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Today and the Future

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Lady
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(@rockcdfan)
Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

Wanted to do a quick post. I have enjoyed reading so many posts and thought to add to the community discussions.

Where I am today and What my plans are for the future related to fashion, clothes, makeup, etc.

 

Before you judge me, I will say that I am a patient shopper and buy most of my stuff on clearance...many of my dresses cost less than $10 or $10-20. 🙂

 

Today (My three-ish year journey)

I have:

100 dresses (wow, I had no idea until I counted right now - size 14 - two closets full!!!)

14 skirts (mostly plaid)

11 blouses

10 cute nighty things that I can wear at night to bed

3 shrugs (gotta stay modest and cover those shoulders right girls...LOL... no really they are for covering the breast form lines)

13 pairs of shoes (6 heels - size 12)

24 bras

7 wigs

Other Clothing items that I never wear (6 pairs of yoga pants - never been used...LOL)

5 pairs of cateye glasses (I only wear cateye! I have bought probably 30 pairs of glasses over the years and landed on large frame cat eye as my fav)

Tons of accessories (tiaras, bracelets, at least 10 pearl bracelets, at least 5 pearl necklaces, earrings, garters, too many pantyhose to count, etc.)

A very small bag of makeup

No Nails stuff 🙁

 

 

Future?

Where does it go from here? What have I found that I like and what don't I like.

I will definitely never buy yoga pants again. I like the feel but dresses are my jam!

I think Im done buying Bras. I love lace bras but I have every color so there is really no where to go in that department.

I have two pairs of heels that will have to eventually be replaced but I'm in a good place with heels.

Good on Shrugs...once you get black, white, and gray, you are really covered for any outfit.

More than enough nighty type things. Honestly don't hardly wear them.

I rarely wear blouses and skirts but will purchase something cute on Clearance, obviously

Dresses - Yes. I am addicted to dresses...mini, midi, maxi, formal, work-attire, casual, lowcut, highcut, etc. etc. I am really exploring designers now. I have a lot of work-related Calvin Klein dresses that I like to put on when Im working. I have too many mini's and not as many maxis. I have a few formals and I love shopping for formal dresses right after prom season!!!

I need more choker necklaces to hide that obvious breatform lines at the neck level.

I would love to explore easy sticker nails and I need to level up that bag of makeup.

Do I start throwing stuff away or just get another wardrobe?!? Life is full of hard choices...LOL!

 

Just wanted to share the wildness of my closet. Its been an amazing journey of self-discovery and I'm looking forward to reporting back maybe in a year on where I am...(will I hit that 200 dress count...LOL)

 

Hope you girls have a wonderful Christmas and get yourself something pretty!

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Duchess
(@jennconn)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
Posts: 760

@rockcdfan Nikki, I can say a few things.  I’m so impressed with your shopping.  You need to write a crossdressers guide to buying pretty clothes and other things at discount prices.  The other thing is that if you have all this stuff, why not wear it.  It’s no fun watching things in your closet and counting them, but go ahead and put it on, at least one more time before you make that fatal clothing decision to get rid of it.  You might surprise yourself at how much fun it is changing and looking at various outfits.  I’ve bought a bunch of things that I wasn’t sure I’d ever wear again, and I’ve revisited most of them and decided after accessorizing them to keep most of them.  

Lastly, take some photos of yourself wearing each and every thing that you want to get rid of.  It’ll be fun and you might find out that some of it looks better than you thought.

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@jennconn I definitely have a lot of pictures of me in almost every dress. I will often take a photo at the store first and then revisit the various pictures before I pull the trigger and buy something. 

A lot is experimenting on cuts and patterns and such for me and I am very into dressing for my mood.

I totally agree that you have to try it on again before you get rid of it, probably why I have never donated anything. Yes, even the yoga pants won't ever get donated.

I actually have almost duplicated a few dresses...thats one of the reasons why I take a picture of everything, so I can go back and make sure I don't accidentally buy the same dress again. I have 100s of pictures of me matching wigs to dresses, etc. Sooooo fun!

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Lady
(@emily2626)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Louisiana, United States of America
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@rockcdfan I think that my Emily wardrobe is way more extensive than most women's.  Especially my make up!  I recently starting using Dibs makeup.  So easy and fun!

