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Ladies, I think the one thing that probably sets apart the almost full time girls and the part timers is whether you have your ears pierced. Now I know that these days the prevalence of men with both ears pierced is on the increase, but how many of you have your ears pierced?
I know for myself, a part timer, the sign that I take the next step is if I get my ears pierced. Even shaving is recoverable, but pierced ears is way more permanent.
What about you? Have you taken that next step?
@lacychristine I have not Lacy, but like you am strongly considering have them done.
@lacychristine sadly, no. Am not out to my family, only my wife. She wants no trace of Lorraine around our children. One of the 3 commandments.
@lacychristine Not entirely true. I am essentially full time (95%+) and I don’t have pierced ears because I don’t have enough flexibility in my elbows and shoulders to mount them. If I did, I would have to to have my wife mount them and she isn’t always available. I have many earrings and all are clip-ons save for a pair of screw backs, but I don’t wear them. It was a package deal with a necklace I wanted. It’s the same story with necklaces. I have converted many to magnetic clasps.
Hi Lacy, thanks for the post. I pierced my ears back in my early twenties. There were just so many more really nice earrings available if a girl has her ears pierced. Then I had my ears double pierced about 3 years ago. My wife wasn't too happy but I certainly was. pierced ears really aren't permanent in that if you don't wear earrings regularly then the holes tend to close over and pretty much disappear.
Honestly in all the years my ears have been pierced I've never had anyone comment on them...ever. So nowadays I don't think it's a big deal like it was a few years ago.
@trish1980 I wear clip on earrings and I hate them. I don't know why I haven't gotten them pierced yet but maybe I'm worried about how they look without earrings in? The holes look weird without earrings. But, with my job, I'm not confident I can wear even masculine earrings. This is ridiculous really, we should be able to dress how we like and not have to conform to whatever. Sorry, I'm tired.
honestly Theresa the holes aren’t that big once they’ve healed. Like I said, no one will even notice them and so many men wear ear rings in both ears no one really cares any more.
Trish ❤️
@lacychristine Yes I have my ears pierced and wear earrings even in male mode. I got them done when my Ex offered to pay for it. I think she thought I would chicken out, but I fooled her, I couldn't say yes fast enough.
Cassie
@lacychristine I asked my wife to pierce my ears in the summer of 2020. I wear earrings prettly much 24/7...I love to wear dangling sets that I can feel move when I turn my head.
Lacy I am a"part timer" and after my wife encouraged me I got my ears pierced at age 62 when we were out of town for a Carlos Santana. Needless to say I love wearing earrings. So many different styles. My wife is a jeweler and she makes a ton of earrings that we share. Love the dangle style that shake when I walk or shake my head...makes me feel a bit more fem. You will really enjoy them!!
@lacychristine Great question Lacy. One of my first steps to coming out was to get both ears pierced. I got them done a couple years ago and wear a stud in one ear but when I dress up I wear one of the many, many pairs of earrings I have collected. I love the feeling of long dangly earrings on my neck. The only thing I haven't figured out is how to keep them from getting entangled in my locks when I'm wearing long hair!
It is on my radar for sure. currently looking at clip one on Amazon lol.
If I do go that route, it’ll be further down the road, a part of a culmination of everything coming together to the permanence that I’m envisioning.
@lacychristine I have had pierced ears since 1980. I guess it was still a bit radical back then (lots of pirate jokes) but it fitted my rebellious nature so i wasn't in the least bit worried by others opinions. Is it only now becoming more popular? seems to me that it isn't even a thing these days where people are putting rings in anything that sticks out. I wouldn't give it a second thought if I were you, it will probably get a mention from people you know but other than that no one is going to care. Go for it!
@lacychristine Ear piercing is not permanent! If you don't wear earrings the holes will get smaller and in some of cases heal up or not be noticeable. If they don't close up a visit to your doctor can make them seal up by removing the skin inside the hole. Then they will heal up. People who expand their earring holes sometimes tear their ear lobes and they can be repaired or get tired of them and they can have their lobes closed by plastic surgery.
