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How did you chose your style?

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Lady
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(@ritadresser)
Eminent Member     Burlington, Connecticut, United States of America
Joined: 1 month ago

I did what I could to look like a girl when in private. As I grew, I did whatever I could to feel female. In my early 30's I would wear panties/pantihose to work. It wasn't until I married in my mid-30's that my secret CD turned to "what" I actually wanted to wear. It was the same styles my wife liked, a little on the bohemian side, a little western, then the fancy stuff, long form fitting dresses with long sleeves. Our color palettes seem to be the same, also. Reflecting on this, I wondered if I found a woman I wanted to mimic, or did my style evolve to hers by association. I concluded the former, we were compatible on many levels.

How about you Ladies?

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(@delicatedanielle)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Eminent Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Posts: 8

@ritadresser I've been told that my best feature is my legs.  So I have always worn dresses knee length or shorter although I do have longer ones for fall and winter.   Over time my style has changed so that today I gravitate towards "fit and flair" dresses and "A-line" dresses that have a high waist...usually with a multi-tier petticoat underneath.  I think the look is ultra-feminine and sexy.

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 4254

@ritadresser 

I have to confess that I didn't really have a style for the longest time.

I've been dressing in secret since I was very young, but signing up to Crossdresser Heaven in July 2023 gave me the courage to start coming out to people about the fact that I'm transgender.

One of those people was my sister. The day after I told her about me, she took me clothes shopping:

https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/community/personal-stories/so-i-just-told-my-mum-part-2-what-happened-next/#post-140846

I can only repeat what I said in that forum post:

'On Saturday afternoon Tracey took me shopping for women’s clothes in a nearby town. We were out together for five hours. We visited lots of thrift stores as well as the high street shops. She helped me put together a shedload of outfits. Tracey has always been into fashion, and she was BRILLIANT at picking out things that went well together. For the first hour of clothes shopping she was just getting her eye in; we went around the racks while she asked me what colours I go for, what sort of style of clothes I like to wear, what length and so on. She’d find something, show it to me and say ’Would Ellie like this?’. After that she had a clear idea what to look for, and where to go to find it, and it all came together.

'She assembled a set of clothes that are perfect for me in a way I could never have achieved on my own. It feels like I have finally found my style! I was trying stuff on in store. I bought several bags of clothes; a long light summer skirt, a dress, a blouse, two tops, a knee-length cardigan and some leggings. I spent way more than I should have. I loved every minute of it and couldn’t stop smiling!

'By about half way through our shopping session we’d dropped the whole ’Would Ellie like this?’ thing. My confidence was growing all the time, and it just seemed natural to just talk normally. ’Yes, I’d definitely wear that with this’, ’That might be a bit tight across my shoulders’ and so on. I was holding skirts against myself to judge lengths, she was holding tops up against me to see if they looked right, and I was even trying items such as long cardigans on in the middle of the store. As people often comment, in the big stores no-one paid us any attention whatsoever. In the thrift stores we drew a couple of glances, but it was really just mild curiosity.

'I told Tracey several times how much I was loving the whole experience and she was just like ’Why? We’re just two sisters out shopping together.’ She said it was the most fun she’d had in ages. She's already arranged another shopping trip for us at Christmas.

'When we got back, Mum wanted to see what I’d bought. I didn’t so go far as to try anything on in front of her, but I did hold things against me so she could see how everything co-ordinated. It felt a little odd to be doing this in front of my Mum, but it also felt WONDERFUL. She commented on what went well with what, felt the various fabrics and said how pretty everything was.

'On Saturday evening Mum, Tracey and I sat together at the computer and ordered some more things so I could complete Ellie’s look.

'On Sunday morning, Tracey sorted out some of her own clothes (things she’d bought online that were too big for her) and gave those to me as well. So as well as everything that we actually bought together, I now have some hand-me-downs, one sister to another.'

So that, in rather more than a nutshell (more like a kilo of mixed nuts) is how I 'found my style'. Up until that point, my wardrobe consisted of a series of late night impulse buys which really didn't go well together. It took my sister to help me realise what I actually liked and show me how to put it all together into a defined whole.

My 'style' has evolved a little since then, but what you see in these photos pretty much sums it up:

Pink Punters … enjoying the throne – Crossdresser Heaven

Say hello to ‘Ellie 2024’ – Crossdresser Heaven

Second time outside – Crossdresser Heaven

 

Hugs

Ellie x

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Lady
(@ritadresser)
Joined: 1 month ago

Eminent Member     Burlington, Connecticut, United States of America
Posts: 11

@ellyd22 You look great! Keep it up. Heart

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3096

Posted by: @ritadresser

How did you chose your style?

