Why Do we?

I’ve wanted to be a woman since I was little, crossdressed throughout much of my life, in private. The last couple years I have realized that I want to live as a woman. I feel more each day like it is inevitable that I will live life as female, perhaps go back on hormones, but very unsure of that. I can’t afford GRS, or I would go that route. For now I just dress when I can and keep it on the down low. It is very helpful chatting with the ladies here, and i’m grateful for all of you. I wish I could meet you all...

Well, to be transparent. For me, it fulfills a need, a desire. It is enjoyable, it releases dopermine into the brain, thus giving me a pleasurable rush! It helps you escape. And last, but not least, for me, society dictates what a real man oughta be and act like. And since a large majority of what I will simply say are alpha males, that is a very big turn-off for me. I connect, confide, chat with women, who are usually very understanding, and patient to a point. The vast najority do not generally get excited about a crossdresser. And honestly, who can blame them? Their girlfriends are just that, girlfriends. They do not, or cannot relate to a guy wearing women's clothes. Being the jealous protect8ve peopls tgat they are, they see our femme selves as competition. Now, you would think that I would just give it up? Well, it just is not that simple, and their rejection to it actually reinforces the desire. That is my thoughts about it anyway.

Hi Emily I feel that we do have a choice but it’s one that would have to involve denying what we feel is the true us. So yes we choose to be true to ourselves, I chose to deny myself for many years. In the end though it became unbearable. To the point now that it is threatening my marriage, but I won’t go back to denying anymore.  💕💋 Katie

I'm actually fairly happy as a guy and was living that way until my suppressed memories of Tara returned (it's in my bio). I jumped in with both feet in December in a glorious Pink Fog.  Then I had a 'what the hell am I doing' moment.  ALL STOP!  Based on advice here, I put all of Tara's things away instead of purging.  Two months later, the second wave of Pink Fog came over me and everything, well, most everything, came back out.

Ladies, I can't stress this enough. DO NOT PURGE.  Your desire WILL come back and you WILL regret p***ing that money away.  You may be in a stage where you feel you are done with this and you may be able to keep it at bay for a while.  Maybe even for years, but I can practically guarantee that it WILL come back.

It's a need.  It's a desire.  It's a want.  I am her and she is me.  That will NEVER go away.  Now, if it were a life and death situation, I think I could stop dressing, but she would still there.  As I said, I still like being a guy.  I think I like being a girl more, though.

*kisses* tara 🙂

Hi Emily,

warm welcome from me,                          anyway you can express your femme side is fab! I’ve been on and off since I can remember but Emma has always been around.  It’s not something I choose, she’s just there and I embrace her as much as possible.
Love and hugs to you x

Emma xxx

Hello Emily...

I think the FIRST time we dress it's a choice....but if you do it a second time.... it's  a desire, a passion, a must......

I want to, I need to and I have to...

might seem a tad greedy, but that's just ME!!!!

love you too!!!....grace xx

Hi Emily
For myself, it started as a choice, I wanted to see what it felt like, each step was a discovery, from my first bra and panties, to just a pretty top, and skirt, to forms, and a wig, each step just felt more right, until now, yes it is a need, to be as I am, and feel so comfortable, and calm. I dont ever want it to go away, I am, Regine
Hugs, Regi 👸💕

So many reasons. Who knows why as a child I put on my moms earrings, shoes and lipstick? After my teenage years, I dolled up a couple times for a sexual rush. Now, after a decades long hiatus, I feel less of any sexual rush, but an overwhelming sense of freedom and release. I know there is a very strong fem side of me that is released when dressed. Also, all stress and anxieties of my male self just vanish, while a pleasurable dopamine rush fills me with peace. And, since I work from home, I find my creativity and productivity increase when in Julie mode. Perhaps I should write a new self help book for men, ‘crossdress your way to inner peace.’

For me, it's who I am. I want to ask "why aren't we permanently this way?" (Sadly, I know the answer to that)

At times the desire to dress is very strong for me. Unfortunately not always able to accommodate and gets bit frustrating. Think at times feels very sexual the desire other times just about the look.

Definitely not something I consciously choose to do as urge been there from a very young age before any sexual desire. Only really dress if can do it fully with hair and makeup done.

Hi Emily I believe initially it was I wanted to feel what is what like to wear that cute nightie or that cute bikini. I enjoyed the feeling so much, I just wanted more until it became a passion I did not want to live without. Eventually I wanted to show the world how I felt so here I am.

Stephanie

When I came out to my wife, I told her this was something I HAD to do. We have a feminine side which must be expressed; we have some choice in how we choose to express it, but it cannot be contained.

All I know is I had these feelings when I was super young. I can't disagree with how I honestly feel. FYI, it's so cool to be CD/TRANS. I love myself and I love clothes and makeup. And shoes. And now bags and other accessories. I want to get my ears pierced, but I don't have the courage yet. In the meantime, I'm going to be what I am, a beautiful woman.

I wish you could dress whenever you want. I wish I could too. I also have tried to figure out if it's just a sexual thing, but I know now that it's not. I accept that I'm a man, but I believe that I am a woman. I don't want to transition because of how much stress it would be. If it wasn't the case, I would do it in a minute. It's not 100% about dressing, but WOW I love to dress. I wish I had the body of a woman so that I could fit in normal sizes. We're ok to be girls and love ourselves. Sorry for the long comment. I am new to this site.