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I recently mentioned in a post, (can't remember which one but that's not important right now), that I'll be 70 next year as the crow flies but, in my head, I don't feel any different than I did at 19.
I've been giving this some serious think-time and, as we might expect, it's not really as simple as that. At 19, our (my) main concern was to make sure that I had sufficient income to fund the fun stuff. So, the "roles" I took on were, son, friend, employee, workmate and little more. Easy.
As we get a little bit older, we add boyfriend, husband, son in law, (or whichever nominal identification we choose to denote a romantic partner), partner's other half and probably a few more. Still relatively easy.
Next, though, for some of us at least, comes father (I'll stick to the male roles because that's my point of reference, no disrespect to others who may self-identify differently). Here's where life and/or society begins to impose nominal adulthood and associated "grown up" status and so most of us experience changing roles. With parenthood comes responsibility, for one's offspring and one's-self. I include the responsibility for self because being responsible for children necessitates self-responsibilty in order to ensure we can provide for and be there physically to nurture and protect our children.
Parenthood cosolidates the role of adult, we present ourselves at school, at doctors etc as "responsible adults" therfore more roles.
Children grow up and, again, in most cases of my experience, have their own children and so begins a new role, that of grandparent. Hmm, wait a minute, thinks me, am I ready to be called grandad? Grandparents are old people, at least that's how I saw them when I was young. But, not much we can do about it, another role is thrust upon us. Now, I'm not complaining about having grandkids, they're great and I love them to bits, especially when I hand them back to mum and dad! Society has expectations though and granddad isn't supposed to drop granddaughter off at school then jump on her scooter and push off home, laughing as he goes. [Digression Alert!] I did this regularly until my daughter and son in law moved a little further away from the school, so now I have to drive granddaughter and grandson to school and nursery respectively. One day, one of the other mums mentioned to me that her daughter told her I did this and, when the mum suggested she could do the same, was told, "no, that's just for granddads". More reinforcement of what's generally seen as age-inappropriate behaviour and gets hideously close to being told to, "act your age".
Stay with me, I'm getting there. So, I hope I've demonstrated how various factors try to influence or constrain one's outlook to something appropriate to one's chronological age. BUT, what does our self-image or our own concept of who we are have to say about this?
I now, if asked my age, reply, "Chronologically 69, psychologically 19". Why should this be? One reason, in my own case, is that I still like to have fun, and why not! With specific regard to crossdressing, I also, when dressed, have a childlike wonder, in much the same way as, I'm sure, many of us did when, as kids, we would play dressing up games. Not necessarily crossdressing games, could be cowboys, doctors, anything that was a change from who we were at that time.
Ok, now back to the question in the title, do you have a different "head" age and, if so what? And, if you've given it any thought, why?
Thanks for sticking with me this far, I hope you find it interesting and, even in a small way, Thought-provoking.
In any event, that's it done now so I'm off to play hopscotch.
Allie xx
@alexina Interesting topic Allie, I'll bite. 🙂
I'm 55 in real numbers. As male me, I feel not much different to when I'd finally worked out how the world worked and who I was (or so I thought!) in my early thirties. According to some sources, I was already well into middle-age by then!
At that time I was doing 'Dad', albeit at weekends, but responsibility for my son has now long rested with himself. I've also been Dad to the OH's daughter for most of her life, but she's almost her own woman as well now, coming up for her last year at Uni. It is not looking likely that there will be grandkids of my own so, OH and her daughter aside, I'm pretty much free to play now if I wish. Thinking about it, that might actually explain a few things ... 🙂
So I should have a 'head' age of say, 35 tops. But Fiona's arrival in my life in the last few years has totally queered the pitch (if you'll pardon the pun). In either presentation, it's obvious that I'm no longer as youthful as I was, but she does feel like she should be younger than male me. So I tend to think of her as being in her early forties, old enough to be sensible when needed, still young enough to know that this doesn't have to be all the time! Makeup does take some years off me, but that's all that I could conceivably get away with under my own steam, without being under the expertise of an exceptional MUA. Luckily, we know where there's one of those when we need her. 🙂
Thanks, Fiona, I appreciate your taking the time to give a detailed answer.
I've said before, I see play as essential in maintaining a youthful outlook and, hopefully, increasing longevity🤞.
Life without fun is just going through the motions!
Allie x
I remember dressing up when I was 14 or 15, and back then I wanted to be an ‘older’ lady. Probably because I was wearing auntie’s clothes… knickers, bras, stockings.
