titles, having doors held and treated courteously by all we interact with.
I enjoy being a girl...
When out en femme with my partner the other week, we were greeted as 'Ladies'
Hi Fiona,
That simple statement really cheered me; I am pleased all is going well.
Hugs, Rebecca x