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(@valentina16)
Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Hi. Finally made it to CDH. Quite excited already. Looking forward to sharing my journey and listening to yours.

Whilst my wardrobe is extending week by week, it is largely for my own personal pleasure. If I go out, I guess I now tend to choose unisex type clothing with underwear which can easily transform in the quietness of my own company. The more I do this, the more I think I appreciate that no-one really cares or notices much these days. It is for me and my own comfort and pleasure. No makeup, the beard would probably not sit well with this, but we'll see. It is the sensation rather than the look which I enjoy, though I do occasionally glance at the mirror as I slow down to pass it by.

My nirvana would be a world where we are totally free without judgement or prejudice to wear and present as we please. Perhaps we are getting closer.

It is my belief that whatever biology construed for us at conception, this only affects physical form not mental outlook. We are unisex (or a-sexual?) between the ears, if you like. I wrote a poem 'One Soul' which I might be tempted to share in full which tries to address/express this. For now though, my world is probably better kept to myself or trusted kindred souls. I hope I have your support on this.

To end my introduction, I will share:

"One paternity, one fraternity, one indifference, one unity, one soul."

Enjoy.

Be comfortable in your own skin.

V.

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2182

@valentina16 

Hi, Valentina, it's a pleasure to welcome you to our unique community.

You'll find everyone is genuinely warm, friendly and helpful, this is why say we're unique and very different from other so-called "social" media.

This is also a very diverse community, in ages, experience and plans but we are accepting and understanding and all love expressing our feminine sides.

Regarding beards and being comfortable in my own skin, I shaved my 40+ year old beard just last September, in preparation for my first public outing at October's Leeds First Friday. Now I won't go back to having one, my male side can accept it, while my female side, Allie, loves it!

I speak about male and female sides but the reality, for me, is that both have now blended to create happy me, whole and complete after denying my feminine side all my adult life.

This community can be life-changing, lots of us will attest to that, how much is up to you 😊.

Enjoy looking around and, if there's anything you need or questions you have, just shout and we'll do our best.

Allie x

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Lady
(@prettytoes)
Joined: 2 months ago

Prominent Member     alfred, Maine, United States of America
Posts: 296

@alexina yes i had a mustache for about 30 years. i shaved it off about 15 years ago. i don't think i'd be a good cd with it. i'm try to look as much like a woman as i possibly can and still be able to switch back to a man when need be.

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@alexina Hi Alexina, I loved your message, thank you. Everyone is welcoming but you have gone the extra mile, thank you.

Re beards, I have my first article (The Mermaid) 'under review' which I understand can take a few days, quite sensibly. I mention in this that I might be quite happy to lose it for the greater cause (weekend away?). Who knows. But for now, it remains.

I am now beginning to realise my manly eyebrows might be more of a problem, losing them!

Take care 

VV

☺️

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4010

@valentina16 Welcome to CDH, Valentine!

That is quite an introduction, Valentine. Interestingly, it just dawned on me that the well chosen Valentine is a gender-neutral name. Valentina is the female form. Well done!

Wearing a beard while crossdressing may not be common, but it is not completely  unheard of, either. A few CDH members sport beards and I have had a moustache since I was probably 18yo. I have also seen one crossdresser on a sidewalk wearing a dress and a 7" beard, too, but only once, so far. For some reason, s/he gave me a wide berth as we passed, even though I was androgynous and wearing breast forms. Oh, well.

There are bound to be quite a few CDs with beards or moustaches who don't go abroad while dressed. My style allows me to get away with it without drawing too many stares, so feel free to experiment and see how much you can do and still stay comfortable.

I'd love to read more of your stories as you grow and get bolder in public.

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@harriette thank you for the nice warm and personal welcome Harriette. My name sort of chose me, but more on that perhaps one day. Looking forward to seeing you around ☺️

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4010

@valentina16 Don't worry, I am here for the long haul.

And to get the most out of CDH, participating in the threads or live chat will help all newcomers, whether with helpful information, support, or just to break out their shells.

