Why do I feel this way?

I have the same challenge. Looking forward to other's responses.

Hi, my name is Lorie. I am a S.O. I also took 4 years of psychology in college. It could be that you have been stymied about your feelings and preferences for so many years, that you transferred the loss or gain you feel about yourself, to purchases. Vicariously those feelings that you are feeling at the loss or gain of in this case Clothing, could be the way you express your feelings at having to " lose out" in some way every day. (J.M.O)

Hello Alison.

I know your feelings oh so well, and there's loads of girls on here who buy buy buy so much more than they need. I can't explain why....it must a girl thing, because I certainly never behave like this " drabbed up"

Personally I'm always looking at/ for new things, sometimes with a delivery yet to be unpacked!!!.

You said.....

"So why do I feel this need to “check out something new” when I already have plenty"? 

We have all heard and laughed at women who " always need a new outfit"....but who is laughing now???.

...and as for feeling sick about non purchases......I have returned to shops many times to grab that bargain I should have bought yesterday.....and it was gone.....now that's what I call feeling bad!!!!!

you are not alone,

Grace xx

We have all heard and laughed at women who ” always need a new outfit”

I didn't realise you had met my SO! 😀

-A.

I think we all feel that way, Alison, and I do believe it may be, in part, as Lorie has said.
We get a thrill, just om looking, and when we click buy, oh my, lol.
all I know, is I have bought more outfits as Regine, in 8 months, than I have for him in 64 years.
Hugs, Regi👸💕

I think part of it is also what I call the collectors mentality. When you find something you like, and you enjoy having it, there becomes an urge to get more (if not all lol).

Hi Alison  The fashion and beauty industry rely s on those feelings. They have been targeting woman for ever. They present very cute 16 year old size #2 models wearing the cutest dresses. You think you could look like this if you buy this. First you feel bad about not looking like that then they have the solution to make you feel better about your self. Its is horrible what they do to our female population. You are not losing anything by letting it go. You are preserving your money for something special. Do not fall for it. Luv Stephanie

I fall for that trap all the time. I now have about fifty dresses. All quite cute in one way or another. All purchased at ridiculously low prices. Well for that price how can I pass  it up? I always say that's enough. How much do I need. Then I buy one more. But I promise this is my last time. Or maybe not.

I know exactly how you feel. I have spent a fortune on tops and dresses during this lockdown mainly like you because I was at home. I don't need them as I have a wardrobe full of lovely tops that will probably only end up being worn once. I went on looking for a nice top for a holiday later in the year and I ended up with 6 tops 2 skirts and 2 dresses. I will need another wardrobe by the time I go back to the office.

I just checked Amazon.... 14 orders in the last 3 months. And I have an order due today for a few small things.... and a pair of white leggings... just HAD to have them ...lol. I am incorrigible. I don't always buy what I put in my cart..... but usually buy something when I start an order. There should be a warning on on-line shopping sites just before hittng the "Complete order" key...... "DANGER... what you are about to do can be addictive"

I attribute it to living my teenage girl years 60 years too late.

On the money Lorie. I know  is a big part of it for me.

You need lots of different outfits because each one is a microcosm of your own self-expression.

Each outfit says something about your mood and aspects of your personality even if you don't know what!

It's the Goldilocks effect.

You feel it.

You know that dress looks great. You put it on. It doesn't feel right just now. You try another. That's closer, but still not right. OK, a top and skirt combination with cute heels. Nope - trainers? Boots?

It's like that with makeup too - this shade of lipstick is too dark, too shiny, too green...

Women's fashion is all about the feeling - you see a model wearing a dress, and after cooing about how lovely it looks, you consider whether it would look and feel good on you - you may consider the feelings you would have wearing it, but you're more likely to just consider the feeling of the garment - the hang, the lovely material, the cut.

Or it could be just me... it definitely is me 😊😊😊😊😊😊😍

Love Laura

I hear and feel what you are going through. I do the same thing.  I am always looking and have bought more things that I need.  But it is very enjoyable to buy things and have them available to wear.

Continue on as you can afford and or want.

The thing is, Laura, I don't put on, take off, and try something else.  I look to see what I want to wear, then I wear it.  The only reason I might change if it isn't weather appropriate, like it was a lot warmer or cooler than I thought it was.