When the what ifs set in...

Tonya honey relax and go though with your plans. Your SO has agreed to them so it's highly likely she's gotten used to the idea. You look gorgeous and the Tonya will naturally come out. Just relax put your heels on and enjoy the sun.

Love Trish

Tonya,

I wish I was this young when I was completely open with my wife.My wife is so understanding through my progression into what I am comfortable with. She is even more open to suggesting what might be good for me as I expose more of myself to her. It's like a bonus marriage achievement every time we talk!

My suggestion is to let her take the lead. You have already progressed past what society would let me say when I was early in life with your SO. Let her set the pace and enjoy where she leads you. When your limit is reached you will know and with a SO that understands so much already she will most likely understand when your current limit is reached. Let her have fun and engage to your limit.

Girl I am happy and jealous of you at the same time. Let her take the lead. AND fill us in on the wonderful details!

Tonya, you've got this girl.  Outfit is ready, your SO is ready,.... you are ready.  The "what ifs" are evil little gremlins that grow in our minds to prevent us from doing the things we want to do.  Don't pay attention to them!  There is one What If you forgot about.  What If you don't do this?  Dont let your nerves get the best of you,  you'll just regret it hon.  Your time has come Tonya, enjoy it (after the nerves settle down)!!  I'm so happy for you!!

Stevie

Tonya, just do it!

Do you know what your risk is?

You will like it too much. You will see and, more importantly, feel like the real you.

Then Tonya, my dearest, what do you do?

I am so happy for you, and I am BEYOND jealous.

Hugs and kisses,

Lee Ann

PS - I'm going to send you a PM.

That is so exiting Tonya, I'm sure the day will go as well you wish it to, with your S.O.'s help you will look gorgeous and will never look back. Just slip into that lovely outfit and enjoy the day.

Big hugs

Diana

Of course, you may have some apprehension, but do not let that stop you. Take it from me it's better to remember the actual memories than the regrets.

Cynthia

Just wanted to say thank you again to all you lovely ladies the support means so very much.  My nerves are easing a little.  I still have about 2 and a half hours of work left before I head home to start my final prep... of shaving and making sure all the male Hiawatha are hidden well enough... we will see how the day unfolds.

What if... you look FAB! What if your SO thinks... you look FAB! What if the whole world thinks you look FAB?
What ifs kill you... ban what ifs!

Looking FAB, Tonya!

To be honest I wonder if the fact that I muggy look amazing scared me as well... I know it's kinda a contradictory thing... to be afraid you'll look amazing... but I'm not used to feeling like I look good and the last time I had my makeup dibe that's how I felt.. I felt beautiful..  like I could own the world... why I'm afraid of it... idk couldn't tell you...

Tonya, you left out one very important 'what if',  what if you don't take these steps?

You may get to meet the 3 sisters of doubt:  Shoulda, Woulda and Coulda.  Those 3 will pester you from now on if they show up.  Their favorite act is to plant the seed of doubt that will always bloom nd try to stop you from trying almost anything new and exciting in your future.

Take a deep breath and relax hon.  Trust your wife and above everything else, trust yourself.

PaulaF

Cant wait to hear how it goes, Tonya, I know it will be fabulous, if you just bury those nerves. It will be the most amazing feeling ever
Hugs, Regi💕

Tonya,

How exciting for you, and I know exactly how you feel!  Relax, if you can, and immerse yourself in the enjoyment of the experience.  If you’re like me, you will be very self-aware of what you’re feeling, and through that awareness many of your questions will be answered.....

I’m so happy that you’re getting this opportunity!  Be sure to let us know how it turns out - please!

Marcellette

Tonya. Your so lucky to have a SO that supports you. Thats one obstacle that you don't have to worry about. Just listen to your SO if you have any questions about what to do if something unexpected happens. This day will forever be remembered. I know that it was for me and I remember everything about that day. From the doubts that I had to the feeling of being accepted once I was out there among other girls. Good luck and just go with your instincts. Your going to be alright. Hugs to you

Janine

Hello Tonya...

Your list of questions ?????

Most of them can be answered...when you get back home..get dressed and fly!!!!!

Good luck xx.

Grace xx