ANGROGENY

In the year that I have lived alone, my Kerri persona has blossomed into a feminine personality who is somewhat of a clothes whore.  She likes sparkly things and has several tops and a a couple dresses that are sparkly.  My male persona is still masculine except for hairless arms and legs.  I definitely have a more live and let live attitude and am not homo or transphobic.  Seeing two girls walking in the mall holding hands doesn’t bother me.  I just wish every body could just give up the trans or homophobia.  If Budweiser wants to use a trans girl to advertise Bud Light, so what?

Hi Stephanie,  In my opinion you are 'right on the money' concerning our dual nature.  The Asian cultures define it as "yin and yang", Native Americans as "Two Spirit", the two-faced Roman God Janus,  and on and on.  Unfortunately,  we are steeped in a culture where such expressions are smothered by guilt and shame.  Which in its own right is a shame since I feel it would be a much better world if more guys would embrace their dual nature's.  Hus, Paulette

After coming out to my wife and the shock had somewhat settled, i was told that Lily is a softer friendlier person. Now i lounge in the house in a miniskirt. She loves us both. Where it goes from here i dont know but im in crossdresser heaven and im taking it slow. I find i am gentler and less competitive as Lily. i am a hetrosexual crossdresser but also a husband, father and grandfather of 13. I find the more I dress, the more i want to.

P a u l e t t e,
Thank you so much for your reply. Dr. Jung spoke of the Anime and Animas, referring to our two natures.
The literature is plentiful explaining and defining what we are going through now when the inferior of the two manifestations start gaining growth & development, and wholeness occurs. In a word , called androgyny
My feminine.nature is occurring later in life and bring treasures unexpected, and greatly appreciated. Just have to " allow "her" to grow, give her love and support. "SHE truly is beautifuy. Embrace her!

Lily. How lovely you have discovered, allowed LILY in your life! Wonderful that you have a supporting wife as well.
The gentler Lily has many things to teach you as you go into being who you always were meant to be. Bravo

Stephanie,

I started dressing fully and going out in public en femme in early May 2022. I was somewhat nervous at first but not as nervous as I anticipated and soon found myself very comfortable when out. I quickly discovered and accepted who I really was and any lingering doubt and guilt disappeared. In the Fall of 2022 I decided to live virtually full time as a woman. I was somewhat surprised by how rapidly this all happened but realized that I never placed any psychological barriers in the way of Fiona's development and growth. The whole process felt natural and I love the way everything turned out.

Fiona. I was equally nervous when I first went out in a skirt and realized that I was confronting thoughts and beliefs that were programmed into me as a male about feminine was weak or being a sissy and anticipating ridicule rejection or worse from my fellow citizens.
turned out to be 99% just faulty beliefs in my own mind. Never had a negative experience never been laughed at rejected ridiculed or bothered in any way and,
now I dress
full time and go just about everywhere with the exception of here and there that I feel still it's important to crossdress as a male! That's how it has developed and it's absolutely marvelous. I wish it that way for you as well

Hi Stephanie

I could (and maybe will) write a very thick book on the subject of  the benefits of fully exploring our femininity. I am a far better person today for doing it. Just admiring my newly painted nails (all 20) and spent the evening getting an outfit together for attending a concert tomorrow with my daughter.

B x

Stephanie

Thanks for this question. I enjoy androgyny. I feel that I need that balance, even though my desire to dress is strong. In fact, I am challenging myself to integrate aspects of my crossdressing into my every day life. I think because I am a designer, and new to fashion and styling (which developed mostly after I fully came out to my SO), that I find it so exciting to shop vintage and thrift stores to put together looks that are totally my own. I also feel excited and confident being in public when I put together something entirely out of women's wear that looks good on my male body. Note: I underdress almost 24x7 but have not yet taken the step of fully dressing in ways to pass as a woman. Maybe later on in my journey when I have enough practice with make-up and foundation wear...?

To address the rest of your question, I have found my attitude about life softening, being more calm and receptive and listening more to my partner and being more sensitive about communications. I do more of the domestic work - dishes, laundry, cleaning, not because I think it is women's work but because it helps our relationship. And when I have the opportunity to dress up while doing domestic work it makes it more enjoyable, so there is that. 😉

Hugs

Evie

To be honest, I am not seeing a change to being more feminine yet. Maybe it is there and I don't see it. Dunno. Maybe my perception of this slow burn is because I crossdress subtly and not obviously in-your-face and any progression is too incremental.

Stephanie,

I don’t dress very often, quite rarely in fact, but I usually wear panties everyday to at least assuage some of anxiety about not dressing more completely or more often. With that all said, I haven’t seen any changes, but then, I usually try to be a nice, sensitive guy who thinks about others feelings and needs. My wife on the other hand, said that since I began cross dressing two years ago, I’ve become more calm and more loving towards her. When I get the opportunity to dress, I do notice that feel calmer, more relaxed and perhaps more in tune with my feminine energy. I pray that I get to dress later this month when things in my life hopefully (🤞🏻) will be done that are taking up my free time and leaving me feeling physically exhausted and very stressed.

And I think Yung was right, embracing our feminine feelings is good for our mental health. The stress and anxiety that I feel on a daily basis can’t be good for me, or for anyone for that matter. Being dressed reduces those negative feelings, leaving me feeling balanced more than at any other time in my life! Great topic! Thank you.

Hugs, Jill

I myself was just talking about this with my sister in law.  The fact that I’ve been going out in public more often while presenting as a man yet wearing makeup, perfume, and women’s clothes but no forms or wig. My feminine side comes out in both modes I’m finding.  As far as the pleasure of crossdressing , I absolutely love it and glad it’s a big part of my life. Did I have all the guilt and shame , why I’d course I did and have grown to accept the fact that this is who I am and it’s not going anyway but rather growing with me. Since coming out to wife and a few others I’ve had support, understanding and even encouragement from some with my crossdressing.

Thank you all for your wonderful replies. Hugs

Hi Stephanie I'm a mature crossdresser, I've hidden it all my life I'm still in the closet to my wife and family,

The odd time's i get to dress always helps me de-stress , it seems like I'm two people in one, a grumpy old man and a stress free woman when I'm all dressed up in a nice dress,

If i was single again then i would live as a woman 24/7 X

Hugs Rozalyn X