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Good grief!
Just now, I came across this topic's title in The Independent. It is from a woman who is giving up wearing feminine clothes and using make-up, trying not to live up to the expectations of men.
Why I’ve stopped wearing women’s clothes – and you should try it, too, by Lauren Bulla.
I can understand not wanting to use make-up, Lauren, but can I have first dibbs on your clothes?
I think women should all revolt against wearing feminine clothes and insist that men wear them instead. Let the men see how it feels to have to wear makeup and care for long hair, shave themselves smooth, let their nails grow and keep them polished. Let them see how it feels to wear heels and have us stare at their breasts and treat them like sex objects. A man should look forward to his wedding day when he gets to be the center of attention and have everyone comment how beautiful he looks in his gorgeous wedding gown.
See Harriette, this type of attitude from that article you cite is one of the reasons why I crossdress. Even GG’s don’t want to be full time women anymore!🤣 And yet another shining example of women wearing whatever they please with zero repercussions on their choices. Total double standard for us.
Ah, but then again - life’s not fair. And if every man could dress like a woman with no repercussions - we’d have a lot more sisters wouldn’t we? Then the question would arise for me…”Do I still want to do this if everyone’s doing it now?” Knowing myself, probably not.
On the plus side, there is a heckuva lot more androgynous and unisex stuff we can get for our underdressing days when we don’t feel like “wearing women’s clothes” either🥰 There’s always a silver lining.
GP
I think this Lauren Bulla hasn't really understood her own sex. True, women sometimes dress and wear makeup for men but IMHO, I think most of the time they dress well for themselves and other women. Let's face it, while men like a well-dressed and sexy woman, it's probably not a deal breaker, sex-wise, if they aren't looking their best. For some men, if she 'puts out' she could wear a bin bag. There are women in my village who wear joggers and a jumper, they are overweight, have bad teeth and lank hair--they also drag 5 kids around with them, so looks didn't matter to someone!
Becca
Interesting take on this topic. I must admit I can totally relate to the author. I have many days when I just don’t feeling like dressing like a man.😉
Reminds me of when women burned their bras. Then somehow they stopped and everything went back to what it was.
If she feels that way, then do it. I don't feel I'm doing this for anyone but myself. I enjoy expressing my femininity. I enjoy feeling pretty, looking pretty and maybe a little sexy too. I feel good when I do. If she doesn't that's up to her.
It's a fashion, lifestyle call it what you will. She is dressing for herself as are the influencers at the other end of the spectrum who enhance and exude a doll like look. She is doing exactly what the influencers are doing encouraging followers and keep themselves relevant.
To know where fashion lay with women see what is in store for young girls and ladies, this will tell you what is hot or not. Androgyny is not new, remember Uni sex in the 70's? She has masculinised herself but is easily seen as a female and agree perhaps less attractive.
She has a point that she is less likely to be hit on by men but her generation is now 'woke' and perhaps men are more cautious towards women.
If a new generation of crossdressers looked masculine, the stores stopped selling dresses and feminine attire, Victoria secrets go bust then I will worry.
Harriette, it says that I should stop wearing women’s clothes, which I won’t do, then it goes on to say, you should try it too. I think I’ll give wearing women’s clothes a try like it says, I’ve heard it’s lots of fun.
seriously though, why can’t women just try to look nice. It’s so refreshing when I see a GG out dressed up with the full package, makeup heels, and nice dress. There’s nothing wrong with it. But maybe crossdressing as guys is just more accepted that men’s crossdressing is.
I definitely dress for how I want to appear. I don't care what men think as long as they believe I blend in well as just other middle-aged women. I do however care what women think of my look. It doesn't get any better than to get a sincere complement from a woman. Knowing that all the work you have done in learning women's clothing, makeup and mannerisms has reached a point where you are getting positive input from the experts is an enjoyable experience.
For those women who wish to dispose of their femininity and dress more like a male; let them! We will just have to fill the void that they have left behind, doing our best to fill that void with a beautiful expression of our own choice of dressing.
I think it’s sad when I see or hear of a woman giving up on her appearance and desire to look pretty and feminine. It always makes me wonder who or what soured them on wanting to look and feel pretty.
When I hear them say they are done with trying to dress up or impress others, I just see a lack of self esteem and or sense some bitterness on their part. I’m sure they have their reasons and feel justified, but I just personally find it sad. 😕
I gave up wearing male clothes,now I wear my clothes... 🤩
don't have time to read all the fuss about this so here what's happening. since most of you never leave the house after dark. i do. i'm out in the bars till 1 in the morning. no i don't drink. i play pool dressed. everyone here is a guy, believe it or not. so you don't know. young women come up to me and talk to me all the time. they know I'm a guy too, but also a cd. they talk to me because they find me harmless. they tell me how a lot of guys are pigs. probably because they were raised on the internet and porn. no respect for women and they are treated poorly. most women i see carry a knife. they probably dress down so as not to get hit on. most of the time i see a woman dressed sexy is when they are on a date with a guy or with a bunch of women on a girls night out. i think a lot of them date other women because there is less abuse. everywhere i go women seem to love cds. they love it that i can talk about clothes, shoes, pedicures and other women stuff. when have you ever heard a man talk about women stuff? you think its tough being a cd woman, its harder being a real woman. remember they have deeper feelings than a man has.
The Great Female Renunciation?