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Managing Ambassador
(@bellaz76)
Joined: 4 months ago

Prominent Member     London, Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 351

@valentina16 hello welcome to you, love your post and totally agree with all, would love to hear the poem one day. I hope you love it here as much as I do 😍

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@bellaz76 just sent 2 poems. Enjoy…😎

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(@jessicacynthia)
Joined: 2 months ago

Reputable Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 188

@valentina16 Welcome to CDH.

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1126

@valentina16 

 Welcome from across the pond to CDH, Valentina!

 You are certainly welcome here regardless of where you are in your journey to be you're true self!

 We girls here are compassionate, caring and understanding. We will support and assist you in any way we can. 

 We're about all things feminine here. 

 Browse this site to find friendships, chat, information and answers to your questions. 

 Welcome to the Pink Fog!

 Fran 🥰 

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@gafran Thanks for the welcome Fran ☺️

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1126

@valentina16 

 My pleasure new Sister! 🥰

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1813

@valentina16 Welcome to CDH!

Hugs,

Anna xx

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Lady
(@joannajoy)
Joined: 2 months ago

Reputable Member     British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 204

@valentina16 Hello Valentina!! Welcome here!! You have come to a great place!! Hugs… jo

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@joannajoy Thanks Joanna ☺️

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 Dani
Lady
(@danirost)
Joined: 3 years ago

Estimable Member     Central, Illinois, United States of America
Posts: 177

@valentina16 Long story, I can't completely shave. I have my goatee & stash as thin as possible. When I snap a picture with lipstick on or look in the mirror I don't see the hair, I see the woman behind that. This whole "feeling pretty" is such a new experience for me. I noticed as the guilt and shame get less the "feeling pretty" grows. And yes, I would love it if I could dress how I want and no one would notice or care... Purple Kiss

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@danirost I think we’re getting there. Though of course it would no longer be a ‘stolen apple’ and may then in acceptance lose some of its ‘secret charm’. For now, let’s enjoy the journey!

💚

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(@finallyfiona)
    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

Welcome to CDH Valentina 🙂  Another UK girl here, there are quite a few of us now.  Do jump in and come and chat with us on the forum threads, and there's a live chatroom too.  Looking forward to getting to know you.

Hugs,
Fiona xxx

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@finallyfiona Just getting used to the layout of CDH and saying TY for all the welcome messages ☺️

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Welcome Valentina to CDH nice to meet you such a lovely opening post welcome to this wonderful community to share and be part of you find so much support and guidance inspirational ladys here TC 

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@erinb TY Erin ☺️

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hiya Valentina such a pretty name and so nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. So girl with a wealth of knowledge and experience here to learn from do some looking around and reading of the forums and posts from so many ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on in life.. You know as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. When you become comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Valentina as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here girl there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. So girl when you feel up to it please return to your profile page and fill in some more please as this is how we get to know you better thanks.. Once again girlfriend so nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon.. So say hello any time girlfriend I'm just a row boat ride across the pond from you here in Montana USA he he ..

Stephanie Bass

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@fishingr8 Thanks Steph ☺️

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Duchess
(@joannat)
Reputable Member     Gwynedd, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 months ago

Hi Valentina, and welcome to this community, from another UK girl. Hope you feel at home as you find your way around. It’s a genuinely supportive environment.

Joanna 💕

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@joannat Thanks for the welcome Joanna ☺️

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Valentina,

Welcome to CDH.  It’s nice to meet you.

Alice

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

🍒🍒 Hi. Valentina , 

    Welcome to CDH , I'm so happy to see you here now,!!!!

    I think you find & enjoy all the nice warm supporting people gurls here , I really do..

    Good Luck ,  

   Huggs

   Stephanie 👠 

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(@valentina16)
Joined: 4 weeks ago

Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 772

@stephanieann Thanks for the welcome Stephanie ☺️

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

🍒 🍒  Valentine ,   Your most Welcome ,      Thanks so much 

Good luck ,  enjoy you self ..

Huggs 

Stephanie 👠

 

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