So if you want to get them done do it!
I want to get mine pierced But my wife is not happy with that. She is not a jewelry lover (thank god) and doesn't think I need mine pierced! But hopefully I will get them pierced.
@lacychristine I love this topic because piercing my ears changed my life more than any single act. I had half-jokingly discussed it with my wife and one day at the mall she pushed me into a jewelry shop and it was done. It didn’t feel like a huge deal to me. I might decide not to wear earrings or to just wear one. The holes could regrow. I had tiny white gold studs put in.
I wore those initial studs for several weeks until it was no big deal. Since then, three years ago, my earrings have grown in size and brightness. I wear a different pair every day to match my outfit and it made me focus on clothes a lot more. I started getting compliments from pretty coworkers. Now if I leave the house without earrings I feel uncomfortable. No dangly ones yet in public
@kristacrawford1967 I am intending to have my ears pierced too, although not just yet - this is something that the OH has indicated she may be OK with, but I'm not going to push it until she's ready. You don't really get to see my current clip-ons with Fiona's hair in place, in fact I tend to wear them most when I'm around the house dressed but without hair or makeup. But the studs or some other earrings being there when in drab will be a (hopefully) permanent reminder of who I am inside, that clear polish on my fingernails, or colour on my toes inside my drab shoes, just isn't.
Hi, Fiona, I've been thinking about it too, mainly because there are a couple of pairs of my clip-on's that hurt after a few hours of wearing.
I had both ears pierced in the late 70's and wore lots of different earrings, including, if memory serves, a pair of green and yellow parrots. I received plenty comments about them 😀.
Hugs
Allie x
@alexina Oh wow I just bet those parrots stood out! Actually that's got me thinking, if I could find a pair of red parrot earrings, they would match my summer maxi dress 🙂 I doctored my clip-ons a while back so that I can stay in them all day, but I do find that it also depends exactly where on my earlobes I clip them. Some spots seem to be more sensitive than others.
@kristacrawford1967 Krista sounds familiar my wife pushed me into a place at a mall out of town and I walked out with my ears pierced. Just love them so many different styles and colors to match with. Dangly ones at home or out of town and post in public in town. Got some negative feedback from unknowing friends but thats ok stephanie is pretty tough. But love the feminine reminder all day.
@stephaniewyo I guess I’ve been lucky regarding negative comments. I believe I’m coming up on three years of wearing earrings daily in an awful redneck community with not one mean comment. But you said “unknowing”, so maybe that is something different.
I have found some studs that extend barely below my earlobes and I love them!
I got mine pierced earlier this year. Wish I'd done it sooner. The usual excuses why I shouldn't never happened. If anything it was a non-event. The few comments I got were positive....from women that know me. TBH the biggest concern has been making sure they heal properly. The first 3 months require diligent care and gentle handling.
/EA
I got my first ear piercings around 1988 when I started going out dressed a lot. I got a second hole in my left ear in the late 90’s when I was playing guitar in a metal band. I finally got a second piercing in my right ear in 2020 so everything is balanced again. 
Now I wear 1” gold hoops in the front holes, and diamond studs in the rear. This is my everyday look en femme or en drab. When I’m going out dressed, I switch out the hoops for larger hoops or something dangly. The studs never come out except for cleaning. Gotta keep ‘em sparkly!
One big pro - with pierced ears you have a huge selection of different earrings. Which leads to one small con - I spend too much money on earrings!
@jayneelaparte Not entirely true. I probably have around 30 pairs of clip on earrings. If someone says that they can’t find any clip ons, they are looking in the wrong places.
I got my ears pierced just over a year ago. I can't say I am sorry I waited, I had a number of reasons. I was a regular blood donor, and they had a deferral period of a year after a piercing. I couldn't see not donating for a year for getting my ears pierced because of the potential to save lives, especially when I was not out en femme often enough (I estimated it was less than 3% of the time, and some of that is isolated in a car traveling).
Two things happened that made me decide to go for it. One, the deferral period was lowered from a year to 3 months. This meant I would only be missing a single donation. Two, my blood iron was consistently too low, meaning I couldn't donate anyway.