As I’ve ‘grown up’ not sure that’s ever changed, I’m in my 50s now but that late 30s or early 40s woman is still my ideal. I guess that’s always been my sweet spot and what I emulate when I dress up.
But maybe it’s about what I wear - aunties clothes and now wifes clothes ( even my own bits and pieces reflect that) are ‘of an age’. I also had a girlfriend who bought me some stockings with attached suspender belt and they made me feel too young I think?
@jessicaattheweekend
Ah, yes, Jessica, the patient is presenting with symptoms of Humanity, younger want to be older, older wants to be younger, curly hair wants to be straight hair, and so on and so forth (love that phrase, must use it more often).....
@alexina so I just want to be something that I’m not? And perspective changes as we move through life?
id like to think I am just human and enjoying myself is where I’m at!
Love it!
@jessicaattheweekend
Oh, I would never presume to tell anyone who or what they are, just making a generalised observation .
@alexina I know that, and just playing devils advocate… I guess we all see it differently x we are all gorgeous no matter our age, particularly you! x
Wait! How old am I? 6....oh screw it....that's just a number anyway. I never acted my age. Don't look it either. Dodged most 'adult' responsibilities due to circumstance. Why change a winning formula!
If anything my 'head' age is regressing. HRT tends to do that. Second puberty and all.
Part of my brain thinks I'm 18. I've managed to resist wearing clothes I shouldn't wear....so far!
Another part of my brain thinks I'm thirty-something and can still party like a rock chick! Well, I am an aging rock chick and that ethos is stubbornly ingrained....
And a really big part of my brain got a full rewire 3 years ago. Works WAY better now. I may not act my age, but I make smarter decisions.
/LK
@emilyalt
Thanks, Liz, I can't help but notice a few similarities between us except in my case HRT stands for, and again I thank Caroline D for this, she introduced me to it, Humility Replacement Therapy!
I can still party like a Hippie Chick, passed out on the kitchen floor with a big smile on my face.
I look forward to getting to know you better...
Allie x
@emilyalt
I've managed to resist wearing clothes I shouldn't wear....so far!
Girl, I've seen photos of you. Do it. Every once in a while. Do it, while you can. No shame in feeling extra flirty and fun and sexy! 🙂
@alexina Physical age 52 an 3/4. Head age, somewhere in my 30s and continually hoping Anna looks in that age bracket, makeup and hiding the grey hair make a difference. Not being a parent has, to some extent, afforded me the opportunity not to act my age.
Thanks, Anna, I'm always amused by this term, "act" in relation to one's age. Although, usually, it's an exhortation from others.
Try as I may, I've yet to find any publication with definitive instructions of how to act, depending on which age bracket I fit in 😂.
Members of this community, in particular, always come across as young and fun-loving, regardless of their age and I find that in stark contrast to many of the people I meet outside of here.
Long may we continue!
Allie x
@alexina I think of "act one's age" as in being serious, sensible and grown-up. All traits I make every effort to avoid.
Hugs
Anna x
Great topic! Like most people here my wife and I have 2 ages. We are both meant to be in our mid 70's, but neither of us actually believe that. My own preference is to count my years using the hexadecimal system, which puts me in the late 40's so we behave that way! We have as much fun as we can (given my wife's condition); as we often say "You don't have to be daft to live here, but it helps if you are". Basically I don't feel anything like my age, but there are times when my body says otherwise - I can't run up and down the stairs 2 or 3 steps at a time these days!
As far a being grandparents is concerned, we rebelled against that 10 years ago. When our son asked what we would like to be called by our grandson (Grandpa, Grandma or whatever) we said "No, we don't like the idea of being thought of as grandparents, let him just call us by our forenames". So that is what we do and we are just his 'buddies' which works really well with him.
When it comes to crossdressing, which I do almost every day, I try to dress appropriately (though one moderately short miniskirt I bought in the spring was probably pushing it a bit). However I find it difficult to judge what sort of age I portray to the world, especially as I don't put too much effort into my daily make-up routine. I certainly don't look anything like as young as you do Allie (BTW, how on earth do you achieve that?).
So in summary, I sure don't feel anything like my actual age, but apart from Hex arithmetic I don't really have any idea what my mental age actually is.
And a great reply, Rebecca. I wish I had thought of having my grandkids call me by my name.
