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Anyone else here relate to this? Today I’m enjoying myself all dolled up. Football and crossdressing, does it get any better than that? So I try on a couple of looks and snap a bunch of pics. For someone who HATES getting my picture taken in DRAB mode, this girl Grace is just ridiculous with how many she takes! It’s a good thing we don’t buy film anymore because I couldn’t afford her.
Well, I’m going through my fresh batch of pics, keeping and trashing, as I’m sure all you girls do too. But as I went through them it struck me…these pictures I’m looking at - don’t feel like it’s me in them. Who IS that girl? It’s like I’m looking at some chick who’s trying her best to look hot. And every 50th picture or so, at least from my pov, she kinda does…!?!?!? I mean, what’s up with that?
I’m reminded of something I read somewhere years ago, a crossdresser was talking about why she dressed, what was the purpose, etc, the usual. But at one point she said - “I like to get all made up and looking so hot -that I want to make love to myself!”
Is this what some of us are after? To become the girl of our dreams? I kinda relate to that. It’s not lost on me that crossdressing is a very narcissistic pursuit. Look at all us girls on here, taking selfies, posting pics and looking for favorable comments. We bask in it don’t we? For the most part we’re trying to look our best and if best means hot then that’s even better. It just hit me today looking at my photos and deciding which ones to keep. Who is that girl? Is she the girl of my dreams? The one I can never have? Or the one I already am?
Ok, enough of that…2nd half kickoff is coming up🤣
GP
@gracepal yea I think there is something to that. I used to dress the way the women I could be attracted to dressed. Years later living mostly female daily, I still like to look stylish and up to date. Yes, the heels have gotten shorter but not much else has changed. Sadly today, women tend to dress for comfort, not looks; leggings and flip flops.
@gracepal Sadly today, women tend to dress for comfort, not looks; leggings and flip flops.
Yeah, a number of CDs here have related that same lament.
Yesterday, my wife and I were in a crowd. Most women were very casually dressed. Even the few that were upscale still were casually dressed. It's as if how women look just doesn't matter to them any more.
@harriette Well, the upside to this is it gives girls like us a chance to out do a lot of them. Who’da ever thought such a thing would happen?
@gracepal This happened with me, on our Thanksgiving Day. My wife and I were busy for most of our afternoon getting everything ready for our meal for two, this year. I was dressed androgynously as usual. My wife had been running around in her sleep shirt.
When we had a break, I asked her to get dressed nicely. Why? I told her because we don't do that very often and I told her that I was going to dress up, a bit. She put on a belt. I did more. 🥳
@gracepal Well... I went from my usual androgynous look to a nice dark pink top that my wife saw me buy (she loves pink, so that was a bit provocative), a black pencil skirt, black stockings and a pair of low, black pumps that she had never seen before. All over my biggest forms, of course. No wig or make-up, just me.
I hadn't dressed like this in front of her for quite a while.
@gracepal I can't say that I'm striving for the look of a woman I'd be attracted to, but that's not a bad goal and one I'd never thought of. But I resemble my mother too much when I'm dressed, though not a pretty version like her, but I try to look as passable as possible. And yes, I take a lot of photos while en femme but rarely in drab. I don't know that that's an example of narcissism or that I'm really trying to look like a lady for my safety, but either way, it's a fun way to critique what I've accomplished and see where I might do better next time.
Great topic!
Jill
Hi my dear
I'm with you my dear
When I take pictures mine , I take a bunch of this, and when I start to check this pictures I see a beautiful woman flirting with me!!! Excuse me?
I'm attracted by the way I look, and I feel OK with that.
Some studies talk about a term called Autogynephilia, which according to a definition I found say:
- "Describes autogynephilia, a male's paraphilic tendency to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as a woman. Four types of autogynephilia are discussed: physiologic, behavioral, anatomic, and transvestic."
So I think , I'm not an expert in this field, some crossdresser has this behavior as a primary consequence of this, but is not the only one component
Crossdressing is a complex condition and there are many things to research yet.
Kisses and hugs
Odeth
@gracepal Interesting. I can't say that I ever really thought about it that way. I am still working on my style & I really don't much care for photo's of myself in any setting. I don't really try to dress sexy, the idea is there but the sensible me takes preference & I have seen too many pictures of, shall we say, inappropriate clothing (or lack thereof) online. I prefer stylish & classy or even just comfy over hot. Also Mrs B is the girl of my dreams & I wouldn't or indeed can't compete with that.
@gracepal I just want to be the girl I have always been. I don't see it as a dream..it's my reality. Of course, I want to be as attractive as possible but in a discrete, self-satisfying way so I can blend in. Still, I do want to dress in styles and a way that reflects my own unique taste and style which I'm still developing!
@gracepal Fancying myself is not really the thing. What I look for is to be the best I can look and the most glamourous that I can do.
I think that's ultimately my aim, to be the best girl I can be and I love to see the contrast between Anna and male me.
Ultimately I enjoy the transformation and slipping into Anna's heels
I can dig it, Grace. I'm not in love with myself, but I am in love with the way I look & feel when I'm me. My wife often feels that the way I present is how I want her to look. Nope. It's how I want me to look.
@beach-girl See Dawn, where you and I differ is, I AM in love with myself.🤣 At the very least I may be in love with Grace. Maybe the girl of my dreams is -ME🤣😂!
Interesting topic. I must confess to looking at pictures of myself en femme and getting a certain pleasure out of the contrast with male me. I wouldn't say I was 'hot' by a long chalk but I believe I have a certain mature elegance, that, with the right makeup, doesn't look too manly. OK, this is my opinion of myself, but I don't think I look too bad; certainly enough to get by in public at a distance and that's one of my aims as a cross-dresser.
Becca
@rebeccabaxter I would say the phrase “mature elegance” describes you to a “T” Becca🥰
I too like the way I look in the mirror and in photos. It takes a lot of work to successfully emulate a woman and it is nice when our efforts result in what what we consider to be an attractive woman.
Interesting topic Grace. I mean I'm very much a beginner at this lark. In June 2023 I had my only real femme time. A whole week to dress girly. I had a wonderful time, but in truth the results were pretty awful 😂. But looking back at some of my pics I still get a bit of a thrill. I mean clearly it's me but heck I'm wearing a bra, dress, stockings, heels, a wig and makeup (sort of 😂).
My makeover pics are quite different. Looking at those I find it hard to believe it's me in front of the camera. I won't go as far as saying I fancy myself but at least I look genuinely female.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
Grace, glad to hear you had a nice day. Always enjoy football and getting in team colors.
Lynne
Is this what some of us are after? To become the girl of our dreams?
My look is definitely driven by the look I like in women - tall, long straight hair, heels, stockings, nails, etc. I find all of that very attractive, so I make me like that. So, I mean...kinda, in a projection sort of way...I guess? 🤔
I can't say I photograph myself to be the girl of my dreams. Heck, if I felt comfortable enough, I would dress without the need to make myself look like a woman.
I photograph myself to document my journey. The last month or so, I've been more goal oriented (getting out for my walk or walking for longer periods) that I haven't had the energy to take photos, whereas before I would take a handful every time I went out. I'll probably go back to photographing myself when life settles down in a few months.
I suppose why I initially started to cross dress was really as I was curious to know how I'd look like as a woman but over time I have started to create a new feminine identity and think more how I'd dress for certain situations. So its smart yet stylish and comfertable dresses, skirts, tops and dark tights for the office, more casual dresses for everyday wear and shorter dresses with sheer tights to wear on a night out.
