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My wife was complaining yesterday that she has run out of space for her makeup and she is blaming me. It's not that my makeup is taking her space, I have my own room for that, no, it's that before I started cross-dressing, she hardly ever used makeup and now she has to and doesn't have the room for it. She says that if I'm going to get made up to go out then she has to as well to avoid looking under-dressed.
I think perhaps she thinks I might show her up in case I'm much better-dressed—well, as a cross-dresser, you have to be, don't you? It's a problem I'm very glad we have.
Becca
@rebeccabaxter I love it! I can be in a posh frock and my wife in jeans and a hoodie.
Anna x
@rebeccabaxter yes l find since crossdressing that l do dress better than l used to, eve. When l am in drab l still wear nail polish and l am dressing better than l used to, l care much more about my appearance.
Snap, Jane! I always have finger and toenails painted and, most days, a light application of concealer, foundation and powder. I definitely care more about my appearance now, in both modes 😊.
Allie x
“She says that if I'm going to get made up to go out then she has to as well to avoid looking under-dressed.”
Becca, it’s so true as some of the other girls here have noted!
When I first started dressing with my wife, she made a point of dressing up too! She put on makeup, heels, skirts, lingerie and always looked great. She didn’t want to look outdone. There’s no way I could ever look as good and pretty as her and I’m sure she wanted me to know that!
My therapist confirmed this as well. The first time I met her I was in drab. She was dressed very comfortable with leggings and tennis shoes. No makeup and her hair was up. Pretty lady, but looked very plain.
We decided I would be meeting her as Lisa from then on and the next time I met her, I was Lisa and completely done up. To my surprise, she was dressed up in a skirt and heels, makeup, hair done, etc. she looked beautiful! I was really impressed with her and as we sat and talked, we were two pretty ladies chatting and dressed to the nines! I asked her about it and she told me she knew Lisa was coming, so she wasn’t going to be outdone! She has done this every time I’ve been in and tells me she knows she’s going to dress up when I see her. She even told me her peers noticed how she dressed up on these days (another conversation). Both women in my life, who know I dress, my wife and her have confirmed what your wife has told you. It’s a real thing with girls!
Lisa 🥰
@lisagurlll When it is said that women dress for other women and not for men, things like this go a long way to proving the point.
Yes, it is a good problem to have. One advantage to dressing is it motivates us and others to look our best, or at least better. One of the problems with a long life, especially if married or in a long term relationship is we tend to get lazy about oir appearence. My wife loves me even if I am.sloppy, and I love her in return even in sweats and a tee shirt. Dressing motivates us to look oir best, even when not dressed, and if that motivates our spouse to do the same, that is a good thing.
This thread reminds me of something my second wife said when I shared my hobby with her. I was 39 at the time and pulled off a pretty good girly presentation. She sees me and says “ I don’t mind you doing that - but don’t be looking better than me! (This is how they think 🤣)
Of course it was preposterous to think such a thing - but that’s what she said. And all I could think about her response was, gee, ya think you know how someone will react and they come up with a response totally out of left field that you hadn’t even thought of!
So I’m very emphatic to my sisters here on CDH struggling to fess up to their SO. You never know what they’re gonna say after you tell them.
GP
