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Okay, I asked who you were, now let’s bring this to its logical counterpart. Who will you be? Given your situation right now, whether that be living the single life, in a dedicated, open relationship, in the closet waiting to set yourself free, in a DADT relationship (that’s me) or where ever you may be, where do you see yourself going in general, but more specifically with regard to your need to be girly? Is there an ultimate destination? Will the status quo be enough going forward? Will you let your inner woman take over completely? I believe that there is probably a different destination for each of us, but maybe not. Maybe there are only a few discrete threads? I’m curious and would love to hear thoughts from all of you lovely ladies.
Penelope,
In my case, I have pretty much reached the destination by living full time as a woman. I'm not going on hormones or having surgery and am very comfortable with where I am currently. I let my inner woman take over as much as she can with the result that I always feel girly.
But you are right, everyone's personal situation and comfort levels are different. Everyone has their own niche. I am extremely lucky and very grateful that I am able to live this way.
I never knew where my destination would be when wondering why I loved wearing females clothing. The situation kept changing and a new status quo was found as the dressing became a necessity. Things were fluid until one day I arrived at what was to be my final destination, openly and fully dressed to the world.
I just want to age gracefully and stay fit enough to be able to shave my legs 🙂
Hugs Christine.
I love being Cynthia. But i have no ambition of being Cynthia 24/7. Im like a cake and both my personalities have to share 😆 🤣. I geuss its weird. We're all crossdressers (and fabulous ones i might add) but we all have different ambitions on how much we ant to dress.
I arrived at my destination ages ago, unfortunately I arrived on a Sunday and it was shut 🙂 But I'm equally happy and content dressed femme or drab, and for myself I've no wish to change anything.
I too have arrived at my destination a few years ago. I love being gender fluid. Painting nails and shopping for heels and skirts one day and head under the bonnet tuning the engine or kicking tyres with some mates at a car show the next. I just love the diversity I have in my life.
I would have to say evolving would be the best description.
I am in a quasi DADT situation. My wife knows about my dressing and supports me in her own way. We'll go for mani-pedi's together and I get color on my toes which she helps me pick out, my fingers get clear gel with a light pink tint. She'll buy jewelry for Suanne on occasion as well as shopping for clothes. There are times she invites Suzanne over for the day which is really nice. Per an agreement with her I only dress in the house although there are some exceptions. I have a pair of ankle boots I can wear out of the house with knee highs, I wear earrings 24/7 and occasionally underdress in panties.
Where am I going? That is a question that the answer is evolving. I would love to be able to leave the house dressed in some way, it would be nice to wear panties all the time to start. I like what Harriette does with dressing androgynously and see that as a possibility, just have to get the courage to discuss it.
It's funny I've been letting my hair grow and the other day my wife asked about me getting it cut. When she did she said we spent money on wigs - I guess she figures with long hair I couldn't or wouldn't wear them and asked who I wanted to be. I took the later to mean did I want to be male me or Suzanne. I didn't answer but if I were truthful it would be a combination of the two. Why can't i have long hair, wear my earrings (which I do 24/7) and steathily express my femininity?
One thing about this journey is that there are detours along the way and no true final destination as it is always evolving. For me it is what ever is making me happy at the moment.
XOXO
Suzanne
I am happy being both genders. Becca is a lot more frequent than she used to be but she'll never take over as I do blokey things too and a skirt is just too inconvenient. I don't identify as female, I just like being female sometimes.
At my age, while the journey isn't over, I'm sad to say I'm far more than half way there.
I'm not where I would like to be. That is, physically a woman. But with post-divorce finances, grown children, grandchildren, etc., I will probably continue to live at home full-time as myself, and dressing drab when out - due my need to reduce risk of nice neighbors and my kids getting together.
Maybe I will learn more about HRT and find a middle ground with a bit of breast development. Would really love to accomplish that. We will see how the finances go.
I tell myself
#1) "there's always something." Further transitioning means lost friendships, family troubles, and guess what - the car, the roof, the house plumbing, my health, STILL demands some expensive attention.
And, #2) "If I envy someone else's situation and wish I were her, just remember to be realistic, honey: You have to trade 100% - you have to take 100% of what's going on in her life."
Occasionally I remind myself to be more thankful, satisfied, and content. "Work on the woman that's inside." I'm now retired, no co-workers or small-town issues to worry about. It is all good. I can attend group meets and I'm gloriously free to dress 110% at home all I want, and can identify with Bette Davis' character at the end of the movie, "Now, Voyager."
Dani
I am fortunate enough to have a loving, supportive and accepting spouse. Therefore I have the ability to be me whenever and for me that is the majority of the time. I don't see any change in my future as I am happy with my life. At my age it also becomes more difficult to pursue anything further thanks to the time things would take and certain medical issues that would hinder certain treatments. Do I think about these changes? Yes, I do frequently but I think this will be my life for quite some time (I hope) and changes may have to wait for my reincarnation. 🙂
Right now, Natalie is a part time thing. I only get fully en femme about once a month. I’m fine with this as I’m happy living my real life as a male. As for the future I’d like to develop Natalie’s appearance much more to be more passable and be able to walk out in public confidently. I don’t want her to take over completely but I wouldn’t mind dressing more often.
I am perfectly happy being Lizzy only occasionally at the moment and in private as it is a nice bit of escapism. However, I'd like to develop my look more to perhaps pass and be able to have the confidence to dress in public perhaps every now and again. I am also happy in my life as a male me as I like to have a drink as one of the lads down the pub amongst other things that I couldn't do as Lizzy.
I’m just a closet girl that likes to dress wild and out heels and all as fare as a destination I like to get out of the closet one day even if it’s a car ride or something I just enjoying CDing no further planes there thrill and excitement of dressing is the best part it’s truly amazing being able to live 2 life’s
What a lovely question, who will I be? at present I am a seventy something male who wears female underwear, make up, nail varnish and tries to dress as feminine as possible based on jeans and tops. Once my hair has grown and been styled and my make up ability has improved I will wear a skirt and stockings/tights and go out. I enjoy being feminine and want to take it as far as I can.