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@emily2626 I'm getting there too! I have never heard of dibs...I did a quick Google search and it looks like it's meant for easy application...I need more of that. I will check it out. Thanks for the advice.

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Lady
(@emily2626)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Posts: 39

@rockcdfan very quick and easy especially for contouring which we all know is so important for us!

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
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@rockcdfan I love dressed too but have maybe 15.....I certainly need more.   I like the idea of getting into designers.  I would rather pay more for something I love than buy a few lower cost items that are a compromise.   I'm looking at end of year sales from DVF and Lilly Pulitzer and they both have some dresses that I love.   I can see Lauren getting at least one nice dress for Christmas.....

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
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Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@lauren114 Love that! Plus when you go with designers, their fit is more consistent across their brand...I am a 12 in some brands, a 14 in other brands. Most of the time I am an XL but often can be a large or medium depending on the designer. When I find a designer that has a print style that I love and a cut that I love, I can dial in the size and be more confident to buy without having to try on a range of sizes.

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@lauren114 Also, why not have both. Get something you love for a low cost. I love Calvin Klein for the office look and their dresses are like $50-60+. I have so many and the size is so exact, that I can bargain shop and be patient and have found some for as little as $25. 

Definitely dont compromise but be patient and the deals can be found.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

I don't have anywhere near that amount of stuff...but male me did buy Becca a car Shock , so dollar for dollar, we are probably pretty much equal  

Becca

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
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Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@rebeccabaxter Nice! That fancy! You got to spoil yourself!

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Wow must say what a collection all mine fits in a tote lol 😂 thank you for sharing with use 

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@erinb Actually I think for 10 years I had a few outfits and some panties in a backpack...long before I came out to my wife and started doing this overtly.

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Lady
Topic starter
(@rockcdfan)
Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

I started out the exact same way! Got to start somewhere. Slowly work your collection up.

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1171

@rockcdfan been my collection for over 20 years also might have to do I don’t have an support nor unfortunately I’m unable to dress I usually only get a half dozen times if I’m lucky a month sometimes I go months with out dressing way the world works in this presents 

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Lady
(@gardie62)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Chestertown, Maryland, United States of America
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@erinb

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@erinb thats a shame, you have such a flattering figure...those legs are made for this life!

I have small kids so often dressing at home is tough even though my wife knows. I will take opportunities while driving home to stop at some of my favorite department stores and try on a few bras and dresses when the need arises!

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
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@rockcdfan understand indeed at times I sneak away for a let night dressing session but only for a few moments unfortunately 

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Nikki -

Wow that is quite the wardrobe you have. 

It's funny that you mention yoga pants. I have 3 pair of yoga pants/leggings that I wear on occasion, mostly cooler weather. I've worn them in the backyard in the very early morning when I take the dog out, kind of bends the agreement with my wife to not dress outside the house (she doesn't know that I do that). Sometimes it's better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission - at least it isn't a dress or skirt. I also have slacks and jeans that I don't wear. I think sometimes about getting rid of them to make room for more dresses and skirts but then stop figuring that if I am able to get out of the house dressed they would be the first things I would wear out. I figure they would be less noticeable, kind of an androgynous look.

I bet it would be fun to have your own fashion show changing in and out of outfits checking yourself in the mirror. Enjoy your full closet and remember a girl can never have too many dresses.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@cdsue Fashion show sounds amazing! I generally pick an outfit and longue in it, but doing a fun fashion show sounds really fun. 

Yoga pants idea stepping out of the house is interesting. If someone did see me from my backyard, it would be from afar and they would look more like a Capri type pants. I actually have seen men in public wearing these Capri type jeans. Thanks for those thoughts!

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
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Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
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@rockcdfan you're welcome - sometimes we have to be a bit inventive - good luck

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I make a very concerted effort not to buy much. It is just too easy to buy things, but not have much oppurtunity to wear them. Plus, while my wife is wonderful and never complains, I do not want to push it. She has never said anything about the half dozen or so dresses hanging on my side of the closet, she certainly would if I had 100, or even twenty. Most importantly, I do not want to get caught up in our consumer society were we consume way more then we should. It may be small, but it all has impacts on the planet, so we need to think a little bit about our over all consumption, not just the dresses or pretty panties we buy. I can not wear out the dresses I have, so I try not to buy more.