Regarding my profile pic, I've explained elsewhere that was done using the gender swap function in face app but I'll be taking delivery of a wig tomorrow and very soon getting rid of my beard so I'll post a new pic once I've mastered (mistressed) the ability to fit it without looking like cousin It!
Allie x
Thanks Allie, I recall your mention of FaceApp now, though I must admit I had forgotten about it. I have the same app on my iPad and played with the gender swap function 2 0r 3 years ago. Since I still have the app I'll have to have another play with it and see what it comes up with these days.
Have fun with the wig; most girls here say the right wig is transformative so I bet you are getting excited waiting for the delivery!
Rebecca xxx
@alexina I have asked myself this question a few times, then quickly forgot about it. Probably age related memory failure.
In October, I will, finally, be a septuagenarian, but how old do I feel? Younger. If I let my fashion tell this secret, maybe in my 20s or 30s. I am not ready for a matron look just yet.
Likewise, Harriette but I'll be six months later, in April next year.
Yes, that's why I separate my physiological age from my psychological/emotional age and long may it continue like that 😊.
Thanks!
@alexina I see my head age as about 45......Definitely less than the number of rings if you cut me open. I still feel young enough to wear all the things I want but smart enough to know where and when to wear them.
@alexina Like Caty I'm in my later 70's but mentally I don't feel that old. However, my mind keeps writing checks that my body can no longer cash so there's that. I do enjoy being papa to my grandchildren but I also love getting all dolled up and watching the magic of makeup take 10 years off my looks. As Michelle I think and act a lot like a teenager. I think a lot about makeup and finding the best look for me. I am trying to learn how to accessorize and spend a lot of time looking at jewelry. I like skirts and dresses that are considered too short for a lady my age and heels that challenge my older feet. I think it's because I've only been fully dressing as Michelle for a couple of years as opportunities arise so I am now experiencing a lot of the same challenges every teenage girl faces.
Thanks, Michelle.
Yes, I definitely feel even younger, when "dolled up" than I do normally, I mentioned in an earlier reply that, in my case anyway, it's a kind of childlike wonder that I feel when I look in the mirror.
Lucky lucky us 🤣
@alexina I would have to say that for me how old I feel depends on what I’m doing and how much physical pain I’m in. Though for the most part I still feel (mentally) young. Part of that comes from having a great, if warped and sick sense of humor, and part comes from enjoying doing fun things, as you said.
As I near my 52 birthday, I’ve noticed how much joy I get when I’m fully dressed as Jill, and that joy I believe translates into feeling much younger than I usually do. Yet another added benefit to my cross dressing!
But the best time in my life for feeling younger, was when my son was very little. Having children gives us permission to play as children again. I’d take my son to the park and I’d be playing on the playground equipment as much as he did. And getting down on the kitchen floor to play Hot Wheels was as good as it gets. Oh! And the lightsabers duels we had outside in the dark! Fighting the Sith, bounty hunters and Stormtroopers! We both loves those memories. Hopefully I’ll be d playing with a grandchild one day the same as I did with my son.
So, as much as possible, dress, play and laugh and you’ll always be young. At heart, at least.
Hugs, Jill
Jill, thanks for your detailed reply. I recognise in myself much of your comments, particularly,
Part of that comes from having a great, if warped and sick sense of humor
I have, in the past, been accused of this too but I'd describe it more as perceptive, observational humour with an edge😊.
The other comment you make,
gives us permission to play as children again
This is what I was thinking when I wrote about the roles we have and others' expectations of what constitutes appropriate behaviour within them. But I wonder who it is that gives permission? Society, our peers or ourselves? I think choosing to play, without regard for permission, is a huge part of feeling young and free.
I agree with all you say and, more specifically, with the fun that comes with crossdressing.
I have no doubt that any future grandkids will be lucky to have you as a grandparent!
Allie x
@alexina Thank you very much for your sweet compliment. I appreciate that a lot.
I should have meant that we give ourselves permission to play, regardless of what others may think.
@alexina I have loved every age that I have been and try to enjoy it to the fullest. I think of myself the age I really am…in fact I don’t want to be younger…with all the ‘how do I look?’ and emotional sensitivity hang ups and worry about what others think of me.
Thinking of myself as being younger, would confront me with the dreadful thought of having much longer to work until I retire….no bring on age, bring on retirement, bring on more indifference to how people judge me.
Hugs
Christine
Well said, Christine. Just to clarify, I don't want to be younger, it's more about my mental self-perception but your answer is perfectly valid nonetheless 😊.
