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So as I mentioned in another post, I am starting to take my first baby steps outside my front door in less masculine attire. My man mode usual has been biz causal slacks, button down shirt and cowboy boots for work and jeans, button down Oxford shirt or untucked Hawaiian shirt and cowboy boots or sneakers for casual. I took the huge leap for me of wearing subtly women’s (skinny leg butt lifter) jeans and androgynous women’s flats / loafers out in the world (but only to places I would never see anyone I knew and were LGBTQ ish friendly). I am starting to realize no one pays any attention to me unless I have a flashing police beacon on my head, lol. So… next step… a shirt/ top or dare I say blouse that while not screaming “this man is in women’s clothes” is also a bit less in the mode of my masculine uniform. With the cooler weather I have been considering a women’s pull over sweater Ada button down blouse? (I wear a men’s 20” neck x 34” sleeve shirt so finding anything in women’s fashions is a challenge, think the Incredible Hulk shopping in the ladies dept) Any suggestions for my next step up the fashion ladder(or down the rabbit hole) are appreciated! 💋💋
@sailor2000 Megan, good for you hun. Down the rabbit hole is a perfect description for what us girls get up to! xx.
@sailor2000 Megan, one thing I did as I was getting out as Cassie more and more was at the last place I came fully out, my Church.
For about a year I wore black flats, black pants, black blazer and a nice top/blouse. The look was not far off a men's suit. That is how I was dressed at my granddaughter's confirmation. Of course this was without a bra and forms.
These days I have moved on to FULLY fem mode. As for me I have had NO problems.
Best of luck to you in your own fem adventures.
Cassie
@sailor2000 I did much the same thing at first, wearing fairly ambiguous sweaters, jeans and slacks, often with a bra underneath. There came a turning point when I felt more comfortable/less self conscious presenting fully en femme, at least compared with lets call it a hybrid appearance.
Two women's tops I found easy to wear are tunic tops and Columbia shirts. They look a lot like men's shirts with reversed buttons and just a bit more room in the best
In drab mode, I wear a lot of Nepalese clothes which are designed to be unisex. Some of them have even found use on a femme day. I live just over an hour's drive from Glastonbury and there are plenty of shops which sell such things.
While in Africa I bought a brightly colored tribal style caftan. While it is meant for women, it is not far off styles worn by men in certain areas. They make a skirt of similar style and color that men do wear, so I wife was fine with me wearing it evenings to communal dinners at some of the lodges and camps where we stayed. One woman from Namibia asked about it and I just relied it was a caftan and she went on to tell me a story about how she aquired a similar " dress". No judgement, just that she had a similar garment.
