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(@veroslondon)
Reputable Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
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When I'm scrolling through fashion websites there are certain styles that I immediately exclude from consideration due to my height (short) and age (old) but there are also other styles that I just don't like. For me the words asymmetric hem or cut out detail or wrap-around in the description of a clothing item are red flags for me and I carry on scrolling. I'm not sure if this aversion to certain styles is because they don't suit me or it's just because they're not to my probably very biased taste. So this got me wondering if any other CDH girls also have certain fashion styles that they would never consider wearing not because of something like body shape or age but just through good old fashioned prejudice that they can't rationalise.

Veronica xx

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Lady
(@harriette)
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@veroslondon I have bought a few things, such as dresses, that would be impractical for me to wear, especially in public. It will have to be pretty special for me to spend any more money on dresses.

Having said that, I do wear a simple, dark coloured, knit dress around the apartment. Practical and quick to pull on. I use it more as a learning tool because it is a bit on the too warm side. For example, would I dare open my front door for my mailman/woman while wearing a dress? There are three doors  opposite ours. It isn't tested yet.

Until the forest of body hair is cut down, I don't buy things that expose it or my surgery scar. I still have to figure out what to do about my arm hair, for instance.

Cutouts are a time-based fashion plague that may go away. Shoulder cuts will, eventually, date clothes. Belly cutouts won't happen. I don't have any bias against wrap-around clothes - yet. They look and sound practical, look nice.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
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@harriette 

If I may, regarding arm hair. Some people will shave their arms but I don't think it is necessary to go that far. Most women have arm hair to a greater or lesser extent and I see no reason why a cross-dresser can't have it too.

Now I'm not advocating throwing caution to the wind and going out in hairy gorilla mode, no, I used a beard trimmer on my arm hair and cut it back to about 2mm long. I'm not particularly fair haired so didn't know if it would work but it has. Trimming it back has the two advantages of a) being shorter, of course and b) the shorter hair reveals more of your skin and so the hair looks a lot lighter and downy. Because you haven't shaved it off completely, it still looks perfectly natural in male mode.

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(@harriette)
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@rebeccabaxter Thanks for the tips. I guess that I could use my IPL on them and see how quickly/slowly the hair disappears.

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(@dovemtn2016)
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@veroslondon 

Hi Veronica,

I don't do miniskirts, or hooker heels(you girls all know what those are). When I wear a dress or a skirt I ALWAYS wear nylons. I live in Arizona, and I swear air conditioning is everywhere.

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Duchess
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@veroslondon I stay away from open shoulders due to the many scars on my shoulder area. I'm old fashioned and have to wear nylons with heels but if open toe I avoid shiny hose as it draws too much attention. On top of that, anything that looks like it was from my daughter's closet.

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(@lauren114)
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@veroslondon Here's my no-nos:

- Dark stocking with light colored shoes

- Micro Mini Skirts.  I love mini skirts but a girl needs to be practical.

- Heavy Jewelry.   Leave the crown jewels in the tower.

- Clothing that is inappropriate for a setting.   Somebody really doesn't need to wear formal wear to the supermarket.   There 's a time and place for formality.

- Going out with no makeup.   I have to face it, I need my makeup!

- VPLs.   They happen but not if i can help it. 

Probably a lot of this comes from the fact that I dress to blend in not stand out.   I just follow the general lead of the women I see in my area while still having my own particular style.

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(@veroslondon)
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@lauren114 Hi Lauren

A lot of us girls say that we like to dress like the other women around us but the truth is that when I'm out most of the women I see haven't spent a lot of time on the way they look. Occasionally you will see a cis woman who stands out because she's particularly well groomed but mostly you see a lot of very casual clothes, little or no make-up and sometimes fairly scruffy hair. The problem for CD's today is that it's very difficult for us emulate the way most cis women look. We need certain types of clothes to hide our masculine shape and carefully applied makeup to give some semblance of feminine features. I sometimes think it was easier for CD's in the 1950's when women always seemed to be well groomed!