Thanks
Allie x
@alexina Dear Allie, I know it was about what age you feel inside and your self perception, I did not mean to imply you ‘wanting’ to be younger.
I am all for everyone being, feeling and acting the way they feel and want to (as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone).
I love reading your notes and messages and hope I did not upset you. Hugs Christine
Christine, I'm never upset by any interaction here. If I think I've not been understood or I haven't made myself clear, I always try to clarify my meaning. I mentioned, in another post, that I occasionally indulge in "stream of consciousness" writing and I'll often seek to clarify that.
No no, worry not, pas de problem, Christine pas de problem 😊
Nice topic, Allie. It deserves a detailed answer.
I was recounting my life while I was reading. I conclude, for now, that I have a young mind in a body worn down by the years, but life is about having fun. The sufferings are like the commercials in the middle of the movie.
I wish I knew and did what I know and do now when I had a young, fit body. I would have had a lot more fun, but the world was different and my life was different.
The good thing about my age is the senior discounts I receive, but I feel strange the day I get out of bed without anything hurting. Ha ha.
Luckily my mind continues to function well, although it is now easier to remember old anecdotes than what I had for dinner last night, and my imagination is more fertile. And AI works wonders with pics and videos to make us dream and I dream a lot but I prefer real life.
So I think my mind could be at 25 and I will keep it young as long as I can.
The unrepeatable Gisela. 
Hi, Gisela and thanks for your response.
The good thing about my age is the senior discounts I receive
Oh, yes. And my pensions, coupled with the fact that the kids are grown and the mortgage paid off, means that I'm better off now than I ever was!
The good thing about a rubbish memory is, I don't know what I've forgotten so no need to worry about it!
Allie x
Do I see myself as younger than my true age of 70? I'm not sure. Physical things prevent me from dismissing my age but mentally, I try to overcome those things by using the ah-sod-it attitude of someone much, much younger. If I average it out, I guess I mentally see myself (as a woman) in my fifties or early sixties disguising the failing body of a 70-year-old man. It is difficult to ignore advancing age when, seemingly every day, film, music and TV stars I knew as people in their youth, have shuffled off their mortal coils, many of them younger than I am now. I think it is one of the reasons I started cross-dressing, as while dressed I can be the younger person that I see in my head; something male me can't achieve as I'll always look in the mirror and see 'me'. I think I try to change my appearance as much as I can so I can look in that same mirror and see Rebecca: a well-dressed, stylish and, above all, younger version of myself.
On that last point, wearing a wig makes such a difference to my appearance because as male me, I shave my head, so the change is startling.
To sum up: I think I've done about ten drafts of this post, from my entire life story to a quick one liner. It has definitely made my think about my age, my life and what I'm doing with it. In general, apart from some male-related health issues I am happy as I can be being 70 as a man and, let's say, 58, as a woman.
An interesting subject, I enjoyed that.
Hugs Becca
xx
Hi, Becca, thanks for your considered reply. Yeah, we're nearly the same age and certainly share one of the more mature male afflictions. I saw your earlier post re Fenesteride. I still haven't taken any yet and, when I told my doctor, his answer was that it's up to me. If I can do without it, fair enough. A bit blasé I thought, considering the side effects.
Anyhoo, I digress again! I don't think I look anything like my memories of 69 year olds (I served an engineering apprenticeship in a coal mine and the "old" miners were invariably Very old looking indeed and they must have been in their early sixties) but you're right, the body likes to remind me occasionally!
I stand by my assertion, in a post on another topic, that a non-involved observer would never accurately determine the age of most of us here, simply by reading the posts. There is a youthfulness about our posts and interactions.
I, for one, hope I stay this way for another 30 or 40 years, ha ha!
Hugs back.
Allie x
I'm 65 but for some years I've been saying I feel 23. That's mentally of course. Physically the years have been kind to me so far. Just wish I had been dressing when I was actually 23. The makeup is so much more of a challenge now 😂 xx.
Hi Chrissie.
the years have been kind to me
Yes, they have indeed, even allowing for the skills of the MUA, as many have already mentioned. I certainly hope you have many more opportunities to play!
Allie x
I want my head age to be younger than my actual age - I am now a fully paid up pensioner this year, bus pass and all.
I do look younger dressed and many are surprised when I show my bus pass and physically able still as I am quite active. I have no kids of my own but my first generation nieces would allow me to play with them and enjoy their activities as I could act the fool and love it. Now the second generation is where I am now at the 'Granny' stage. Well my sister is called granny and I am still at the first generation as I am Aunty! I will play on their scooters and bikes, climb, bounce and act the fool all over again and we love it. There is responsibility as I am the 'adult' but once in the zone of play I am in it.