When I decided to crossdress, I ended up choosing to dress androgynously. This allows me to always wear women's clothing nearly 100% of the time, at home or abroad.

Who knows if I will ever go further than this because I sure don't.

 

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Duchess
(@gafran)
Joined: 6 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 495

@ritadresser 

I like the freedom of a dress/skirt. I'm 6 feet tall so most dreses tend to be a bit short on me.

 My legs don't look bad so I don't mind showing them. It all works out.

 It's funny that a flared dress/skirt makes my legs look skinner. 

 I like, prints, pastels and most any color. 

Fran 🥰 

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Managing Ambassador
(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3462

@ritadresser 

I never gave my style much thought. I'm a rock chick. I worked in the music industry when I was younger. My style is rooted in that culture.

I gravitate to anything edgy. BLACK! Animal prints. Leather. Bold colors. Shiny adornments. Silver jewelry. Fishnets. Boots. Glam makeup. Long hair.

Heels and hemlines were higher when I was younger. Less skin and lower heels work better these days. Some of my hottest dresses are midi length. This recent addition is a fave.
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/photo/happily-distracted/

/LK

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     Connecticut, United States of America
Posts: 959

@ritadresser My style has evolved a lot over the years.  It a mashup of what I have seen in the media, stores and what is worn by the women I see out and about.  On occasion, I have found women whose specific style I like and I have adapted it to me.   Doing this, I have taken the things I like and have used to build my own personal style.  While my daily style draws heavily from athleisure looks, my dressy style is drawn from business formal looks such as what an on air news reported might wear.

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(@finallyfiona)
Joined: 11 months ago

    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 1277

@ritadresser 

Like Ellie @ellyd22, I'm not sure I have a style yet either 🙂  About the only consistent thing about my style so far is trial and error! 

I didn't have any feminine feelings in my formative years so I never learned about style, and since Fiona blossomed in my life I've mostly just been buying things that I think I might like, when they've been at a price I'm happy with, and hoping for the best.  I am finding ways to make outfits out of most of them now as I eventually find companion pieces for them.  Other unmatched items have gone to the charity shops, but there are still some things in my wardrobe that I realise don't go with anything else, however much I like them.  

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 4254

@finallyfiona 

Like Ellie @ellyd22, I'm not sure I have a style yet either 

I didn't have a style until my sister stepped in and helped me to find it.

Now I very definitely do!

Ellie x

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(@finallyfiona)
Joined: 11 months ago

    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 1277

@ellyd22 Indeed 🙂  Sorry, I didn't really articulate that I was comparing my (lack of) style to your 'before' image rather than 'after'.

I'm rather hoping that now we're getting back together, my SO will guide me to some extent as to what works or doesn't work.

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Lady
(@ritadresser)
Joined: 1 month ago

Eminent Member     Burlington, Connecticut, United States of America
Posts: 11

@ellyd22 lucky you 😘

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Duchess
(@trisha283)
Joined: 4 years ago

Honorable Member     Pataskala, Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 490

@ritadresser i don't think anyone really picks a style. We all have an image of what we want to create, and for me that continues to evolve. I love the sharp woman look. But that is not the social norm, todays women are tees and shorts or jeans.  I prefer the skirt or dress. I love thin lacy blouses and every shoe, and there are alot, has a heel.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3096

Posted by: @trisha283

@ritadresser i don't think anyone really picks a style. We all have an image of what we want to create, and for me that continues to evolve.

I definitely chose my style because of the restrictions that I either chose to live with willingly or which were curtailed by my wife that dictated just how far en femme I could go at home or abroad.

 

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Lady
(@cherylt)
Reputable Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 3 months ago

I don't feel I chose my style. I think it was more that it evolved over time. 

When I was younger I wore what everyone wore, especially if it was ultra femme and sexy. That was when I was in the closet. When I decided I had to venture out was the beginning of the evolution. I knew that what I loved to wear was not what I could or should wear in public without attracting LOTS of attention and that's not what I wanted. 

I began watching my purchases more closely and only bought items that would make multiple outfits. Tops and bottoms that would be mix and match so 2 tops and 2 bottoms made 4 outfits and so on. I also made sure that they were things that I would and could wear in public. Of course there were specialty items for parties and such but mostly I was now building a wardrobe, not just buying clothes. 

