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Looking for some advice for different outfits to wear for a first time out
@carmendelacruiz cool,if it were me id probably wear either a skirt, blouse or a party dress with tall heels on both. hugs.
It depends on a lot of things. Are you going alone, with friends, SO, etc? Are you naturally confident in dressing en femme? I understand you are planning to go to a club. Is the club a place that is friendly to CD's and/or trans people? Will you be going straight to the club or be moving about in public as you make your way there?
I'm naturally shy and reserved but I've been going out for about a year and a half now with friends and my wife to many sites and venues all around Atlanta where we interact with the general public all the time. My first time out was just to a CD group meeting followed by a restaurant for lunch. I opted to wear a conservative pinafore style dress and boots. Obviously, this is not what you'd want to wear to a club. For me, I felt totally feminine but in a way that didn't draw much (if any) attention from the general public. As I continued to go out and realize that there wasn't going to be an angry mob chasing after me I began to evolve my style. I still opt for a more conservative look but my hem line has shortened a bit and my color and style choices have become more emboldened. I knew my first time out would not be my last so for me a gradual progression has been occuring all along.
If it were me, I'd certainly wear a club appropriate outfit. You should already know something about the club to help guide your selection. For your first time out focus on feeling feminine and confident but in a way that doesn't overly attract attention. That way you won't be put on nerve with anything more than the experience itself. On the other hand, if you are already really confident maybe you don't mind, or you even want the attention. If so, go for it. Lastly, if you have the luxury of asking a lady you trust for advice that would be a huge bonus. I have a super supportive wife who helps me all the way. She is more than happy to tell me when something doesn't look right and when it does.
Best of luck to you.
@carmendelacruiz The best outfit is the one you are comfortable in for the first outing. It should be consistent with where you are going.
Don't wear a short dress/skirt with hose/heels to the mall. Unless you really want attention. Dress like all the other women do. Be one of them and enjoy your outing. Don't spend your time asking yourself if you are being READ by everyone.
Also, be confident! Don't look around at everyone to see if they are looking at you. Just go about your business. After you get a few outings in then spice it up if you're comfortable doing so.
Wear something that will make you feel comfortable and confident. You may want an A line or swing skirt (or the skirt of the dress) to feel the skirt swish as you dance. Don't make it so short that you are trying to tug it down all the time.
My advice to you is choose something nice but not risqué. Try to look classy both in your outfit and with your makeup. I recommend that you wear shoes that you can walk in easily. High heels are lovely but if you cannot walk confidently in them, you won’t be convincing and you won’t have much fun. You go girl!
The best suggestion that I can offer is to wear something comfortable and suited to what you plan to do. There will probably be anxiety and the last thing you will want to do is add to it by standing out. Still, you can focus on femininity. My first time out, I wore a bulky sweater, leggings and booties. I'm sure I didn't pass on close scrutiny, but my look didn't demand scrutiny. I did feel cute and in touch with my female side.
Have a great experience! It really is an amazing experience.
A club? first time out? You're braver than me! But I'd wear a nice cocktail or club style dress with a hemline about mid-thigh. A nice LBD is always a good go to! Shoes that match but are comfortable and easy for you to walk in. Maybe pumps or sandals with a heel height that works for you!
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It depends on if you want to blend in or stand out. Both have their place. I tend to try to blend in and not be obvious, but the whole point of the club scene is to stand out in the crowd, so going bold is a reasonable option, just know if you draw attention to yourself people will notice and likely clock you.
Carmen I think it depends on your confidence level and what I’m trying to accomplish. If I was nervous I would wear pants and conservative shoes. If you are looking for the dream club outfit it’s obviously something rather different. Im a bit of a nervous Nelly so I find myself going back to my safety blanket, jeans, bodysuit, cardigan and boots.
I would definitely agree that you should wear something that makes you feel good about yourself, something that gives you confidence and that matches your level of confidence. A club gives you a huge variety of possibilities from very conservative and casual to sexy and showy. Personally, at my age, sexy isn't something that I can pull off so I go for something that makes me feel feminine and good about myself. A flowery dress or a skirt and blouse or even wide leg flowing pants with a blouse. Be sure to pair whatever you wear with shoes that are both good looking AND comfortable, especially if you are going to want to dance.
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Much love,
April ❤️
For my first club visit, I wore a nice A line floral dress with a black jacket to keep me warm between car and club and dark stockings. When I was in the club it was quite warm so there was no need to keep the jacket on. But it was so nice dancing in the dress especially as the A line flares out as you spin. With heels on I was a little more conservative in my dance moves than I might have been dancing at home in the lounge or kitchen but it still felt incredibly nice. I also recommend that you take a handbag that has a little bit of room in it for some make up essentials and a brush as well as purse, phone etc, I noticed that after a few dances and a little bit of perspiration I did need a little touch up of the hair and make up in the ladies room to be back to my best. Whatever you decide to wear enjoy yourself you deserve it
thank you lady’s for all your advice and help it’s well noted hopefully it will be a great experience!😊
Wear something that you have proven to work at home and that you would feel comfortable being seen wearing. Try to blend in with the crowd, so that you don't draw undue attention.
Carmen, if I follow you are going clubbing, not shopping or to church : )
Your photo of "Friday Night Outfit" is smoking hot. But if you would like a little lower profile, maybe consider a little longer skirt, which would also be more comfortable sitting, getting in and out of car, etc : )