Veronica

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@veroslondon 

I sometimes think it was easier for CD's in the 1950's when women always seemed to be well groomed!

That's a very good point ... I hadn't really thought about that before 🙂

Today, many GGs are very low-key in terms of presentation, but that isn't something that most of us can easily emulate if we want to look convincing.

I walk around Waitrose, looking at female shoppers and thinking ... girl ... I would not get away with that if I were to try it 🙁

I guess it all depends on how much importance you place on the whole concept of 'passing'.

Based on previous exchanges I've seen between members on the Forums, it seems that confidence / owning it often wins out over the quest for perfection.

Disclaimer: I'm basing this PURELY on what I've read. As someone who has yet to set to set foot outside of her house fully en femme I may be talking completely out of my nether regions. It wouldn't be the first time. Check back with me in late July, after my first public outing, for a more informed response.

Ellie x

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(@veroslondon)
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@ellyd22 Hi Ellie

Firstly can I just say how much I admire your writing skills. Would that I and all those tapping away at home were so eloquent. I love your posts as much for the style as the content.

Like you, I've noticed how much other CD's highlight self-confidence as the secret to passing. But I wonder if they are confusing not giving a f*** with self-confidence. I think if you are 6ft 6in wearing a leather mini-skirt, a leopard print bustier and 5 inch heels in the middle of the day no amount of self-confidence is going to help you pass. What it can do is help you relax and enjoy being out as your version of a woman but that's not the same as passing.

When I'm out dressed I try to make sure my appearance is "appropriate" (I hate that word but can't think of an alternative, "sympathetic" maybe?) for where I am and the time of day but because of the reasons I've mentioned I accept that I can't be a replica of the cis women around me. I think I do alright at passing until I have close contact with others, usually serving staff in shops and cafes and then you can see by their look that I've been "clocked". At one time this used to bother me but not so much now which may be a sign that I'm gaining self-confidence and not worrying quite so much about passing.

I'm sure you've rehearsed in your mind many times your planned outing in July and can't wait for the day. It's a seminal moment for all CD's and I wish the best of luck but once out there you will never look back.

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@veroslondon 

I'm sure you've rehearsed in your mind many times your planned outing in July and can't wait for the day.

To be honest other things in my life, not least an incredibly stressful work environment, have been so overwhelming of late that I genuinely haven't had the time to give any thought to my makeover at all.

There are just too many things piling in on top of me 🙁

I hate the fact that my life is like this, but the girls on here may be aware from my previous posts that I'm jumping ship in early July. I suspect that THAT'S when I'll start giving serious thought to the makeover and outing. It will very much mark the start of a new beginning for me.

Hugs 

Ellie  x

PS Thank you so much for the kind words at the beginning of your post. They've given me a a genuine lift at the end of what has been a TRULY awful day.

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(@lauren114)
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@veroslondon Believe me, I definitely have standards that are much higher than many of the women I see around me.   Thats probably true of most girls on here.

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Lady
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@veroslondon  - it's not just you. My wife would not go near anything asymmetric, or off the shoulder, or unwalkable heels, or puffa coat like a walking duvet, or so many other things. It's a question of taste - and the high street fashion industry comes out with some shockers to kepp the mill turning.

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@veroslondon Ever since I began dressing at a very young age, I would look in magazines and department store catalogues, looking at all the pretty clothes. There was some items I wish I had and was wearing at that moment and other items that didn't really appeal to me.

The first thing I recall seeing that really appealed to me was a bra. Women were wearing them. I loved how they looked. I wanted one. But it wasn't just the bras. I looked at everything, the pantyhose, the stockings, the lingerie, the pretty dresses, the heels. I studied and learned all I could about them. And if I saw a girl wearing something I really liked, I would want that also.

By the time I was able to buy my own clothes, I knew what I wanted, what I liked and what sizes I needed.

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(@cdashley)
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@veroslondon For me I don’t wear crop tops or body con dresses. I don’t have the body for me. I normally try to match my heels to my top and never wear a light coloured heel with dark pantyhose. Even tho most women have stopped wearing pantyhose I wear them with most outfits.