I can't say it is me using a head age, it's what you do and it's fun too. Adults can act as kids too as we allow ourselves to relax and as we graduate from simple kid fun things to tech , alcohol, cars, hobbies and so on it is the same release as when we were kids, it doesn't leave us. The responsibility thing is part of life.
Thanks, Angela, I encourage my grandkids to enjoy silly stuff, I see far too much emphasis these days on encouraging children to forego childhood in favour of becoming little adults (consumers). Only yesterday my daughter told me that she'd seen my grandson doing something a bit silly and she'd asked him who had shown him that, knowing full well who it was. She said he looked at her and beaming, shouted, "Grandad!".
It's those little things that make life more satisfactory.
Allie x
27...I look pretty young but I'm just back-dated, yeah...but my doctor says more like 47 and my draft board says more like 77. I still dance all night and do wheelies with my shopping cart in the main aisles and eat my dessert first. You're only as old as you want to be. Party on! Marg
You know you have automatically dated yourself, when you say "draft board."
The majority of people I run into these days have no recollection, let alone idea of what it was like for a male turning 18 years of age to live back in the day of the Selective Service System I.E. "The Draft."
I see, Marg, from your profile, you were an Army medic.
Cheers, Hugs,
Peggy Sue,
US Navy - Retired
Viet Nam Vet,
@catgurl Well Peggy, I actually built a small working Tardis in my barn and went back to the day to get the dialect. Ok, enough foolishness, being 27 forever can make you silly. Anyway, thank you for your service and especially during this upcoming July 4th. Welcome back to the world Sister. Hugs, Marg
Ha ha ha! Thanks, Marg. I love that, not playing to act young but because we feel young.
Yep, I've known people throughout my life who seemed to jump from teenage to middle age, and willingly! To borrow a phrase from your side of the pond, go figure 🙄
Allie x
@alexina Oh Allie, My family has constantly referred to me as "the child" even though I'm the second oldest. They all seemed very old to me but were always intrigued by my life exploits. Hugs, Marg
Very interesting topic Allie — and many interesting responses. Thanks to all.
As for me, I’m physically in my mid 70’s. In male mood, I’ve always — going back many decades — thought of myself as being more than a bit older than my physical age. Perhaps that can be explained by responsibility, or the pressure to succeed, or maybe insecurity. Who knows.
But as a late blooming crossdresser, in female mode I feel younger than my physical age — emotionally lighter, more vibrant, still eager for new experiences.
Not that I think I’m a teenager or even in my 30’s. But I envision myself as being in my late 40’s or early 50’s. And when I look in the mirror, notwithstanding my lack of makeup expertise, I imagine myself as being that age. Nice feeling.
Cheers, Sally
Thanks, Sally, that was the first thing that struck me the first time I looked in the mirror fully dressed, including earrings, necklace rings and bracelets, but with the full knowledge and acceptance of my wife. How much younger and happier I looked.
I've said this before, crossdressing is the gift that keeps on giving 😊.
Allie x
@alexina My usual line is, "I'm not young...but I am immature." lol
I'm 53. After a lifetime of sports, my body is well aware of this, though I sometimes push it, and luckily have yet to pay any hefty price. My brain, however still feels vibrant and sharp and...almost youthful. Youthful but in a sort of experienced way? I feel I'm cleverer and wiser, which aren't really youthful traits, but they give that impression, I think.
I might say I feel mentally...35? But thinking back to 35yo me, I'd say, "Well...he's no dummy, but...yeah, long way to go." Emotionally speaking, in most ways I feel perhaps even older - like, maybe 65...even 70. (puts on squinty, wizened look) "I've seen things in my time." 😑 (like...really squinty, ok?)
So I guess....I mean...the law of averages pretty much leads me to think I'm right about 53, I suppose. 🤔 Funny.
Thanks, Melodee, you know you but, having read some of your contributions and seen your pics, I think you do yourself a little injustice
My impression of you, right or wrong, is someone who exemplifies the playful spirit that I've spoken about.
Long may you avoid paying anything near a hefty price!
Allie x
@alexina Well thank you! Yes, absolutely playful! There's some truth in the quip I put at the front of that reply 😉
A woman never reveals her true age (lol).
En femme, I feel like I'm 10 years younger, but I want to dress like I'm 20 years younger.