I'm still wearing the starter earrings, mainly because they are difficult to put on by myself (even with help, my daughter has difficulties). If I can get backings that don't stick through the ears to the front yet fit the earrings, then I will wear feminine earrings once in a while. I had the starters out a few times and was able to put in earrings myself, just not put the starters back in without help. With the backings sticking through the ear, I have to find the hole in the backing which is "floating" above my ear, without being able to see or feel where hole is. When putting on other earrings, I can feel where the post is on my ear, and I know approximately where the hole is, and I can find the hole and push the backing through the ear by myself.
Current life position prevents me from piercing, but I do want them. Maybe some day.
Toodles!
I want but my otherwise supportive wife says no
I got my ears pierced a couple of years after "Careless Whisper" was released :-). I was young, wanted to be cool, so got both of them pierced not knowing that decades later I would be wearing earrings for a very different reason. Boy, oh, boy do I enjoy feeling the weight of heavy earrings on my lobes!
@sonal What was it about the song that made you want to get your ears pierced? Was it because George Michael had pierced ears?
@lacychristine Yes!! At that time I didn't know he was gay (or that I was interested in men). I just thought he looked beautiful in that video. I look nothing like him, so I decided getting my ears pierced would be as close to him as I could possibly get.
I decided to get my ears pierced last August. All went well, and no issues. Waited eight weeks before I changed them & was careful with using the healing solution three times a day.
Jaynee is right, opens up a huge selection that you can spend your money on, Lol. Ask me how I know..
Emily
Our daughter's boyfriend has his ears pierced and now has loops in the holes. We will see them for Christmas, so maybe I can use that as a conversation starter.
@harriette You know, it is common for a daughter to be attracted to a man like her father.
@2bmadeline People have pets that look like themselves, too. Trust me, the boyfriend and I don't look alike at all, in this case. 🫣
I've considered it. I feel like, for me, mostly the added value is minimal. I have clip-on adjusters so any pair of pierced-ear earrings can be worn. Having them pierced would really just require me to explain it to my closest inner circle people - mother, brother-in-law, etc. People who...don't need to know about Melodee.
Since the upside is minimal, right now I don't see the need. But that's just for me. 🙂
I am thinking of getting mine pierced in a month or so.
I pierced mine almost a year ago. I can see people notice them when talking face to face, but not one person has said anything about them. And the people that I know have not treated me any different. Strangers are always in a hurry to go wherever they are going to notice or care. And the ones that do notice them, well, I don't know what they think, but it doesn't matter to me.
I always wanted my ears pierced, but my wife wasn't keen, so I parked the idea.
One Saturday morning, we were lying in bed and she asked me what I gained doing that day. I tried that I had no real plans and that I was happy to do whatever she wanted. She replied "I thought we'd go into town and get your ears pierced"
This came as a total shock. I haven't asked, nor prompted in any way
We went into a place that uses a clamp and needle rather than a gun. I booked in, but had a three hour wait. We went shopping and grabbed dinner lunch. I was seriously nervous, and I mean seriously!
The time came, and we went back to the shop.
My name was called and I went in
Getting my ears pierced was one of the best things I have ever done! I absolutely love it! It's been well over a year and I still get a buzz when I put them in. Sometimes just studs, sometimes really large danglers. I live then all!
Get them done! Seriously you won't regret it. No more hunting around for clip ons!
Cerys
I've had mine pierced for almost two years. My favorite type of earrings are one and two inch gold hoops. Hoop style earrings are a timeless classic, they look wonderful on everybody, you can wear them casual or dressy and to me hoops are just the ultimate sexy earring!
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
My feelings on this matter are similar like yours Lacy. In my female persona i always wear earrings, like them quite a bit and would love to be able to avail myself of the pretty ones I see for persons with pierced ears. However, altho earrings are common among men now I do not wish to wear earrings, and i would need to in order to preserve the opening that accommodates the earring. So until I warm to the idea of wearing earrings as my male self or go 24/7 CD, I'll be doing the clip ons.