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(@veroslondon)
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@cdashley Hi  Ashley

Like you, if I'm wearing a skirt or dress i always wear tights/pantyhose even in the summer. My legs just aren't smooth enough even when shaved to go bare legged.

Veronica

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(@cdashley)
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@veroslondon yes I hear ya on wearing them all the time hun.

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@veroslondon 

 

My legs have age-related marks on them.  However, our summer temperatures and humidity here in Atlanta make it virtually impossible to wear pantyhose during the summer months.

Alternative options are to wear the pretty ankle-length summer dresses or to use products such as Sally Hanson's Air Brush Leg Makeup.  Of course, many women continue to wear leggings in the summer, but those can get uncomfortably warm too.

This is a time of year when males have the advantage.  They wear shorts and do not care how their legs look. 

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(@caroline2k)
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@veroslondon I always wear tights too, whatever the weather - but that's just because I love wearing tights! 😀

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@caroline2k The best reason!

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I won't wear strapless or one shoulder tops/dresses.  This a practical consideration based on my large breasts.

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@sophie85 wishI had that problem. Smile

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(@michaela2001)
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It's the really frilly/sexy underwear that's a big NO for me. I tried a sexy bustier once, NEVER again will one come anywhere near me. Apart from so very awkward to put on, the mirror said, "Don't be so stupid mate!"  😀

I'll stick to "normal" everyday styles that all the women around me wear on a daily basis, you know, leggings, denim skirts & so on.

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(@jillleanne)
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Cold shoulder anything drives me crazy. I see other women in them and they look fine. Me? I look like a full back with the Raiders. The other clothes I just can’t wear are clingy stretchy materials. I adore them but no matter what I do, they just don’t fit right sadly.

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I'm with you on the wrap-around, Veronica. That open flap down the front always seems fraught with some unforeseen peril.

I avoid colourful floral print dresses. Not that there's anything wrong with them, they're just not for me.

Deep V-necks are another thing I shy away from.

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Baroness
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Jacqueline, floral dresses are my absolute favourite! Vive la difference! xx

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Totally, Chrissie! If we all dressed the same it'd soon get pretty boring!

I do like floral print dresses to look at, but not to wear. My mother never wore them, so maybe it's a preference I've inherited from her.

Now there's an interesting thought, ladies. How much of our personal dress/fashion sense is influenced by our mothers?

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Posted by: @jacquelinelarkspur

How much of our personal dress/fashion sense is influenced by our mothers?

Probably zero effect, at least consciously.

 

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(@harriette)
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Above: I meant that personally, for me.

I am sure that some CDs will have been influenced by their mothers.

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I knew what you meant, Harriette!

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@jacquelinelarkspur I love the fashions and styles of my mums generation. Ladies dressed beautifully in the 50's and 60's. Mum's wardrobe was my early inspiration. I remember the first time I wore one of her slips aged 4. That was the start of something that has never gone away or diminished in my being.

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@jacquelinelarkspur Slips, never dressed without, especially laced edged.

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Thanks, Nicola. I've rarely worn a slip. In fact the last time was perhaps 25 or 30 years ago! But funnily enough I bought one last week in preparation for my trip this week. Lace-edges, too. It'll be quite cold where I'm going, so a slip will help keep me warm, ha-ha.

What colour slip do you prefer?

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(@veroslondon)
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@jacquelinelarkspur It's interesting the way that slips as underwear have virtually disappeared from women's wardrobes except if they are included as part of a vaguely see-through dress. I can remember my wife wearing them up until the 1980's but by then they were mostly half slips. The full slip usually with lace at the bust and hem now seems to be considered to be something worn at night rather than during the day although there does now seem to be a trend towards slip-like skirts and dresses for day (but more likely evening) wear. I have seen dresses described as lingerie dresses which seems to indicate some kind of repurposing of the slip. Incidentally does anyone else have fond memories of Elizabeth Taylor looking incredibly sexy in a gorgeous lace edged full slip in Butterfield 8?

