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This is probably a daft thing to ask - and undoubtedly one that has been asked many, many times before, but... why do I do this? I'm not saying that I'm ashamed or anythng - because I'm not. But, at the most basic level, WHY? Is this just a rejection of our society's desire to compel everyone to conform to "traditional" sterotypes? Is it a feeling that I may have been born into the wrong body (please note - I fully recognise that there are plenty of people who genuinely know that to be true - I'm just not one of them). Is it something to do with the feeling of the clothes? I'm sure there are plenty of ladies out there with their own personal takes on the matter, but basically I'm not quite looking for the answer to Life, The Universe and Everything (that's 42) I'm just wondering if there is a basic, unifying feeling at the root of it all. (Remember: Albert Einstein spent most of his life looking for a Unifying Theory.) Are we one unified body with minor differences, or a collection of disparate individuals who just happen to have one minor trait in common? One body - or loads who just happen to look a little similar? Perhaps not a question that anyone will be interested in, but it's the end of a long hard day and philosophy occupies my mind at such times... Sorry to bother you: Holly XXX
It took the computer 'Deep thought' 7.500.000 years to come up with the answer which, as you say is 42. So what hope for us to come up with the answer.
Just have a Pangalactic gargle blaster and just appreciate you do what you do and are one hell of a gal.
Hi Holly, well, I sort of don't like to say it, but personally I think it's something only you (or any other single person considering the same issue) can answer. We like to think of the colors of the rainbow with the simplicity of the ROY G BIV acronym, but the reality is that the spectrum of colors is almost infinite. And sometimes the last thing we want is for someone else (who hasn't yet walked a mile in our shoes, flats or heels) to tell us why they think we have the compulsion or urge to be a certain way.
For years, I wanted to believe my personal issue was simply the desire to dress up in nice dresses, outfits, and the like, and more so, that by force of wil,l I could overcome it. but over time, I realized that even keeping it simple, still...sort of met the same small part of my urges as going all out. It didn't matter the amount, or style, just the being was what I really wanted.
But again, that's me. And while I do appreciate the chance to relate my 'story', it's still just mine, and the hope is that telling it will ease some of the pain I feel, and sharing it will help ease a little of whatever pain others may feel - to know that they are not alone. Unique? Yes. Alone? Not in the least.
Hey Holly....first of all, it's NEVER a bother....if that were the case, NO ONE would be here and if anything, this IS the right place to ask such questions, so "keep them coming"...you may never like or agree with what you get, but it's all subjective and it's never the same, for everyone. My personal reason is very simple, even after crossdressing for well over 40 years: at this time in my life, as it has from day 1, dressing up and all related activity, gives me so much pleasure....PERIOD...!!! Sadly, post-Covid, I can never "be Tiny" as often as before since I've practically lost all my privacy here at home, so I do the best I can, and its helps to come here and read all about everyone's experiences, until my "Tiny time" happens....!!! It may or may not be more complicated for others....I envy so much, those of you who have more freedom to live your lives as you desire, for me, I'm content and will take what I can get...fortunately, "life goes on"....!!!
It's not black or white, either or. It's a spectrum and you are somewhere on it.
Why are doing it? Because you like it.
You can hide it, fight it or wrap your arms around it.
Why do I dress like a woman? Because doing so allows me to live life while accurately expressing who I feel I really am.
@hottestwitch I think the 'why' of it all is an amalgamation of reasons for everyone. Though no matter the reason(s), I think it does take some active introspection if you really wanna know.
In my own case, I don't think I'd fully recognized it until someone asked and I was literally forming the words around the concept as I was speaking them. When I got to the end of it, in my head I was like, "Huh...I just learned that!"
Talk about it with someone...you may be surprised at what you hear yourself say! 🙂
In my youth, in the time of the extreme feminism, men were often dismissed as the dumb, the person who didn't understand anything. Maybe I'm trying to match a feminine person who is perfect. 😉
Why? Well, why not? Variety is the spice of life. I've been into all sorts of things the like of which I'll not go into detail here (none of them illegal , I stress). Before cross-dressing, my previous stand-out thing was shaving my head, then growing a beard and dying it blue; indeed, for many years people knew me as 'the bald guy with the blue beard' (catchy huh?). Once I got into cross-dressing, the beard came off, my ears were pierced and I wear red nail polish and although no one in this locale knows I cross-dress, they must have thought up a new name for me by now. Do I care? Not really.
So why? Because I can.
Not long ago I came to the conclusion that I do it because I like it and I enjoy it. I need no other reason.
Gisela
On the primary level, it is because I love feminine clothes and how they make me feel. Deeper than that, I have given up trying to solve. I consider this progress 😉
Denise
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Why?
A question with a floating answer as it is constantly changing. Some of the reasons from when I was younger - jealous of what girls got to wear, stimulation for self gratification, liking the feeling of the clothes and probably others no longer remembered. Over the years the few rare times were curiosity, escape and stimulation. Unfortunatly during those times there was no information like there is today so it was a lonely scary place. Jumping forward to today - a few years ago I came out ot my wife which was a freeing moment for me. As a result I am able to dress (privately at home - sometimes with my wife present) without any shame or guilt. I have been in therapy for a few years which started because of my dressing. As a result I have come to embrace my feminine side. It is there whether I am dressed or not, however, being dressed helps me express that part of me. My wife has told me (and I do feel it) that when I'm dressed I'm more relaxed.
There is no right or wrong answer to the "Why", only how it makes us feel. So long as we enjoy it and we are not hurting anyone why not. The "why" could be asked of many things - why do some people color their hair different colors, why do some get their lips, nose, eyebrows or other body parts pierced, why do some people own pets and the list goes on. There are no true answers to the question other than how it makes the person feel.
For me being able to wear female clothing, make up, jewelry and have an alter ego relaxes me and allows me to feel good.
XOXO
Suzanne
Why????? This is something that I have been trying to figure out for sometime. I don’t think I will ever find the answer. I just know I love being a woman (or at least looking like one) . I know I love looking pretty, love women’s fashion, the hair , the makeup. I love expressing my soft side in a safe environment. I am not sure if I will transition. Too much to go through and I am not sure if I could do all the coming out.
I have tried several times to stop dressing, but I keep coming back to it. I love my fem self and she is a part of who I am.