For the last 20 years I stopped buying things I "loved" unless they would go with multiple others that I owned and were also things I would wear out, not just in the house. Now I'm at the point where my closet is 100% wearable and if someone were to look at it they would not know it belonged to anyone but a woman. When I go out I'm just another gal doing whatever and I love it.

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Lady
(@ritadresser)
Joined: 1 month ago

Eminent Member     Burlington, Connecticut, United States of America
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@cherylt That was a practical approach, you look happy and wonderful!

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Noble Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I'm in my early 70's but luckily look somewhat younger when dressed. The look I wanted was that of a stylish middle-aged woman and that is what I strive for in all my clothing choices both dressy and casual.

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Famed Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

I am in the evolution camp. I dressed in whatever was available when younger which was quite fashionable due to my sisters styles. Once on my own it was try and see which led to some interesting choices. At the end my own style evolved and feel comfortable and those around me like it too.

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Lady
(@emily2day)
Estimable Member     DFW, Texas, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

My story pretty much mimic's yours. my wife and I are very similar in style which is boho, and bright colors. I tend to be the more feminine with heels and boots/booties over her usual sandals though.

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Lady
(@ritadresser)
Joined: 1 month ago

Eminent Member     Burlington, Connecticut, United States of America
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@emily2day You are fortunate. Enjoy!

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Duchess
(@joannat)
Estimable Member     Gwynedd, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 weeks ago

I have been ‘out’ for just about a year now. My legs are my best feature, so I’m told, so I always wear a skirt and tights/pantyhose to show them off to best effect. I’m 56, so the skirts are knee length or just a few inches above.

I normally wear ballet flats, or knee high leather boots if the season permits. Will be on the lookout for some pretty sandals next Spring.

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Baroness
(@aflower)
Joined: 3 years ago

Estimable Member     Illinois, United States of America
Posts: 127

@joannat I do the same. Show those legs as much as possible. I'm told there is a very fine line on too much leg. I'm still looking for that line.

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Duchess
(@joannat)
Joined: 3 weeks ago

Estimable Member     Gwynedd, United Kingdom
Posts: 47

@aflower You look amazing April!

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Honorable Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

🤔 probably best not to say my style if anyone seen or talked with me you already know good topic tho thanks for sharing with use 

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 10 months ago

I started with trousers but I didn't feel very feminine. Then I tried dresses, but dresses hang peculiarly on me and don't do much to cover any belly I might have. So I settled on loose tops with skirts; 44D breasts make the looseness of the top clear any tummy problems. And that's my style: mature elegance—well, I think so. Check out my profile pictures, there are examples of all these things.

 

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Duchess
(@reallylauren)
Noble Member     Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi girls, I'm in my early 70's, the ladies I know who work with me and go shopping with me, all say I look 15 years younger than I am.  I am happy to go with what they say and dress accordingly!   I am an intersex trans woman and have always had a fascination with feminine fashions. Through the years girlfriends would ask me to go shopping with them because I had a better sense of what looked good on them. All of these ladies in my life tell me I'm a classy lady with impeccable style. I'm very picky about my clothes, they not only have to look feminine, they have to feel feminine! I run my fingers over the material of anything I am interested in and if it doesn't feel right it stays on the store hanger.

I love beautiful tops and sweaters that feature scoop and vee necklines. I love bell and 3/4 sleeves. I'm really not liking the current new Fall fashions that feature crew, cowl and turtle necklines. 

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 Lisa
Lady
(@lisagurlll)
Trusted Member     Diamond Bar, California, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

How did I choose my style? Pretty simple to explain, I guess. It was always those that I saw and admired growing up, and wearing what they wore:

-young years was mom. 
-my sister started dressing fashionable in middle school
- high school and college were the girls I saw as pretty and sexy
- met my wife and loved everything she wore (and still wears)!

I’ve been fortunate that I could fit into my mother’s, sister’s, and wife’s clothes. My wardrobe has always been full and up to style! I love looking pretty like them!

 

Lisa 🥰

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Duchess
(@jennconn)
Prominent Member     Florida, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I never really had a “style”.  But now that I’m dressing regularly, I’m a bit more conservative when I buy something to wear.  As has been said above, I have to keep an eye toward things that I might be able to wear that won’t attract as much as things I’ve purchased in the past.  Although, I don’t plan on getting rid of those skimpy little sequined dresses, I don’t think I’d be wearing one out in public.  

So in summary, my style is more practical now than a few years ago.  

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 8 months ago

I vary between a 1950s look with A-line dresses, corsets and petticoats to a modern T-dress. The 1950s as I love the styling, the cut and shape of the dresses. The T-dress as it's widely available, looks good and adapts well with other items.

Anna xx

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