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I believe you're right, Veronica. Perhaps it's down to more dresses having their own linings. The slips I found in the shops were all the rather plain shapewear type. I finally found a lace trimmed one in a sale in Bon Marché.

I think I know the Liz Taylor pic you mean. Quite an iconic publicity shot.

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@jacquelinelarkspur Not visiting enough charity shops, all my slips...

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@jacquelinelarkspur White or cream, and black, but not obverse to other colours.  Currently an emerald green Charnos below the knee culotte cut. over tights and under pjs.  This girl so loves her slips, so feminine, never dressed without, helps keep this Yorkshire lass toastie...

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Jacqueline, interesting question about our mothers' attire. I was late to the party. No inclination of feminine tendencies whatsoever until my early twenties when I suddenly experienced an overwhelming urge to put on some lipstick. I have always wondered where that came from. It simply would not have occurred to me to try on anything of my mother's. But I still remember my mum's slips and OBGs and these are two of my favourite garments. Perhaps the seed of an idea was growing in me earlier than I thought xx. 

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Hi Chrissie,

It's interesting, isn't it, how specific items influence our early steps into crossdressing. With you it was lipstick (how did that come about, by the way? I ought to check your profile first...), and with me it was my mum's tights.

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Jacqueline, I have no idea at all where the urge to put on some lipstick came from, but I can remember the moment as clearly as if it was yesterday xx.

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@jacquelinelarkspur Pour moi, a floral panelled panty girdle closely followed by stockings...

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Oh yes! I remember the girdles my mum used to wear when I was a boy. They always seemed very stiff and secure... and quite shiny. 

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@jacquelinelarkspur And you didn't try one on?

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Of course I did!

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@jacquelinelarkspur Fond memories? Tabs for stockings to feel totally enclosed?

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Just the girdle, no suspender tabs. I didn't dare wear them often; too much risk of getting them grubby. Tights were always my main attraction anyway; three or four pairs from my teens on, due to the onset of hairy legs which it was too awkward to shave.

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I love turtleneck sweaters, but the 'cowl' itself is often too loose and not high enough for my taste.

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Really short skirts. While I like a bit of leg showing, and I love to see a woman in a short skirt the mini minis are too much of a good thing.

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I'm with you on wrap round dresses Veronica and really can't figure out why. Is it because of the awful wrap round flowered affairs the 'Mrs Mops' wore with a turban on the head back in the day. I had an aversion to button through dresses and even blouses, I didn't like buttons, another strange aversion. To masculine like buttoned shirts but I have overcome that now.

We do have some odd foibles.

 

 

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I found a pretty red dress once. Cute, sleeveless, edgy slit opening above the bosom. I thought it looked fab...until I saw a photo of me in it. All I could see was big old 'man' shoulders and arms. It's going to be a 'no' from me, thank you. 🙂

I would note that off the shoulder pieces surprisingly have the reverse effect.

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(@veroslondon)
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@melodeescarlet Hi Melodee

Like you I've always avoided showing my arms and shoulders to try to avoid looking like a "bloke in a dress". But I'm intrigued by the idea that off the shoulders styles (I think they are also called Bardot tops) don't have this problem. Thanks for the tip. 

Veroniva xx

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(@bluefin)
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My dressing is more just average everyday tops, dress's, leggings. When looking for a dress or tops I too stay away from cold shoulder, wrap around dress's and skirts and I don't buy anything sleeveless I look more for short, 3/4 sleeve, and long. I'm okay with buttons seeing how I just leave a few undone at the top sop I can just slip it on over my head. Like others have said I like more solids and I'm just kinda a plain jane girl............  Smile  

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(@leainvancouver)
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I’m tall and thin so I avoid pencil skirts that emphasize my skinniness. I like to wear clingy tops with flouncy poofed up skirts and dresses that widen my hips and show a bit less leg. I feel more feminine and fit in better. 

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I have one asymmetrical hem dress which is nice but i'm not crazy about the style and won't buy any more. Also don't like peplum style outfits at all. I stay away from pencil skirts because I don't tuck. I don't like the feeling of clothing rubbing on my (sensitive) neck so turtlenecks and high neck dresses & tops are out.