I've been cleaning out my girl closet a bit, getting rid of odd pieces, sizes that will never fit, really old outfits, you get the idea. I came across a cute top and admitted that Lea has aged, there's no way I'm going out clubbing, let alone wearing a top that a 20-something might have worn about 20 years ago.
In guy mode, I have no desire to be younger. In femme mode, I feel like I was robbed of the years before I realized and accepted that I was a CD.
I feel like I was robbed of the years before I realized and accepted that I was a CD
Wow, Lea, I couldn't have put that better! I totally relate to that.
I've dressed on and off since my early teens but always in secret and always with varying degrees of those twins of evil, the Shame and Guilt brothers (note my use of the masculine here!)
Only since discovering and joining this haven for the sane, have I truly felt free and comfortable to do as I please and that is priceless!
Thanks for your reply 😊.
Allie x
I feel like I was robbed of the years before I realized and accepted that I was a CD
I noted Allie's response to this. It's a great phrase, though in my case it's more like "I feel like I sadly missed the years before I realised my wife would accept my crossdressing"
@lea-jhene This is a brilliant way of explaining it. I also feel robbed of the years Anna existed in my mind only.
Hugs
Anna
Haha, good question @alexina !
I'm 59 on the outside, and mid-30s (who dresses young for her age) on the inside.
I'm just thankful that for the moment I can get away with it, but I wonder if I should be maybe looking for a nice twin-set. Maybe a few tea dresses and a couple of pairs of sensible shoes. And a purple-rinse short-perm wig of course! 😀
Up until a ,few years ago, (and I'm the wrong side of 70 closer to 80), I never gave much thought to my age, either as Caty or male me. Yes back in my 60's when dressed and made up by a pro I looked much and felt a lot younger.
But the last 12-18 months with a series of minor (but not fatal) health problems means I'm now "feeling my age".
The above means I have not had my "full Caty on" since late last year and have not "gone public" since May '23
I still sleep femme and underdress every day and night, but its not the same as looking in the mirror and seeing Caty looking back at me.
I'm not uncomfortable about this, frustrated>> mostcertainly. But there's nota lot I can do about it, so....
Happy, Full on ) dressing all youse lucky lot who can
Caty
Thanks, Caty, to date, neither have I thought too much about what the increasing numbers mean in physical terms and I'm lucky, I can play golf twice weekly and get out for a brisk couple of miles walks three or four days.
But, I too have had to visit health professionals recently for minor, but irritating reductions in physical functionality. I have frequently remarked that the prime of life doesn't come itself!
What is of slightly more concern to me is my tendency to think of events or even television shows as a couple of years old but then to discover that they happened 10 - 12 years ago! Makes me think that, if the past 10 years have whooshed past, then the next 10....😱.
Also, the incidence of funerals is increasing, as it naturally does as we age, so that has changed my previous tendency to put things off until later.
This community though, encourages and rewards playfulness and thank goodness for that!
When I say Live long and prosper, I'm not just quoting the Vulcan greeting and farewell, I mean it 😊.
Allie x
Hi Allie,
"Also, the incidence of funerals is increasing ..."
A timely observation from you Allie, given that I've just come back from a funeral. Wedding invites are easily outpaced by funerals these days.
I've been lucky that even now I'm often assumed to be at least 10 years younger than I actually am. Not that I deserve it with my lifestyle. A common attitude throughout my life by some would be "when are you going to start acting your age?". Well, I won't be 73 much longer, but I kind of think I'm still not acting my age. How can I? I've never been this old before 😉 So is my inner age expressing itself in such a way that I appear younger to others than I am?
Inside my head, I feel indeterminately young. But I can't be that young because I have my life experiences, to help me be who I am today. So there's a bit of kid-ology going on when I claim my head is 30.
A nice thread, Allie, something chewy to think on.
Thanks, Emma.
Yeah, we were at 4 funerals in the space of 5 weeks earlier this year and that's not counting the death of my closest friend around the same time, who had chosen not to have a funeral but a direct cremation . His reasoning was that he disliked funerals intensely and didn't want to put others through it. Now this must be to do with my age because, while I understood and accepted his decision, I felt that it made it harder for me to accept his death - I believe "closure" is the term in common parlance.
However, we have to deal with life as it is, not how we'd like it to be!
I don't get the "act your age" comment much if at all now but my response would be, "You can act your age if you like, I'll act how I choose"
Do not go gently into that.....😀
