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forty something and finally opening up

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(@brycenee24)
Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 months ago

hi everyone, i joined the site a few months ago but haven't been very active since then. To be honest, it's because I wasn't sure for a while if I would stay and I didn't want to make friends only to disappear!

Like so many here, I began dressing pretty young and have gone through the typical purge cycles with clothing. But I've also gone through a few cycles of "digital purge" where I join a site and spend some time there only to then delete my profile and vow to stay away forever. Like my clothing purges; well, that doesn't seem to last 🙂

I feel I'm finally in a really good place in my head with my dressing and embracing this side of me. I've told my wife and she's supportive. Not totally sure where this will all lead yet but I'm confident my days of purges (physical and digital) are over!

While I've been a bit of a wallflower here, I have seen so much kindness and inclusion that has warmed my heart and made me feel like this is definitely a community that I want to invest in. To get - and give - support.

As I've read profiles, articles and so many wonderful posts (and pics) it has surprised me - in a wonderful way - how much diversity there is here.

On one hand, it's great for me to see that there are so many people like me here and that it seems like every feeling I've had about my dressing over the years has been felt many times over by this community. I am not alone.

On the other hand, I am realizing that we are certainly not all the same. And that makes this place so much more interesting!!!

I won't go too much into myself here. I've added some basics on my profile and will add more and start posting more into the forums and adding more pics (public and private) as I get some looks I like.

In a nutshell*, I'm a happily married forty something from California and over the past year or so my decades of dressing has really experienced a cambrian explosion. Having fun but have a lot of learning ahead - makeup, wigs, shoes, nails, clothes, jewelry and so much more are new to me. Dressing is so familiar. It's been with me most of my life. But there is so much more to explore!

More fun exploring with friends.

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Lady
(@joannajoy)
Joined: 2 months ago

Reputable Member     British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 203

@brycenee24  Hello Bryce , it’s great to meet you , feel free to reach out if you might like to chat… blessings… jo

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(@sophie85)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 162

@brycenee24 don't worry about coming and going.  We all get busy and don't always have the time to be our fem alter-egos from time to time.  Life sometimes demands our time and attention and we get it if you get busy.

Glad you are in a good place and have a supportive wife at home.  Having support at home is a huge positive to embracing our feminine alter-egos.

A belated welcome to CDH!  Feel free to reach out at any time if you want to chat.

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(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2178

@brycenee24 

Hi, Bryce and thanks for your introduction. Seeing as you've been a member for a few months, I'll say welcome to the forums.

You're right about the diversity and yet similarities in this community, the acceptance and understanding here can be life-changing. That's speaking as someone whose life has changed enormously for the better in the 11 months I've been a member.

You obviously know your way around now so I'll say, just shout if you need anything or have any questions.

Allie x

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(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1119

@brycenee24 

Welcome to CDH Bryce!

Your in the right place for all things feminine. The girls here represent a vast range of experiences in their feminine journeys. Many will similar stories. 

This is a safe place to experience and express yourself with caring, understanding and compassionate girls like yourself. 

Welcome to the Pink Fog!

Fran 🥰 

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@gafran thanks so much Fran. You're so supportive of everyone here!

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(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1119

@brycenee24 

Your very welcome my dear! 🥰

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3998

@brycenee24 Welcome to CDH, Bryce!

If you you ever get the urge to purge again, think back to this post. Maybe you can talk yourself out of following through with it.

Regardless, we will be here for you.

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

thanks @harriette for the words of wisdom. yes, not saying that the urge to purge will never return but my hope is that they're behind me. these days when I look at my closet I do have the urge to purge some items that I look at and think "what was I ever thinking wearing THAT!?!" 🙂 still lots of work to do but hopefully my wardrobe decisions will keep improving.

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(@reallylauren)
Noble Member     Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
Joined: 3 years ago

Welcome Bryce, so good to have here, welcome to our sisterhood! Happy Woman Face  

Hugs, 

Ms. Lauren M

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@reallylauren thanks so much. really appreciate you making the extra effort to welcome me!

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Good luck with your journey,

I hope you will not go extinct like so many life forms.from the Burgess Shale.

Welcome and enjoy tour time here. Yes, we are a diverse bunch.

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@jjandme some of my looks and experiments should go extinct 🙂 but luckily some experiments turn out great and that's when this whole endeavor really gets fun.

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(@jjennalove2000)
Estimable Member     St Louis area, Missouri, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

Welcome and spend as much time as you want here. No one is judged if you disappear for a bit. I have left for months at a time, but have always been welcomed back in as though I never left. 

Jenna

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@jjennalove2000 thanks for the thoughtful response. yes, not saying that I won't ever disappear for a bit (life does get in the way sometimes) but I do hope that I never feel the urge to purge my profile here. the more I make roots within this great community the harder that will be.

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(@robertaf)
Noble Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Bryce, welcome to CDH. I hope it offers you all that you hope it will.

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@robertaf thank you for the kind wishes. Love your profile. You're an inspiration to us all. all that travel. I'm jealous!

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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Bryce -

Welcome to CDH

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@cdsue thanks for the warm welcome Suzanne!

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(@jessicacynthia)
Reputable Member     London, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 months ago

Welcome to CDH

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@jessicacynthia thanks Jessica. Excited to be here.

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Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Welcome to CDH Bryce nice to meet ya community here you will sure find tones of support guidance and to be able to be you with no judgement TC 

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@erinb thanks erin. the feeling of "no judgement" is so special. there are very few places that ANYONE (CD or not) can find that. special that we have it here together!

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Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1164

@brycenee24 indeed nothing but in courage meant here indeed hope you having a wonderful time here 

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

Hello Bryce, .🎄🎄  So good to meet you, I so glad you joins us,  this is a very good place to be , lots of good nice kind gurls & support here.

Would you like to be Friends , ???

Anytime you like to talk or chat , l lov to Chat 

Huggs 

Stephanie👠

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@stephanieann thanks Stephanie! Friend request on the way!

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(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Bryce nice to meet you and happy you found us and joined the girls here as you have been here for a while we hope you have been looking around and reading the forums and posts here.. Well you know as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Please keep in touch girl as we all love a good old girly chat and congrats on wife being supportive this makes your journey much easier ..

Stephanie Bass

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@fishingr8 thanks so much Stephanie. a supportive wife has been wonderful but, as many of us know, it's still a lot for them to handle. Hearing how others here are navigating those waters is helpful.

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(@fishingr8)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Posts: 6030

@brycenee24 

You are very welcome Bryce and yes I know about a supportive wife have been married for 42 years now and came out to her when we were first married .. We have a lot of fun with it as we cant leave home here where i live but in the home its a lot of Stephanie Time ha ha ..

Stephanie 

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Bryce,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@aliceunderwire thanks alice. I feel so at home here already!

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(@d44)
Famed Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Welcome aboard Bryce!

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
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@d44 thanks Fiona. great to finally be here!

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(@catherine0918)
Prominent Member     Henderson, Nevada, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Bryce!

Welcome to CDH!

I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.

Again, welcome to CDH!

Catherine

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(@brycenee24)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     San Francisco, California, United States of America
Posts: 38

@catherine0918 thanks so much Catherine. I've felt so supported here so far. wish I had found you all sooner!

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