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I generally shy away from anything that shows too much skin. trust me, no one wants to see a 60 plus year old in a halter top and mini skirt. Unless she has an exceptionally good-looking body and the skin to go with it.  The fact is that very few do. You will quickly feel the scorn of other women and the snicker of men and kids if you push this beyond your capabilities.

Other than that, if it fits and still looks good, I may try to wear it. Some things are just fun to wear. However certain styles aren't for everyone. I knew this dressing as a man and women know this as well. I recently walked an entire Mall and actually looked hard at many pieces but couldn't find anything worth trying on. It was all just way too young for me. Oh, if I had been 20 something I could have had a trunk load of really cute things.  

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Interesting topic. Loved reading the replies.

For myself I would have to say it is a bit of a mix. I like the classic look which is most of the dresses I wear, although I do have a few that are more casual. I have a couple of sun dresses with handkerchief hems that are fun to wear. I have one Aline skirt and 3 pleated skirts that are mid calf. Most of my tops are pull over but I do have some button blouses. I really like peasant tops with puffy sleeves or looses sleeves. I also prefer 3/4 or full sleeves as I don't shave my arms. I also have leggings, jeans and dress slacks that I wear on occasion but not very often. I only dress at home so don't worry about what others think but wear what I think would be okay if I were to go out. My wife says if I'm going to dress I should look pretty so her stamp of approval helps in deciding what to wear.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@lea-jhene)
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I've been thinking about my sense of fashion lately for a very practical reason.

My side of the closet is bursting, trying to hold in my male and feminine items. A metaphor - like a tiny low cut bra for very mature breasts.

I love thrift shopping and almost always find something to both support the local businesses and to reward myself for a few hours out. Adding and not subtracting items, I'm lucky to have a lot of wonderful things for all sorts of role playing dressing up alone adventures. The problem is the lack of space.

I started trying to clean up my closet a few weeks ago. It got me thinking...if I was practical, I should only keep things I'd wear out and things that fit or are close to fitting.

If my wife ever understands my need to wear a dress, she definitely wouldn't understand my need to have so many dresses, almost as many as hers, yet many of mine are just impractical.

My dilemma is that I don't shop and keep thinking of fashion dos and don'ts. Everything looks pretty, everything is to reinforce that my fem side is alive and well.

Example, I have 40 bras, 3-4 worn daily, 3-4 monthly, and the rest pretty little things for a hopeful day that probably never come... being a full-time CD. They're all so fem, I hate to get rid of any of them. A women's fashion blog suggested that a woman only needs 5-6 good bras. My wife has 5-6 good bras. Yet I have 40.

I started sorting my fem closet into things I'd dare wear outside. I still don't see the light though.

Back to my own don'ts...

  • No cheeky shorts for me, don't want to look like a CD who is a perv showing off things
  • No stripper heels with the glass platforms (just not sexy to me, daily and formal heels are sexy to me)
  • No tiny undies where things fall out
  • No clogs, something reminds me of too many decades ago
  • No jeans where most of the leg is cut out
  • No on frilly blouses
  • No on nude pantyhose with open toe sandals, my hairy legs look better
  • No on anything teen brands and styles
  • No on 2-piece suits, a dress or jumpsuit and jacket looks much better
  • No on most facial makeup
  • No on wearing rings
  • No on "too much" skin

When I do venture out dressed, my dos are always...

  1. Dress to look like I'm a guy wearing feminine things neck-down
  2. Dress cute
  3. Dress to fit in for the day, time, weather, setting
  4. Dress to be somewhat comfortable
  5. Dress in case I have to defend myself (fear of creepy people out there) (heels can be defensive.. lol)
  6. Carry extra gut clothes in case of emergency or my wife getting back home before I do

Thanks for starting this topic, it was very introspecting.

 

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Posted by: @lea-jhene

 

  1. Dress to look like I'm a guy wearing feminine things neck-down

Interesting.

 

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