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Styles for Growing Out Natural Hair

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(@canadianeagle97)
Trusted Member     North Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 10 months ago

I’ve been thinking about the idea of growing my hair out longer. I used to have shoulder length hair as a pre-teen (and actually got confused as a girl more than a few times ironically enough) but have been fairly clean cut all through my 20s. 

The past month or so I’ve sort of… subconsciously, put off going to the barber and let my hair grow out a little bit. I still generally have it in the same style right now but it’s definitely gone past where I would normally schedule a haircut. My wife has always been more in support of the clean cut look since I met her, but today I asked her how she felt about how my hair is looking now that its a little longer than it normally would be and she surprisingly said she’s coming around on it! 

She’s still very much getting used to the idea of there being a femme side to me so I’ve been careful not to push things on her and had already decided that if she really wanted me to, I would get it cut. So I was pretty thrilled to hear her change of heart! 

Are there others out there that have let their natural hair grow out? And if so, what kind of styles do you use for both your male and female sides? Even though my wife may be okay with it, I do need to still have a somewhat tidy looking male side for the day to day and going to work! 

- Bella

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Managing Ambassador
(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3855

@canadianeagle97 

I was clean cut when I started letting my hair grow out 3 years ago.  It's now down to mid-back.  I'll let it grow another few inches and then maintain that length.  I love long hair!

I never tried maintaining a style that worked for male and female because I'm trans.  But in the early going, I just looked like a guy that had longish hair.  I got a few unflattering comments from some guys at work.  All the gals loved it.  HR and the front office were totally cool.  Nobody has said anything negative about my appearance in well over a year.  Boy mode is pretty much impossible at this point.  I don't even try.  I work for a fairly conservative government agency in California.

I know I haven't exactly answered your question.  If I were you, I'd let it grow.  It's 2024.  Most people don't care.  Tons of guys have long hair.  You can put it into a ponytail if there's safety issues or you want to look more masculine.  Assuming your dress code doesn't explicitly prohibit it, you should be good with little fuss.

/EA

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(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5210

@canadianeagle97 

Hi Bella

I'm actively growing my hair out at the moment. It will be approaching shoulder length by early autumn, and that's from a starting point of very short style last summer. I'm taking early retirement from July, and from that point I will have increasing opportunities to go out and about as Ellie. When I do that I would prefer to sport a natural long hairstyle rather than a wig.

What I'm aiming for (and now beginning to achieve) is shoulder-length hair that I can style in boy-mode or girl-mode depending on the occasion.

You might be interested in the replies I got to my own Forum post six months ago, when I also asked our girls for potential hairstyle suggestions:

https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/community/help-crossdressing-fashion-beauty-and-makeup/my-hair-needs-your-help/#post-450188

I've really enjoyed the process, though your hair will go through some 'awkward stages' en route to its final destination. My hairdresser (who has long hair of his own) worked out a sequence of intermediate styles to get me through that!

Ellie x

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Lady
(@margprodue)
Noble Member     Madison, Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Bella,  I've always had longer than average hair but during covid I just stopped cutting it altogether.  Now I keep it about half way down my chest and get the ends cut about every 8 months.  Each day I usually put it up in a ponytail or pull it through the back of my baseball cap and then go about my daily work.  If I feel like letting my hair down (literally), I just blow it all out after a shampoo and end up looking like Dyan Cannon.  Conversely, when I want to look very businesslike, I slick it down tightly and then put it in a very tight ponytail that I tuck under my collar.  I'm intersex so people read whatever they want when they meet me and I couldn't care less.  Long hair is a lot more work but if I like my hair then it's going to be a good day.  Good luck with yours.  Marg 

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Duchess
(@emilysouthern)
Reputable Member     Fayetteville, Arkansas, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

A timely topic for me.  I have been growing mine out since late summer last year.  (wish i had wrote down my start date)  Currently now down about 3 or 4 inches below my neck in length.  I hope to get it down to mid back and then work up the courage to get it styled with a slight trim in a feminine look.

Currently, i tie it back with a scrunchie, and tuck it under a ball cap to avoid any awkward questions from friends & neighbors, similar to Marg, and may go her route putting the ponytail thru the back of the cap.  A bonus is.. with a wig currently, i push the tied hair up under the back of the wig which makes a great anchor for it.

I have the same plan as Ellie for the future of my natural hair.  Very best of luck with it Bella, & so nice & encouraging to hear about your wife's take on it.

Emily  

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