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It’s funny. I’m brave enough to go out as girly as I can be to go out to eat, sit at the bar & talk to strangers. On the other hand, I’d be afraid to tell a friend or family member that my favorite color is pink 💅
I don’t really care what strangers think. I’m never going to see them again, so who cares if they judge me. They’re going to keep it to themselves anyway & the ppl that think it’s cool or just maybe intrigued why are going to make great company. I live in a Texas suburb w a cool downtown, but it’s still just a small 10k person suburb & those places close at 10p, maybe 11p on Saturday. You’d think those ppl would be super judgy. But the more I go out the more chill & confident I am, & the better company I keep.
I love shopping 👚👗👙, but I don’t really get a thrill o/o it whether I’m dressed or not. Actually, I find myself underdressing sometimes instead of drab, just so when I’m digging through the clothes racks in the women’s section, ppl aren’t having conversations in their head… “Okay, he’s def shopping for himself. I don’t have to spend the next couple minutes wondering” or “Oh, he’s not a panty creep/perv, he’s just a crossdresser 😆”
So why do I care so much what ppl I know think?
@nicolealamo Welcome to CDH, Nicole!
There can be a variety of reasons why we care what people close to us would think of us crossdressing. It would be a great question for you to answer, to analyse yourself.
@nicolealamo Pretty sure that's an easy one for me 😉
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You care because you worry that they'll judge you for it. Though I might get out in front of that by telling you this: They're already judging you.
We all do it all the time. We think about other people what we want based on our opinions and experiences and insecurities. Literally everyone you see you're making judgements about, it an innate behavior.
Now, if you're a thinking person, then I'd suggest you start to analyze why you've judged some stranger in the way that you have. "Was that fair? Could someone think that about me? Would it be accurate?"
So since you don't know how well or how poorly they're judging you and frankly you can't do much about it anyway...best expend that energy elsewhere! 🙂
