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The idea of femininity is dramatically shaped by a mix of stereotypes that come from upbringing, moral and religious dictates, fashion images, and marketing. Perhaps you will be surprised to focus on the fact that it is generally males who define “what is female” and they usually do so simply by saying that it is the opposite or the opposite of being a man.
There are two dimensions that are used to define a woman as “very feminine”: the eroticization of attitudes (cleavage, extensive exposed body skin parts, flowing hair) and meekness (lots of looks and few words). Basically, for men, winking, comely and quiet women who immediately ignite fantasies and desire are feminine
Have you ever wondered, my dear sisters, “How feminine do you feel?” ...
“What compliments do you usually make or express in the secret of your mind about other women, about their forms, style and attitudes, sophistication in dress or makeup?”
@sandf hi Sandy. Ever since I started crossdressing, I look at women completely differently. I find myself more and more looking at what they are wearing and wondering if it would look good on me, or thinking how lucky they are to be that woman walking around looking so nice. When I’m dressed and I’m looking at myself in the mirror, I sometimes have that same feeling, but only when I think I’m having a particularly nice female looking day, which doesn’t come around that often. When I really like what I see, I see a woman staring back at me, and I feel completely like a woman.
@sandf Hey Sandy. I've posted about this before, but I've played in a band for 28 years. We mostly play weddings. I always find myself completely distracted by all the gorgeous dresses and heels on display. I've seen girls here observing that women today just don't tend to dress feminine any more but boy do they at weddings.
I mean there I am trying to concentrate on the music but my girly half is constantly in my ear saying I would so wear that dress, or, love those killer heels. Luckily my musical skills are up to it and can cope. My crossdressing skills probably not so much. Couple of gorgeous pics btw xx.
@sandf I have experienced a number of times when for varying reasons, I felt feminine. It always gave me an amazing sense of euphoria when it happened. As time has gone on and I have delved much deeper into femininity, I have realized more and more that I have a lot to learn about actually being the full spectrum woman I want to be.
I look at other women for their fashion and style. Watching women there are nuances that can be copied to improve my deportment. Any woman can have style and not meaning they are dressed to the nines. It's simple things about co ordination and a little thought in what and how they wear something and knowing what looks good on them whatever they are doing. I like that and try to wear nice things well.
Truthfully, I feel feminine all the time, because it's who I am and who I've always been.
XO Shawna
I am like Shawna, I have always felt, from a very young age, that I was supposed to be a woman. The feeling always felt completely natural, and two years ago I was informed by a doctor that I am, in fact, a woman! I am an intersex person, assigned male at birth because the medical profession didn't know what to do with babies like I was born. My hormones, DNA and chromosomes tell a different story, best said by the doctor herself when she o\placed her hand on my knee and said, "Lauren, you came in identifying as a transgender woman, but I'm here to tell you something else, you are a woman!"
How I have always felt, is what it means to be a feminine woman, and nobody can take that amazing feeling away!
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
This is an extremely complex issue that blends, genetics, sexuality, gender and attitude. There is a wide range of expression in each of those, and a certain amount of mix and match. For myself, I am 99% in the attitude group. When I am dressed I feel feminine, but never like a genetic woman.
I enjoy expressing femininity when I am dressed, but am still male. I love to emulate the look of women especially the curves and it is pretty much all about outward appearence since inwardly I feel mostly male.
I hate to be redundant, but I also look at what women are wearing. If I see a nicely dressed attractive woman, I envy her. As for when I felt most feminine was a couple weeks ago. I was just finishing getting my make up together, and my wife said I look "lovely." I almost melted on the spot!
Jules
I don't feel feminine. I might, as I have no idea what feeling feminine is like, but I'm not feminine. How I look doesn't change me other than it giving me confidence.
I look at women and take fashion notes. I will often try and emulate looks that I see. Whilst out today, I saw a young woman in a short skirt, a really nice red jumper, and the mist amazing pair of pink mid calf length boots I have ever seen. a two inch heel finished them off perfectly. She looked amazing. Sadly, I'll never find the boots in my size, but the rest of it is easily copyable. I probably already have the clothes to clone the look, or get very similar. The big problem is that she as in her early to mid 20s, I'm in my late 50s!!!!! 🙁 I might be able to copy her clothing, but I'll never look like her 🙁
When I look in the mirror and see Cerys looking back at me, I don't feel feminine. I get a sense of pride for the creation that I have created. Cerys is a creation. Every day is a new creation. I see a stylish, smart woman looking back.... Sometimes I see a street walker, or other such lady, but that's purely for fun and home use 😉 This stylish person that looks back at me is full of confidence. She can take on the world. Nothing fazes her. This isn't me, or at least not the normal me. Cerys is an alternate version of me. The same person but with a more confident persona. I still act, talk and walk the same. Maybe that's what femininity is, a confident person, ready to take on the world.
I am, and will always be a man in a dress.
Cerys