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
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Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@jjandme Love that thought! My wife freaked out on me years ago when I had bought 4-5 dresses. Overtime she is more accepting but I can see that concept of not pushing it. 

Im getting to that point when I am out shopping that I hold back more with buying something new...probably less about the impact on the planet but that is a good call out... and more on your other comment where its hard to get around to wearing all of the clothes.

Before I started to explore this side of myself, I often didnt understand why women could buy so much clothing and then a year or two later, donating it and start over... It seemed insane to a closet crossdresser (at the time) who would have held on to one of those items and cherished it so much.

For me, as Ive gotten more into fashion and styles and my taste has evolved, I understand more. I get that concept that women go through when new styles replace old ones.

I think your comment has really made me think about some of my original dresses that are more around for a memento than will probably ever get worn. I think that I will donate a few. A nice thing about donation is that it positively affects the world (to counteract the impact on the planet). Think about the impact that these dresses will have on someone in the community who can buy something nice at a low price...often, unsold clothing is donated to 3rd world country or donated to a woman's shelter. 

Thanks for the post, got me thinking! 

 

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 Leah
Baroness
(@leah63)
Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

 I figure i have about a 2 dozen dresses and pencil skirts, 30+ tops , 20 bras and far too many pairs of panties and lots of lace top stockings, 3 wigs, 3 pairs of heels and lots of makeup and perfume

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@leah63 Perfume! Dang I never considered getting perfume. Whats your favorite.

"far too many pairs of panties" - that resonates with me! LOL

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 Leah
Baroness
(@leah63)
Joined: 7 years ago

Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
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@rockcdfan   I love Hanae Mori and Armani code perfyme

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 J J
Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Not to rain on anybody's parade, but donating clothes, and over consumption, still have major impacts. A lot, if not most donated items still end up in a landfill. Fast fashion has a massive impact and more and more cheap clothes are being discarded. Even good quality items resold often mean that what ever it replaced ended up in a dump.

I am not saying we can't have nice things, but we do need to think about our purchases both now, and how they effect the future. 

...and JJ steps off her soapbox.

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@jjandme I can completely agree that it is really sad that so much does end up in the landfill or incinerated... donation is the way to go as a general message. I have volunteered at donation centers and can tell you that most items get shipped to third world countries or recycled and there is an effort to put the least amount as possible in the waste bin. 

Its interesting that we all approach the environment differently and have different perspectives. It the same with Crossdressing. We each see ourselves exploring ourselves and what is important and our experiences are unique and the same, at the same time. And that contradiction can exist and be celebrated.

This original post for me was about who I was, who I am, and who I will yet become. I think we all are on that journey of the discovery of self and its so interwoven with our own ideals, biases, opinions, experiences, failures, successes, etc. 

This forum has allowed me to celebrate life in such a new way and life is beautiful!

Keep commenting and chatting!

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

I am a dress fan too although there are skirts and tops, I am also a sucker for a bargain too.

My rule is that it has to be worn and being a lucky girl dressing daily helps achieve that goal. There are favorites that have been worn multiple times and are well looked after and some about ten years old or more.

If I have a clearance the clothes are donated and are in good condition so do get on the rails. If the charity stores have unwanted items they send on for rags which are shredded and recycled, it's an ethical approach.

I fear counting my items and know I have too much as do many women. Some of my friends have clothes bought a while ago which still have the store tags in them.

I will always say that as we are late into the buying game we have a lot of time too catch up on so shouldn't feel too guilty.

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@ab123 That's a great post! Thanks for sharing. Im chatting on a different thread about donations and I am convinced! I love that idea.

I agree that they need to be worn and I am a little jealous that you dress daily. I am a once/week (but moving to a few times/week). 

I have had a few dresses that kept the tags on for some time, but its usually because I forgot that I bought them. 

I completely agree that we have a lot of catching up to do! Thanks!

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Duchess
(@michellemybell)
Noble Member     Clearwater, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

It appears that we are the same size in both clothing and shoes so feel free to donate to me.  Just kidding, shopping is half the fun and space, not funds, is my limiting constraint.  

Reading your post I couldn’t help but start humming the twelve days of Christmas.  You know, four lacy panties, three sparkly brackets, etc.

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